When visiting the Family of your sweetheart

[Freebird]

As wrote above, I never ever had a problem with my one so far. 2 visits without trouble...

No money questions, everythings fine. But she was told the rules by me and she knows it can be over any minute.

So far, my girl seems to be a little different. But I know she doesn't love me, same for me. Fuckbuddies.

Ahm, the clothes, never experienced something like this, was only offered a tshirt from her brother on Songkran... that sounds a little strange...

[Naang Faa]

3. Luggage. I've been advised to bring minimal clothing. That clothes will be available and provided for my use. I find this highly interesting.

Don't fall for that one Si Geena...thats how i got in this mess in the first place
x

[pacman]

Concerning Freebirds last post, I can't help feeling FB is a bit of a special case.

If I have the right girl, I'm sure you wrote she had 3 children, & as nice as she is, it is not common for someone in her position to have a falang BF.

Certainly if the falang is an old man who has bought himself a nurse [yes, I  know there are exceptions] but I gather you are far from being past it.

The rules change a little when she brings you home, the cynical Thais would be curious about your relationship & would be careful with demands so as not to frighten you off.

We are talking about a society where a girl is over the hill at 25, where a single mother isn't prized as the catch of the day.

If you went to any village with the cutest girl they had to offer, one who would be expected to exploit her gifts for financial reward for the benefit of all, then you most certainly would not be given such an easy run.

Obviously you enjoy her company, I just hope she doesn't come out of this with nothing.

Forgive my observations on two people I have not met, I just wouldn't want any member here to be confused by the conflict of opinion arising from your experience.

And Freebird, the best of luck with your relationship, it shows you have some depth of character in not chasing the "stars".

[Freebird]

"If you went to any village with the cutest girl they had to offer, one who would be expected to exploit her gifts for financial reward for the benefit of all, then you most certainly would not be given such an easy run."

That's why Kung's staying with me... guess she ain't the "catch of the day" to most people.

"Obviously you enjoy her company, I just hope she doesn't come out of this with nothing."

Yes, I do. Well, she's making more money than in the bar (she's not asking, I'm giving and it's ok). She's traveling with me and has the chance to see some places in Thailand. She see's her 2 children more often than before. She doesn't have to work in the bar. We watch movies most of the time in Thai (I don't understand anything but who cares? ^^). I ask her often enough what she wants to do (after 2 month she finally says what she wants to do, haven't heared "up to you" for a long time now). Actually, I treat her like I would treat my gf, just she isn't it and will never be. So, I'd say she comes out of this with quite a lot. Next month we go Cambodia together, 3 days Angkor. Next week she goes home for one week. I'm doing my best to keep her happy, so does she.

Well, I'm not an asshole all the time ^^

[sev7en]

(Stewart @ Jun. 20 2008,00:18)

Well, I'm sure Pogue Mahone and a number of you guys have something to add. Please go ahead.

Don't tell them that you are one of the stars of the Sleazy Singapore Rowell Romps thread on this forum  

 


Chocolate and flowers always work..

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

Regarding the gifts the first time, I bought a box of Godiva Chocolates in the fancy box for her Mama, her Papa got a bottle of Bushmills Black Label and her siblings got nada. I made sure that we did not stay in the family home, we stayed in a Hotel in Surin, rented a car and drove back and forth. Did the taking out the entire family for lunch at the Reservoir in Surin, ended up with 14 of them piling into the SUV. It was a fun day for me, my first time eating all kinds of bugs and such, it was nice to sit back and watch and listen to her going on and on with her family. Meals in the evening were cooked at her home, her Mama and some relatives did all the cooking and man it seemed that every person nearby came over to check out the Farang, drink Papa's new bottle of whiskey and stuff themselves. I was up and down like a yo-yo as my sweetie told me who to wai. I only spent three days in the area and made sure that most of it was spent exploring the area. It was my first visit to Surin and I wanted to see some things other than her family home. It was important to me that she did not loose face, that in fact she attained more face for herself and her family. I do not have a clue about the cloths thing you mentioned, it just seems bizarre that something like this came up. Therefore I cannot offer any type of advice on how to handle this. Any doubts you might be having try to talk to her and explain that you do not understand this. Better to be as prepared as much as you can prior to actually showing up on the doorsteps. Two places to look for further information are thaivisa forums and stickmanbangkok.co. (look in the readers submissions section) Good luck.

[kleetora]

I feel like a proud father watching one of the regular horn dogs from Rowell make his way out into the great big world! Si Gee, go show the world how you roll!!!

Seriously, congrats on this large step! I'd have to agree on 2 points here:

1. Duration of the trip should be kept to a bare minimal. Even when I was visiting MY family in China, I had enough after 2 days.

2. Minimal clothes just sounds kinda freaky to me.

Otherwise, best of luck and I hope you'll have a good TR to post apon your return. Any hints at the lucky gal?

[Looker]

(si geena @ Jun. 20 2008,10:59) I've been advised to bring minimal clothing. That clothes will be available and provided for my use. I find this highly interesting.

Don't want to say anything strange here..but I had a similar situation with my ex-GF who is a post-op LB working in Bangkok in the travel industry.

She invited me to go and stay in her loom and not to worry about bringing many clothes. At the beginning I thought: " Will I stay naked all the time? " OR..." Will she borrow me HERS? "
Finally, it came out that she bought for me those etnic style ChiangMai made clothes made of thick cotton yarns.

Since I finally could not go to BKK that time, she came over to see me and brought them with her. She also had a similar ensamble of jacket + trouser, so we were dressed in similar fashion while at home. How romantic

Who knows..maybe it's a Thai tradition?

[dummy_plug]

Bring your own damn clothes - end of story.

On a site note, I've heard in general, most Thais do not prefer chocolates, especially the older generation. I didn't think this would be a gift that would go over well with the parents - but I could be off base on this one.

[stogie bear]

I agree... Chocolates is a weird kind of gift to give a Thai person.

Perfume is number one or an item of Thai clothing (chosen by your better half) would be a good second best.

[Stewart]

Any hints at the lucky gal?

Errrr, yes...who?

[sev7en]

Yeah well, i´m sticking to chocolate and flowers.
So far it´s done the trick (not).

[Monkey]

the big question is: how well do you want to endear yourself to her family?

are you ready to take on all the distant relatives and hangers on that will appear?

[kahuna]

Indeed...you will be absolutely amazed how large her "family" is...

And they will all want to meet you...you are the visiting ATM...

[sev7en]

That´s why i´m sticking to the chocolate.