Ladyboys versus GGs...

[whrw]

A strange thing happened to me on my recent (Dec 17-31) trip to Pattaya. I was planning to make this a LB only trip, many because if I want a Thai or other Asian woman they are available easily here in Japan, but beautiful LBs are not.

So I went about my trip going absolutely hog wild nuts, bar fining two or three girls a day for the first week or so of my trip. Then, on about night 8 or 9 I decided I would give a GG a try just for the hell of it.

So I went to a go-go and discovered something I had never had happen on my previous trips, not on girl in the place did a damn thing for me. So I tried another, and then a third and even fourth bar before saying the hell with this and heading straight to Stringfellows and barfining Suzie and another LB for the night.

I have come to the realization that to me, I am just attracted to LBs more than GG. I will be heading back to Pattaya March 20-April 2, and I am willing to bet that I once again every girl I barfine is a Ladyboy.

Now does this mean I am ready to have a serious relationship with one, no. I live in Japan, and I know the reaction I would get from my Japanese co-workers And employer if I suddenly showed up with a LB girlfriend. If I lived and worked back in the States, them sure, I think I would consider it. But I honestly would worry about my contract being renewed if I was public about my preference for LB here in Japan.

That being said, this last trip really opened my eyes to what I do want, and I plan to spend my vacations in Pattaya, so I will be there at least two months a year.

So to some it up, I prefer LB, but because of cultural stigmas where I live and for sure with my employer, I would not consider an open relationship with one when I was at home. But a girlfriend on my arm in Thailand, sure, no problem.

[whrw]

Sorry for the spelling errors above, I typed this out on my iPhone, and autocorrect has a mind of it's own.

[fionasexyangel]

(perth_couple @ Jan. 08 2010,21:10) Isn't that a universal fear felt by almost everyone who has ever been in love?

That the love they experience now may one day end?

The only way to avoid this fear is to never fall in love at all!

honestly i never think about it on all my past relationships..

but now i think about it, i guess i'm getting old, officially...

what can i do.. what will happen it will happen..

i hate being insecure...

[cancer12]

i dont think its being insecure... everyone of us think about a future, good or bad...
at least u may have an idea of what MAY happen in the future, so when it happens, u know u have somethings in mind of what you can possibly do......

i think about my future and it makes me afraid coz i mostly think of the bad side, and i am OVER THINKING, over thinking makes me really fear of it.

[jimslim]

(cancer12 @ Jan. 11 2010,23:24) and i am OVER THINKING

I do believe you are becoming Thai

[cancer12]

can u tell me how Thais are?

[cancer12]

i just talked to jman... about what this thread is all about, the heart, the meaning.... and he himself understood and agreed... im trying to think way deeper about this... not just about my self but about what a ladyboy can morelikely experience....


all of you ladyboy lovers.... especially those who are in a long term/serious relationship with ladyboys, can sit and take some time to talk seriously to your ladyboy girlfriends and ask them what do they think about the relationship?


uggghhh i cant still pick the right words....

[farangbah]

Today, in a lot of the world, maybe the need for a strong, life-long partnership for the sake of survival and prosperity is just no longer a necessity. And maybe affluence has made us more selfish. And technology more isolated.

It's a tough racket, this thing called love. All romantic relationships in our lives end, except maybe one, if you're lucky. So, if that's the case, then should that not be accepted as the natural order of things? Know it's going to end, and just cherish the moments you do have.

I myself wrestle with the subject of the OP daily. Ideally, I would love to try a true, honest go at an LB romance. But the possibility is so small, and the odds so low, I'm not counting on it. So, I remain open.

After the last few weeks of LB mania in the LOS, I was with a young Japanese GG last night, back home in Osaka. And I was reminded of the differences, both good and bad.

If it wasn't already clear to me, last year drove home the fact of how randomly life deals its cards. You can't plan love. But you can always give it. And if we can focus more on giving it than receiving it, somehow it seems more comes back to us.

This may be a sentimental post at a sentimental time of year, but I cherished those moments I had, both with LBs and GGs (as it's as much about the person as the organ). And it's those moments that help me get through cold, lonely nights in January.

Best of luck to you, Cancer12.

[kahuna]

(farangbah @ Jan. 12 2010,14:48) You can't plan love.  But you can always give it.  And if we can focus more on giving it than receiving it, somehow it seems more comes back to us.  

Damn, you do have a way with words young man...

[Jerome]

(whrw @ Jan. 11 2010,20:52) Now does this mean I am ready to have a serious relationship with one, no. I live in Japan, and I know the reaction I would get from my Japanese co-workers And employer if I suddenly showed up with a LB girlfriend. If I lived and worked back in the States, them sure, I think I would consider it. But I honestly would worry about my contract being renewed if I was public about my preference for LB here in Japan.

That being said, this last trip really opened my eyes to what I do want, and I plan to spend my vacations in Pattaya, so I will be there at least two months a year.

So to some it up, I prefer LB, but because of cultural stigmas where I live and for sure with my employer, I would not consider an open relationship with one when I was at home. But a girlfriend on my arm in Thailand, sure, no problem.

I think that because the LB culture is not so much out there here in Japan as it is in Thailand, that most people in Japan wouldn't know a LB if they saw one. While they do have NewHalfs here, I think most people really haven't spent any time thinking about them and think they only exist in the entertainment industry.

I've been living in Japan for the past 2 and a half years with my LT LB girlfriend and apart from a few close friends who I told a long time ago, I'm pretty sure that almost nobody has any idea of what is going on here. The whole concept just doesn't enter into their radar.

I think the bigger problem of having a LB gf in Japan would be actually finding one.

[guydesavoy]

(Jerome @ Jan. 12 2010,16:13) I think the bigger problem of having a LB gf in Japan would be actually finding one.

Not easy. Better to import

As a matter of interest Jerome, is your gf there under her own steam on a study visa or... ?

Cheers

guy

[manarak]

but those men who are into both ggs and ladyboys.......... ughhhh

I'm coming back to that statement.

Ladyboys come in all flavors: some who hate their dick, some who don't want/need sex, some who are nymphomaniacs, some who can be active but don't like it, some who like to be active, some who only like men, some who also like to fuck women, some who... etc.

I believe for the ladyboy lovers it is the same.
Some like post-op ladyboys, some like ladyboys with tiny flaccid cocks, some like ladyboys that become hard during sex some like ladyboys with big cocks, some like to get fucked by ladyboys, etc.


Sex is an important part, and I like it to go both ways.
I like to be "rogered silly" like another poster wrote (I love that expression).

I do believe love could occur with a ladyboy.
For me, this could happen with a passive or cut ladyboy as it could happen with a GG. But honestly GG sex doesn't do it for me anymore.
I suspect my interest would weaken over time.
But with a ladyboy that likes to be active... that's another story!


So, cancer, tell us about your sexual preferences?

[Jerome]

(guydesavoy @ Jan. 12 2010,18:33)

(Jerome @ Jan. 12 2010,16:13) I think the bigger problem of having a LB gf in Japan would be actually finding one.

Not easy. Better to import  

As a matter of interest Jerome, is your gf there under her own steam on a study visa or... ?

Cheers

guy

She came out here on a tourist visa but then found a (day) job so now has a work visa.

[guydesavoy]

(manarak @ Jan. 12 2010,16:58) So, cancer, tell us about your sexual preferences?

Cheeky bugger

But she continues to implore that she is not looking

[cancer12]

hehehe,,, i dont get what u mean?