Setting myself up for heartache

[katoeylover]

I like it for a week/10 days and then want to move on!

Too many fish in the sea!

[buttafly]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 12 2007,20:07)

Doubt if ill ever bother again with GF.

I don't think I will either. I've tried it many times and I just get bored and restless. It's annoying to have someone else to think about.

good for you, SB...finally seeing the light and don't want to share your apartment

valid point that even a shortie-time guy like me can understand; a few nights a week with someone you like is certainly understandable, long-term relationships with these people usually leads to heartache, loss of cash and pride, headaches and death threats from ting-tong ladyboys and worse.

[tigerxxx]

I can understand Mirimarks opinion and Tomcat's too. I've been married for just over 10 years now. Somedays it's a grind, other days....!

Society for the most part looks at LB's the same as ho's. Unfortunately, society doesn't see "normal relationships" this way, but the fact is, in any relationship you set yourself up as a ho also. You think that when you get married you're getting it for free??? NO, no, no my friend!! You have to work and provide for her and her offspring til your dead and in the grave. And you will usually end up there before her.

My advice is as Tocat said, try it out on a test basis first. See how it works out for ...6-12 months. By that time I'll bet my bottom dollar you'll both be wanting out. So, if I interpret Mirimark right, just continue to play the field, have as much fun as you can, and get laid as often as you can.

These days women are finding out they don't need a man and a wedding band to feel complete. And if they really want children they can go to the local sperm bank and do it invitro. You don't need to marry a woman on a full-time basis to feel complete or less lonely.

Well, that's my 2 cents!

[divertwo]

...well being alone and being lonely are two different things.....being with a partner certainly does not guarantee you won't be lonely......maybe less horny though.........

[Guest]

I think we're missing a key point.

The femboy, ladyboy aspect has nothing to do with this being successful or not.

A relationship with them, provided you don't have to worry about hiding it, is the same as with a girl. I am with May 18 months now, and the problems we have are not specific to her being a LB.

Also, I'd venture most of us are divorced, the likelihood of a long-lasting LB, GG, or any relationship, in my opinion, is very low. When you mix in cultural and age differences it likely reduces more.

My suggestion is enjoy it while it's good, then drop it, and move on to the next "long-lasting" relationship, where you understand "long" can be an hour, day, week, month, or years, but never a lifetime.

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

Here we again with the "negative vives" man. Most of the so called experts weighting in on this subject have probably had relationships with generic ladys or other LB's blow up in their faces. Or even worse, they NEVER have had a relationship of any consequence. Any relationship takes time, why should a relationship with an LB, here in Thailand or in your own country be slammed as being next to impossible? Opinions regarding relationships should come from experiance and not some bullshit idea that got into your head. I have had my fair share of relationships with LB'S blow up in my face but from every one I learned more about myself and what it really takes to make a long term relationship work out.

[kahuna]

(ziggystardust @ Jan. 19 2007,20:44) My suggestion is enjoy it while it's good, then drop it, and move on to the next "long-lasting" relationship, where you understand "long" can be an hour, day, week, month, or years, but never a lifetime.

Very good suggestion...and likely very true...

[ShockToe]

(viking1960 @ Jan. 06 2007,22:18) Been slaving away for a long time now teaching English in Korea, and find myself wanting to settle down with a gorgeous Fem boy/Ladyboy. I must be developing idiocy as I approach 50. Any successful stories out in terms of a long term Ladyboy relationship?

Do you want to move to Thailand and stay here permanently? Do you speak Thai?

I think that there are thousands of Thai-Thai: Man/LB long-term (5+ years) relationships. I think there are somewhat fewer Foreigner-Thai: Man/LB long-term relationships, maybe a few hundred. It's certainly possible and doable but finding the right partner will be challenging. I'd suggest looking outside the major cities and tourist areas, and consider living outside those areas as well, once you find a partner, maybe in her hometown?

I was up-country last week, for a wedding (Roi-Et) and a funeral (Somdet), and saw a few nice LB's, 25 - 35 years old. I also saw a lot who were 15 - 17! Most of these LB's have not had the body work that you see on the gals in the bars so do factor that in to your plan.

A very close friend, from Canada, has been living with the same LB here for a little over three years. They seem quite happy together. He is 42, she is 24.