When visiting the Family of your sweetheart

[dummy_plug]

(rxpharm @ Jun. 28 2008,22:42) Would love to meet up with you and your companion of choice along my companion of choice - will give you a chance to escape the hangers on for a while!

Given the ladyboy network, I give it 2 to 1 odds they know each other!

[si geena]

I was kinda teasing about the doing the bump and grind in the house. I wouldn't do that, it's just poor manners.

She's been getting rather pensive lately. Her emails to me all strike the "I'm not good for you" tone. Fishing for more favours? or genuinely tugging at the heartstrings.

[stogie bear]

It's all going wrong...

Back out of this now and get a hotel in Bangkok where she can visit you.

At this early stage in your relationship and with the bizarre arrangements she is making for you (carry on luggage/clothes on arrival, etc) I'd say there was very definately something not quite right a bout this whole deal.

My guess with the facts that you have given us is that you are being lined up for a typical Thai sting.

DON'T be in a situation where you are out of your familiar surroundings on your own with her and her family.

Back out of this madness now while you have a chance and take a deep breath.

[Freebird]

"I was kinda teasing about the doing the bump and grind in the house. I wouldn't do that, it's just poor manners."

Sure, so where do they make all the babies?

"She's been getting rather pensive lately. Her emails to me all strike the "I'm not good for you" tone. Fishing for more favours? or genuinely tugging at the heartstrings."

Fishing for compliments... and money later...

[pacman]

A word of advice if I may -

                ..... her pensive tone sounds to me like classic projection.

In other words she is warning you off without saying it straight out.

Unless of course you are reading more into them then there really is.

You could always post her letters for a free appraisal ......

[dummy_plug]

(stogie bear @ Jun. 30 2008,16:14) My guess with the facts that you have given us is that you are being lined up for a typical Thai sting.

Forgive my ignorance (just this once), but what is the typical Thai sting?

[Monkey]

I think Stogie is thinking she is going to meet him in her tuk-tuk and drive him to all the tailor shops in the district as he'll be needing some new clothes, she just needs to stop at a jewellers on the way for her fuel coupon.



SG:

Her emails to me all strike the "I'm not good for you" tone.

Anybody who says that to me, or implies it, gets the heave-ho double quick as they are invariably correct.

[Freebird]

(pacman @ Jun. 30 2008,16:38)   A word of advice if I may -

                ..... her pensive tone sounds to me like classic projection.

In other words she is warning you off without saying it straight out.

Always nice when it comes to an unhappy ending:

"I told you that I'm a piece of shit right from the start, so you blame me now for what?"

[jimslim]

(si geena @ Jun. 30 2008,15:36) She's been getting rather pensive lately. Her emails to me all strike the "I'm not good for you" tone. Fishing for more favours? or genuinely tugging at the heartstrings.  

Typical Thai behaviour , she's sussing you out to see how much you care and how far you will go , it could also be mixed with a genuine bit of insecurity on her part .

I agree with everyone else here , make your excuses and compromise on some other arrangement , having met you I know you're a level headed guy .

As I said before , I travelled to meet a girls family , but someone I've known a few years , shes always been straight with me (excuse the pun   ) and it was a long standing promise on my part , I didn't regret it , in fact it was quite an adventure , but she's the only person I would contemplate doing this with , I remember well someone warning me at the time as to why I was invited to meet the family , but fair play to them , it didn't turn out that way and that made for a pleasant couple of days .

[sev7en]

I´m still very worried about the suitcase.

[Naang Faa]

Si Geena,
If you have any doubts then just don't do it...
What could be an innocent trp could be ruined if your constantly on pins.
I have visited many of the girls houses,but i was always either Nancy's boyfriend
or (after i came out) as just another one of the girls,albeit a farang one..
I never went to Nancy's house,because i couldn't be doing with an eight hour drive into the jungle with her..and she never holds it against me..
I was never under the pressures i think you guys will feel..
I always enjoy staying either in humble homes (maybe this is why she says she is
not good enough for you) or, as some girls have,large plush homes with all mod cons..
What ever you decide,have a good and fun trip..
x

8 people in one apartment in Bangkok is not funny!

No,it's not funny,it's flippin' hilarious!

[si geena]

Actually to bring this topic back into a bit of focus.

I'm not harbouring any very strong concerns about this trip. I know there are a few red-flag suspicious areas but after looking into them further, I'm pretty sure they are not that insidious.

I had wanted some advice on the cultural aspect, comments relating to gifts, wais, and generosity are all taken abroad with much thanks. The extra stuff that didn't make sense, I just discarded them as white noise. Apologies if you spent alot of time and effort on those posts.

To get back to Naang Faa and jimslim I really look forward to this trip and all in a healthy positive light. Whatever comes my way, I'm pretty confident I can manoeuvre myself out of it.

In any case, if you don't happen to hear from me after July, DP will be the fly on the wall with the latest.

[seamus]

Good luck to ya man, be lucky, have fun & stay the fuck alive LOL

[jimslim]

(si geena @ Jul. 01 2008,03:32) To get back to Naang Faa and jimslim I really look forward to this trip and all in a healthy positive light. Whatever comes my way, I'm pretty confident I can manoeuvre myself out of it.

Good man , Im sure you'll do fine then , and remember the old language barrier can be useful sometimes , if you hear something you don't fancy just ignore it , Thai's do it all the time  

[EyeMahk]

Forgive me if this was mentioned before, but I just thought I would ask. Si geena, is this a LB whose family you will visit, or a GG?