Sending money? Why?

[mardhi]

(boyke59 @ May 14 2007,13:29) I every month send money to my Chiang Rai LB-girl

Met her in Pattaya two years ago; send her home where she now lives in her own rented appartment; has motorbike.(which boyke59 pays of course)

I payed for her education and daily needs to become hairdresser/ make-up specialist. Study took more then 8 months but now she is finished, is working and can support her family and herself by what she earns.

Why I tell this ?. If you want not throw your money away; make them go home; plan longtime otherwise i.m.h.o. sending money is just carrying water to the sea.  

Just curious about your comment about living alone in her own place. Most Thais hate that - they need company. Its rare to find one who can live happily alone (not saying it cant be done but its rare). Hope everything works out for you.

Cheers
Mardhi

[divertwo]

(jimslim @ May 13 2007,14:02) As the old saying goes " If you tell some people goats balls were lemons they,d suck them "

.nah, I'd make lemonade

[Looker]

I have sent money to a few LBs and GGs friends in Thailand, P.I., Indonesia and Malaysia in a few occasions, but NONE of them was working in bars. In fact, I didn't even have sex with all of them.
Did that because they really had financial problems and my little help, talking about max. 200-250 Euro was making some difference.
What can I say..making some good does give me a bit of happiness

[Guest]

I think when I compared signing up to the Nigerian scams as similar to paying a bar girl, is pretty accurate, except that your gonads are making the decision in the latter. Both are scams 99.999% of the time.

The only way you can really make a difference, is help the girl all the way, boobs, school, job, English, etc, much like you'd treat a daughter (she's probably the same age!). Doing that remotely is near impossible.

[moe666]

Pay-me-now-are-pay-me-later. Married for 15 years 2 kids, she never had very good jobs no retirement. Except she will get part of mine starting next year. I would rather send my teeluk a few dollars because I know that it helps her and her kids.
In a moment of mental defeciency you marry some women and unless you are lucky, she will never earn a decent salary and probly no retirement. You support her and your kids working over time, nights and weekends. Then one day the twit says I keep wondering what you bring to this relationship and I feel constrained in our marriage, I want to move on with my life and realize my full potential.
You ask her are you asking for a divorce and she says yes. Well after some denial you realize it was the best day of your life.
But guess what you have been paying her for what a fuck now and then and the pleasure of her less than dynamic personality. Then after you have been divorced for a few years you will start paying her again but you don't have to listen to her stupid stories.
What a rant, I still prefer to pay my teeluk.

[donnnnnny]

(moe666 @ May 23 2007,08:02) Pay-me-now-are-pay-me-later. Married for 15 years 2 kids, she  never had very good jobs no retirement. Except she will get part of mine starting next year. I would rather send my teeluk a few dollars because I know that it helps her and her kids.
 In a moment of mental defeciency you marry some women and unless you are lucky, she will never earn a decent salary and probly no retirement. You support her and your kids working over time, nights and weekends. Then one day the twit says I keep wondering what you bring to this relationship and I feel constrained in our marriage, I want to move on with my life and realize my full potential.
 You ask her are you asking for a divorce and she says yes. Well after some denial you realize it was the best day of your life.
 But guess what you have been paying her for what a fuck now and then and the pleasure of her less than dynamic personality. Then after you have been divorced for a few years you will start paying her again but you don't have to listen to her stupid stories.
  What a rant, I still prefer to pay my teeluk.

well said rob69 would agree whole hearted with you as would alot more.
fat big mouthed weston pigs of all race and colour just aint worth it
and no i dont send money and never have

[SamplerDoc]

Never sent anyone money and never will

[SamplerDoc]

It costs too much to "take care of" my PI LB GF here.  She works a great job and so do I but it seems that for every 10 dinners and nights out drinking I buy, she manages to treat me to a 5 dollar weekend lunch

Nuff said....
and btw, She sends money to her Mom here in the USA, and her Mom lives off her

[donnnnnny]

the asian way spunge of the kidds as opposed to weston way where out kidds sponge of up
they have got it right

[moe666]

As my girlfriend says, I take care of my baby they will take care of me. Asian retirement scheme.

[ohnoriceagain]

I'll admit, I've sent money, twice, same girl. First time was a couple of days before New Years, wanted her to have a good time, and it was only $40. Last time, 2 months ago, $100 for her to attend a family reunion. She never comes out and asks, which I appreciate. Both times I felt I was just doing something nice, not a great financial burden for me, just that I can and I wanted to at those certain times. I established early that I know that Ladyboys are scam artists online, just looking for easy money, and she never pursued that angle.

Subconsciously, I feel like a dick because I don't send more but logic tells me to be careful. $200 per month is a windfall for them, for me, pocket money but I can't convince myself to do that just yet, though I would like to. Maybe this forum has taught me some street sense or tainted my faith in humanity, I don't know. Maybe that will all change once we meet in the flesh.

She's in PI, seems sweet, family oriented, and even called me and made me talk to her Dad on his birthday. I've talked with Mom a few times, a couple of nieces, seems like a close knit family. Everything seems cool but you guys here do put the cynical aspect in the front of my brain rather than me justing keeping it in mind.

The thread is "send money, why?" and I guess the answer would be because I can but regular payments, weekly, monthly, nah, I just can't do that. We're going on 6 months now, just internet chat, phone calls so maybe now if she did ask and had a good story, I might fall for it (of course, it could be a real true emergency).

All ladyboys are not prostitutes (right? lol not sure) but if she was here, I'd have no problem giving her cash. "Here babe, here's a $100, go to Victoria's Secret at the mall."

Ok, I know I've gone everywhere and nowhere all at the same time, so to sum up: I live a relatively stress free financial life, can afford it, not opposed to doing it, not oblivious to its prevalence but hey, why not? As long as you don't feel you are being played for a sucker, you brighten someone's day.

[PigDogg]

(ohnoriceagain @ May 24 2007,02:45) and it was only $40.  

What's the transaction fees on a 40 buck transfer?

[ohnoriceagain]

$5.95 I think, on Xoom. I know, $40 not much but it was just so she could go out on New Year's Eve with something in her pocket.

I cry poor constantly to her but I'm lying and just don't want to get caught up in that crap. Whether LB or GG, whether Filipina or Thai, they all will kow a good thing when thye hook one. This forum has taught me to not be a fool, that's for sure.

I actually sometimes feel guilt because I don't send money, and she doesn't ask, which is cool. I spend more money on lunch per week than they make in a month, thus my guilt. It's a fleeting thing but if it were not the internet and was a real-in-person type of relationship, she would get whatever she asked for, as I'm a soft touch, within reason.

[ohnoriceagain]

Anyway, that's her in my avatar. She has tits, no big ol' ones, but nice ones. She's in PI, worked in a LB show in Tokyo, 26, and I think pretty cute and sweet. We'll see how it all works out, plan on going maybe September, October.

[BAM]

(jimslim @ May 14 2007,05:26) One thing has puzzled me , the vast majority of ladyboys and many bargirls have overseas "boyfriends " or sponsors who send them money on a regular basis , ok not everyone , but in many cases the more popular ones have more than one sponsor ........ my question why ? ?

The girls in Thailand all send me money every month... so I must be doing something right. I just tell them I no longer want to work in bar and want to go to school... and my father needs medicine for his bad hart and mother needs money for life saving operation and they just all send me money... it's great!