Ladyboys versus GGs...

[JaiDee]

But don't worry Garcia.....  trust me, there are new guys just finding out about ladyboys  for the first time every single day!!  Girls like you, *especially* girls like you who are well-spoken and attractive, will always have an audience and thousands of  new guys are coming into this sub-culture literally daily.

      In the 90's I was only into women....if someone ever told me back then that I would someday spend  a substantial amount of my time not only dating ladyboys but also working with them, I would've said they were crazy!! But things happen.....and one thing lead to another, and before I knew it I was dating girls like you exclusively and for about 7 years.

   People like Guy and myself and the others I was referring to may be in the minority, who knows......many people who love ladyboys will stay in that mode forever and as I say, all is not lost for us who have gone back to ladies for now;  someday we may return to the LB's!  Who knows what the future holds, you know....

   No worries dear girl, just keep being yourself and the potential lovers will be tripping all over themselves to get to know you someday.

[cancer12]

hehe.... i have this magnet inside me for men who are committed... in other words "in relationship... so im probably generalizing...

[thegame925]

In August 2006 I wrote up the story of my first long-term relationship with an LB, but and was going to quote it here, but the search function does not go that far back.  So, to cut a long story short, here is a synopsis.

I was married in my mid-twenties and was unfaithful with GGs from the day of the wedding (bridesmaids) and all through my marriage.

I divorced, worked all over the world, met a twenty-one year old girl in Hong Kong when I was in my fifties who, when after five dates I get into my hotel room, I discovered she was an LB.  Up to that point in my life I had never touched a penis and would have run a mile if anyone suggested it.

I fell totally €œin love€ with her and never looked at anyone else for the nine and a half years we were together. She met my four children and my ex-wife and her husband €“ we all went on vacations together.  I was proud to walk by her side anywhere in the world.

Unfortunately, at thirty-one she was diagnosed with lymphatic cancer and died after nine terrible months of the illness.

After I had got over the loss I dated GGs and LBs but was really only happy with LBs.

In my sixties I met a Singaporean twenty-one year old LB whom I took to Australia and lived with for three and a half years €“ it was not love, but it was friendship with great sex and I was 100% faithful to her; I put her through college and played Professor Higgins to her Eliza Doolittle.  

But eventually, I got bored and moved onto Chile, South America. We kept in touch; she met a thirty year old Australian guy, had the €œfinal cut€ and married him. I walked her down the aisle at their wedding (and wrote about that in one of my early TRs).

Since then, I guess I€™ve been searching for the €œright girl€. I€™ve been with many P4P LBs and many LBs who have €œregular jobs€.

I am only active, I have never tried being passive, yet having been with GGs, post-ops and pre-ops I prefer pre-ops. Why? Possibly because they cannot fake orgasms and I want to be certain my partner is enjoying herself.

I am also conscious that now, at seventy-six years old, my time is running out and when I get to somewhere like Thailand, I become, as my TRs illustrate, a terrible monger €“ the proverbial €œkid in a sweet shop€. I am the butterfly who became a helicopter and is now an airport.

One of my daughters has often suggested I find a Filipina LB who is a trained nurse; that I live with her until I have a stroke or become ill, and, in gratitude, the  Filipina LB  will nurse me until I die.

One of my more cynical sons says that if it is a Filipina LB, as soon as I€™m incapacitated, she will take my watch and everything of value in our home and she will be off, leaving me to dribble in my wheel-chair.

As a Filipina you are indoctrinated by your culture to believe you are €œgay€, whereas if you were Malay or Thai you would merely be a €œThird Sex€. The other problem you have is the prejudices which prevail and make you think you have to be in the P4P business. It is harder for a guy to trust an LB who€™s been in the P4P business, than it is to trust an LB with a €œregular€ job.

Then there is the effect of hormones on €œmood swings€ which can be as dramatic as a GG with PMT, and ,in my experience, Filipina LBs, whilst they are easier to converse with than Thai LBs, they are more volatile in their emotional make-up, and, frankly I for one do not need the mood-swings and the aggravation.

I don€™t suppose I really answered your question, apart from the €œorgasm€ paragraph, but I just wanted to add my two-cents to your topic.

I hope you find your Prince one day, and that you do not have to kiss too many frogs whilst trying to find him!

[Bumpa STIKKA]

(thegame925 @ Jan. 06 2010,07:06) ...but the search function does not go that far back...

Don't forget to select "From the beginning" when searching older posts...

[xploring]

Hi Cancer. This is not the first time I have seen you provide a post on this forum exposing your search for your soulmate. From what I have learned from reading your posts I think it is obvious that you are a caring person. Don€™t forget that even GG meet a lot of guys and after dating and find this isn€™t the one, then breakup, and keep looking. So just because you meet someone and it doesn€™t become your one and only, it doesn€™t mean it is because you are only a cute LB (and girl you are an incredibly cute LB) and not a GG. More times than not the people we date will not be that perfect match and we will just have to keep on looking. That goes for GG too. When they break up with a guy their Ex moves on to another person. 99% of the time it is another GG. We just don€™t think in those terms.

I cant say that am only attracted to LBs but if one day I manage to find that person who stole my heart, and she was a LB I would be a lucky guy. Keep kissing us LB luving frogs, eventually you will find your Prince girl,

[f0xxee]

(xploring @ Jan. 06 2010,08:16) Don€™t forget that even GG meet a lot of guys and after dating and find this isn€™t the one, then breakup, and keep looking.  So just because you meet someone and it doesn€™t become your one and only, it doesn€™t mean it is because you are only a cute LB (and girl you are an incredibly cute LB) and not a GG.  More times than not the people we date will not be that perfect match and we will just have to keep on looking.  That goes for GG too.  When they break up with a guy their Ex moves on to another person.  99% of the time it is another GG.  

Well said:

And absolutely true: The chances of finding lasting true love first time up to bat are incredibly slim...
So you got to take a few lumps and move on, and most importantly learn from "love gone wrong" experiences without getting bitter and cynical.

[pacman]

How can a love that seems so wrong feel so right?...

[guydesavoy]

Don't forget the age factor cancer12. You are only 22 and also if you tend to date young guys chances are they are exploring themselves, their sexuality, and the scene. Things may (or may not) settle down in later years..

[thegame925]

Garcia - this topic came up in November 2007 - as:

Ladyboy Forums » The latest LADYBOY NEWS & Your Questions Answered! » News, Views and LADYBOYS! » Long term '1 on 1' with the ideal ladyboy?

The 3 pages include a Poll - So do a search based on the bold phrase above, and find the topic and read the posts.

It might assist your perspective.

[cancer12]

(thegame925 @ Jan. 06 2010,07:06) As a Filipina you are indoctrinated by your culture to believe you are €œgay€, whereas if you were Malay or Thai you would merely be a €œThird Sex€. The other problem you have is the prejudices which prevail and make you think you have to be in the P4P business. It is harder for a guy to trust an LB who€™s been in the P4P business, than it is to trust an LB with a €œregular€ job.

Then there is the effect of hormones on €œmood swings€ which can be as dramatic as a GG with PMT, and ,in my experience, Filipina LBs, whilst they are easier to converse with than Thai LBs, they are more volatile in their emotional make-up, and, frankly I for one do not need the mood-swings and the aggravation.

I don€™t suppose I really answered your question, apart from the €œorgasm€ paragraph, but I just wanted to add my two-cents to your topic.

i am not sure either if u answered my question, but i did read your long response... and im very sorry for your loss.

and in other things you pointed out, filipina ladyboys or femboys used to classify themselves as gay, but nowadays, we have a better realizations of who we really are.. and personally since i was younger, i already knew i was different and i knew then i was not gay.

and another... this is not just about me, but i just used my situation to make examples, if u guys left a message like "hope you find a prince", or "hope it wont be too long to find your guy", it is making me feel pathetic.. hehehe

[guydesavoy]

(cancer12 @ Jan. 06 2010,12:59) if u guys left a message like "hope you find a prince", or "hope it wont be too long to find your guy", it is making me feel pathetic.. hehehe

awwww. Maybe we just want you to feel loved

[alyssats]

(JaiDee @ Jan. 05 2010,22:43) Don't forget there are a lot of guys who have gone full circle as well; started with girls, switched to ladyboys, and now back to girls;  I am one of them.  Although *some* ladyboys interest me in photos or from posting up here [hint to Alyssa!!] I'd much prefer a tall blonde swedish or icelandic girl than anything Nana plaza is producing these days.

is that me? thanks such a sweetie

ok to go back to the topic for me i dont really see GG as a competition, Transsexual girls are my competition. Im proud to be a TS girl and if a guy dumped me because of a GG ill respect him and will just move on. I think it would be his lost not mine lol

I have something extra special between my smooth legs that your gf/wife would never have *wink wink*

[thehawk]

Really makes no difference to me, I like GG and ladyboys and could fall in love with either one of them.

And that's my point, if you fall in love with the person then it doesn't matter what they are. I just don't understand the fear of GG's - perhaps you've just always been with guys that are incapable of showing love, but personally if I love someone then it is only them I love and it doesn't matter who comes along, whether they are ladyboy or GG, then they won't be a threat because I already love my partner.

[fionasexyangel]

(JaiDee @ Jan. 05 2010,12:35) But don't worry Garcia.....  trust me, there are new guys just finding out about ladyboys  for the first time every single day!!  Girls like you, *especially* girls like you who are well-spoken and attractive, will always have an audience and thousands of  new guys are coming into this sub-culture literally daily.

      In the 90's I was only into women....if someone ever told me back then that I would someday spend  a substantial amount of my time not only dating ladyboys but also working with them, I would've said they were crazy!! But things happen.....and one thing lead to another, and before I knew it I was dating girls like you exclusively and for about 7 years.

   People like Guy and myself and the others I was referring to may be in the minority, who knows......many people who love ladyboys will stay in that mode forever and as I say, all is not lost for us who have gone back to ladies for now;  someday we may return to the LB's!  Who knows what the future holds, you know....

   No worries dear girl, just keep being yourself and the potential lovers will be tripping all over themselves to get to know you someday.

your post makes me think deep..

i'm living with my bf in west now.. i have no doubt that he love me, as i love him too... meet his parents and other families too...

but reading your post makes me wonder, what if one day he wake up and didn't love me anymore? or one day he fall in love with someone else?

ahh, nevermind... i don't want to think so far...

[robbo]

love should come with two buckets,one for you and one for everyone else around you