Ladyboy relationships

[Guest]

I thought I'd share my experience with anyone wanting to pursue a relationship with a ladyboy. This is by no means definitive and you will probably be more lucky than I but I hope this gives you a reality check like it did for me. This happened just over a year ago.

I really liked Chompoo and was ready to make a commitment. She explained to me how hard her childhood was and how important it was for her to work hard to save enough money for her and her family before she got too old to work. It seems life almost ends when a ladyboy reaches 30 ! Can you imagine the prospect of not being employable after 30 ! Well to cut to the chase I asked how I could help. She hates working in the bar and really has little choice as the money paid for regular jobs is terribly low. I asked her how much was needed to get her out but unfortunately I could not afford the money she was making every month. Needless to say that killed the relationship and we went amicably our separate ways. She told me she could not have a boyfriend and still work the bar and I totally agreed with that ! She was very honest about her life, her needs and what she needed for herself and her family. I did not really realise how desperate life is for ladyboys - definately an underclass in thai society and often the butt of jokes for most thais who tolerate them but think of them lower than animals !

I understand from friends of friends that she has a new boyfriend and I really hope he will take care of her and give her alas what I could not through no fault of my own that I am simply a poor bastard !!!!!

She deserves happiness and luck and I wish her well.

The motto/reality of my story fellas is simple really - you need the green, lots of dead presidents, if you want a longterm relationship with a superstar !!!!!!!!!!

I came, I learned, I got bombed out !!!!

Such is reality.

[Bit Beefy]

At least your honest, and have left with your pride and dead presidents intact. Others lose homes, cars, bikes, bonds and lots of presidents working out what you sir have worked out for free..... That maybe why my ass is yet to have an LB or a GG as a girlfriend, as i just cant bere to see things end up like i have seen an heard them end up..........

[Guest]

Thanks for the post and for telling us like it is, Indef

too bad about Chom, she is a great person for sure

[Guest]

My dear friend Beef,

Wise words as always and please don't call me sir !!! You are an extremely talented, gifted, amicably and intelligent young man and it is my esteemed pleasure to know you ! You sir are an extremely excellent human being who contributes to your community unselfishly and that is why you will always be better than me !!!

You are a good man beef and I wish you success and love because you deserve a good girlfriend who will love,cherish and take good care of you !!!

Take it easy my friend,

Inde

[Stewart]

Wise words as always and please don't call me sir !!! You are an extremely talented, gifted, amicably and intelligent young man and it is my esteemed pleasure to know you ! You sir are an extremely excellent human being who contributes to your community unselfishly and that is why you will always be better than me !!!

You are a good man beef and I wish you success and love because you deserve a good girlfriend who will love,cherish and take good care of you !!!

wtf?? Beefy, how much did you pay him to say that??

Love and understanding from Brickie??

[stogie bear]

Thanks for the open post and for sharing your experience with all of us.

(Indy is probably the longest serving member of the forums we have, dating back to before even my time. And I haven't forgotten your avatar - I'll have something cool for you soon!)

It should be emphasized that the girl in question is a bargirl. Life is shameful for all bargirls in Thai society no matter how much you make and whether or not you are a ladyboy. Bar girls don't make much after 30 - that's true.

Chompoo is a unique lady. She is an absolute charmer, passable and extremely bright. In fact she had (still has?) more options than most. She could go to college and get a degree and within 3 years be making 35,000 a month for the rest of her life. That seems like a far better way to provide for her family.

Her case illustrates how shortsighted Thais can be when thinking of themselves and their futures. (Hey - nothing wrong with that. I wish I had made better long term decisions when I was her age!) It is a shame though, that some girls don'tr seem able to fulfill any potential or ambitions because they are drawn to big money like moths to a night-light.

Indys confession is an important one, despite (or maybe because of) it's predictable outcome. No one man can compete with 1,000 others.

If someone had sent this girl 100,000 Baht a month she would STILL have been out on the game. If a man had moved here to take care of her and marry her she would STILL be lying and scheming to get out of the house to see her 'regulars.' If she had been whisked away to paradise with a genuinely lovestruck chap she would be bored shitless in a few months.

This cautionary tale isn't about Chompoo, so I won't dwell on her, save to say that despite your best intentions this romance was always doomed.

You can have a relationship with a working girl. You can shower them with gifts. You can really live the GFE (girlfriend experience with many of them. They are quite protective and demanding in these relationships and we are beguiled by their persistance and fooled into thinking that we really are special and that somehow we really could settle down and have kids with these dreamboats!

It doesn't work that way and the expectations from both sides are always unreasonable. Will you really be there when her tits leak or need replacing? When her 30 year old body looks more like a 45 year old mans are you gonna be shooting come in the headboards and licking her ears?

It's unlikely. It's better to live for the moment, but be mindful of the future.

Thanks for sharing, Indy. Your story should be required reading for all of us students in this game of self fulfilment!



Stogie Bear

[Tomcat]

Sorry it didnt work out Brick but at least you tried , no armchair expert for sure. If you dont buy a ticket you cant win the raffle as they say . Just by reading Kaos,s report the other day and the problems he is having tells you that its not all fun and games.


My two LB friends who are currently at University both told me that the underclass thing is a big problem as far as getting a normal or part job is concerned and thats why they hook on the side. Also many so called Uni girls are actually Open Uni which means they at home and study.

After going to LOS for over 15 years now one does become a bit weary of the Go Go Bars and all that stuff .......something else is needed to keep the emotion meter ticking over. Like someone said the other day , Cascades gets stale after a while. I am sure i  will be tempted to plunge in at the deep end some time soon..... if it dont work just hit the Prozac.

Making sure she has English lessons is the priority at the moment. This is so very very important for me and i would think that this should be the first step on a relationship ladder.( although i think Chompoo speaks good english from what i read so Brick wont have had this problem)

I dont know if i can handle it.. no more serial butterflying
Bring on the Unabummer...



anyway
Good Luck Brick, plenty more Fish in the Sea




TC
soon i hope

[Guest]

wtf?? Beefy, how much did you pay him to say that??  

Love and understanding from Brickie??  

Underneath that gruff exterior (which most often rears it's head when he is in his cups)   , Bricky has a nice side that is too often hidden away.      

[Guest]

After going to LOS for over 15 years now one does become a bit weary of the Go Go Bars and all that stuff .......something else is needed to keep the emotion meter ticking over.

I am tired of it after just 5 years and really have no desire to even go back there

 Lots of travel this year and work only, the "scene" has me bored.

Relationship? what's that?

[Tomcat]

Perhaps i phrased it wrongly. I actually love the Ladyboy scene its just that i dont hang out in the Go GO bars as long as i used to.....there are other places to go....

The music drives me nuts in most places and i unless im with friends i dont stay more than an hour.....I think someone commented that even Snick takes a Playstation in Cascades..

I understand why Brick tried for a relationship and the girl i found now wont wait forever and pretty soon i got make a decision too....quality does not come around to often...

[Guest]

I understand why Brick tried for a relationship and the girl i found now wont wait forever and pretty soon i got make a decision too....quality does not come around to often...

good for you, TC..... I hope it works out

perhaps I would be a bit less jaded if I found the "right one" also

It's hard when all your friends are working girls and will leave you the second they find some guy to give them cash and pay all their bills and take them shopping, 3 things I simply refuse to do for anyone outside my immediate family.

good luck in your quest, keep us all informed, eh?

[Road Runner]

I understand why Brick tried for a relationship and the girl i found now wont wait forever and pretty soon i got make a decision too....quality does not come around to often...

Hello Tomcat,

Go for it  

OK you have to remember these girls come with more emotional baggage than a gg - and more insecurities - but I have not regretted any of my time with herself.

What's really worrying is she has the same sense of humour as me!  

RR.

[Tomcat]

yeh i know

I go along with what everyone has said from Jaidee to Stogie and Bricktop any many others who know how tough it is to make a go of it....As i said ,i havent exactly taken the plunge just yet but i suppose ,like many seasoned travellers, they have it in the back of there mind that one day if Miss Right turns up..they will.

Normally after sex with a girl i just want to kick them out the room and go to sleep but this time it was different and thats the moment you know.... well maybe .....could be...

So i am tempted

If i do get hitched you guys will be the first to know. Perhaps i should plan the divorce party in advance..

[Guest]

I know how you feel TC. I have literally slept with about 350 LBs the last 4 years. I counted my phone numbers, and I usually only get a phone number after sex.

However, I'm tired! So, I have found 2 girls I am very fond of, May of Cascades, and the blond twin. I am spending more time with them than anyone before (not solely), and enjoying it. I trust both 100%. I too believe the don't touch a working girl thing, in general, but once in a while, you find exceptions.

In hockey they say if you don't shoot, you can never score. If you shoot, you might score. So moral of the story is shoot, what can you lose but one shot?

[Guest]

I have literally slept with about 350 LBs the last 4 years. I counted my phone numbers, and I usually only get a phone number after sex.

can you put a price tag on this please, Zig?

in terms of money spent for sex in a typical week, how much would you say?

just curious