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Wow, I am still in shock over the events of the past four days. As usual, I sent her the allowance for November by the 1st. No problem. On Sunday night, Thai time I called her to wish her a happy first wedding anniversary. She was excited and happy to remember that day. On Sunday night for me, Monday morning for her I called her again. While she was happy I knew by the tome of her voice that she was having troulbe telling me something. Finally she told me, she had already spent all the monthly allowance and she wanted more. I asked her if she had payed the bills and got a no answer. She told me some story about paying for her sister at the University and giving some money to her twin sisters for High School. I just told her that I was not going to deal with this news and would call her the next day.
I did just that but she was at a wedding in her village and it was not a good situation for us to talk about this problem. On Tuesday I called her and from there it has all gone downhill very rapidly. When I called her out about spending all the money before paying the bills she told me that I should be giving her the same amount of money that Lisa's boyfriend gives her. Lisa claims that she gets 90,000Baht every month. Since face is very important Bow felt that she should have the same amount. Also, I was told that at the wedding she was talking with another friend who is married to a Farang and he has built a home for them, plus one for her family and given her two bank accounts. Now mind you there is not proof of either of these things being true but it did not matter to Bow. I was Kee-Nee-Ow, a sticky shit/cheap charlie. If I loved her I would give her whatever she wanted.
Well guys you can guess how that went over with me. After all that I had done for her, with her operation just a week away she goes and does something so stupid that it's nearly unbelievable. I remained calm on the telephone and told her that if this is now she feels that I it would better for me not to come back to Bangkok as planned. She said that was fine, I could just do a bank transfer into her account to pay for the operation that was scheduled for the 14th. All she cared about at this point in time was her operation and not the fact that she had fucked up and was going to end up having nothing.
I told her that no way was her operation going to happen now. Wow, let me tell you then can turn on you in Texas heartbeat. After the screeming and cursing I was told that something bad would happen to me. She would make sure that I would pay for her losing face and her family losing face. Gee, maybe she should have thought about that before doing something so stupid. In the past days I have been on the telephone with the Lawyer I have had on retainer in Surin alerting him to what has happened.
It's now Friday night for me here in California, I was suppose to go back to Bangkok on Sunday night and meet her there. To say that I am a little bit shell shocked is an understatement to say the least. When I have to go back there is the real possibility that something bad could happen to me.
There you have it guys. One day you are in Paradise, in love and not a care in the world. All seems to be in order, you have a beautiful ladyboy as your wife, you have a home, a car and motorbikes and she has a shop. Next thing you know it blows up in your face. I had not one clue that she could go off the deep end like this. For me, the money was not the issue. I could have upped the ante but when she told me that I did not love her and was a cheap charlie she crossed the line. Now she has to pay the price and face the consequences. She will not get another Baht from me, she will not be able to pay the bills for the home, the car the shop, nor give money to her family. Her choices are limited. Back to the bars she goes and with the Ladyboy grapevine she will be loose face with her Ladyboys. They will know that she fucked up. I feel sorry for her family, I did like them very much and this is going to effect them a lot.
Thanks for your kind words and support during the past year. I know that I gave it my best shot and had hoped that maybe, just maybe, one of us could get it right in a long term married relationship.
I did just that but she was at a wedding in her village and it was not a good situation for us to talk about this problem. On Tuesday I called her and from there it has all gone downhill very rapidly. When I called her out about spending all the money before paying the bills she told me that I should be giving her the same amount of money that Lisa's boyfriend gives her. Lisa claims that she gets 90,000Baht every month. Since face is very important Bow felt that she should have the same amount. Also, I was told that at the wedding she was talking with another friend who is married to a Farang and he has built a home for them, plus one for her family and given her two bank accounts. Now mind you there is not proof of either of these things being true but it did not matter to Bow. I was Kee-Nee-Ow, a sticky shit/cheap charlie. If I loved her I would give her whatever she wanted.
Well guys you can guess how that went over with me. After all that I had done for her, with her operation just a week away she goes and does something so stupid that it's nearly unbelievable. I remained calm on the telephone and told her that if this is now she feels that I it would better for me not to come back to Bangkok as planned. She said that was fine, I could just do a bank transfer into her account to pay for the operation that was scheduled for the 14th. All she cared about at this point in time was her operation and not the fact that she had fucked up and was going to end up having nothing.
I told her that no way was her operation going to happen now. Wow, let me tell you then can turn on you in Texas heartbeat. After the screeming and cursing I was told that something bad would happen to me. She would make sure that I would pay for her losing face and her family losing face. Gee, maybe she should have thought about that before doing something so stupid. In the past days I have been on the telephone with the Lawyer I have had on retainer in Surin alerting him to what has happened.
It's now Friday night for me here in California, I was suppose to go back to Bangkok on Sunday night and meet her there. To say that I am a little bit shell shocked is an understatement to say the least. When I have to go back there is the real possibility that something bad could happen to me.
There you have it guys. One day you are in Paradise, in love and not a care in the world. All seems to be in order, you have a beautiful ladyboy as your wife, you have a home, a car and motorbikes and she has a shop. Next thing you know it blows up in your face. I had not one clue that she could go off the deep end like this. For me, the money was not the issue. I could have upped the ante but when she told me that I did not love her and was a cheap charlie she crossed the line. Now she has to pay the price and face the consequences. She will not get another Baht from me, she will not be able to pay the bills for the home, the car the shop, nor give money to her family. Her choices are limited. Back to the bars she goes and with the Ladyboy grapevine she will be loose face with her Ladyboys. They will know that she fucked up. I feel sorry for her family, I did like them very much and this is going to effect them a lot.
Thanks for your kind words and support during the past year. I know that I gave it my best shot and had hoped that maybe, just maybe, one of us could get it right in a long term married relationship.
Welcome to Thailand.
Your applying wrong 'values' to our friends in the legal profession. 
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