Crazy Transsexuals

[stogie bear]

Oh no, what if I become a "crazy transsexual" because of this?!? Hahaha!

That's the plan!



(I luv the 'harhar' smiley!)

[statuesque]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 20 2008,20:24)      



(I luv the 'harhar' smiley!)

Hmmm, is it just me or...
...that smiley face looks more like a guy panting and sweating and saying, "..Oh yeah baby, thats right, do it the way Daddy likes it.."
Hahaha!!   (hey I work in the creative industry!)  


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[stogie bear]

Sure does look that way... I was thinking some naughty old man with a bag of sweets near a children's playground!!!

[Naang Faa]

Nope,thats more like this-

x

[Fred_Nguyen]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 21 2008,00:42)  Sure does look that way... I was thinking some naughty old man with a bag of sweets near a children's playground!!!  

Van of sweets...

[daveduke007]

Mine has her "quirk's" now and then so I voted for that

[Naang Faa]

"Well nobody's perfect"

xx

[donnnnnny]

Drugs in the p4p sceen seem to be very common, and anyone taking these mind altering substances have the potential to go mental from time to time. you pay your money and take your chances

[doug]

OK, no offense to Naang Faa, statuesque, and the other ladies we have posting here, but I'm of the opinion that most, if not all, ladyboys ("transgenders" or whatever label you prefer) are along some point towards the "not stable" end of the sanity spectrum.

Let's face it. In very real terms, ladyboys are EXPERTS in denial. Every day their brain tells them one thing, and their body calls them a liar. And no amount of cosmetic surgery can erase the memories (or scars) of a childhood spent trying to sort out exactly what they are and where they fit in.

Now, please, please do not take this as insulting. I do not intend it that way. Just because someone is a "bit off" doesn't make them a bad person or mean that they are worth less than supposedly "normal" people. Just because someone talks to an invisible 6ft tall rabbit named "Harvey" doesn't mean they don't deserve dignity and respect. And it also doesn't mean that we have to "treat" them to "make them normal". Likewise, just because a ladyboy is a "bit off", that doesn't mean she's incapable (or not deserving) of giving or recieving love. Many ladyboys have found ways to "fit in" and lead almost perfectly normal lives. So I'm not trying to suggest that these girls are "bad" in anyway, OK?

However, most ladyboys do indeed fit the clinical definition of mental instability or self-delusion. In fact, I believe that transgenderism is still listed in the psychiatry index as "gender identity DISORDER". And no, I don't believe shrinks are being bigots when they say that. It's a clinical definition, not a moral one.

I've known lots of ladyboys, both here and in the states, and I can tell you that most of the ones I've met live profoundly unhappy lives. It is HARD to maintain the self-delusion necessary to deny the physical reality of their bodies. Many just give up and fall into self-destructive addictions like drugs, gambling, complusive shopping, excessive cosmetic surgery, etc... Or they sacrifice their self esteem to find "acceptance" in abusive relationship or prostitution. Others choose to become caricatures of themselves (drag queens) in order to "fit in" by purposefully making themselve objects of ridicule.

It is a RARE ladyboy who manages to avoid the MANY pitfalls and finds some level of peace and happiness. Self-contentment is about as rare among ladyboys as it is among the "johns" who troll the waters of Nana or Pattaya every week.

This isn't to say that transgenders should be "treated" or that they could be "cured". I'm only saying that it is a hard life and it takes its toll. When your brain and your body are at war over your "identity", and the only way to "feel normal" is to medicate yourself daily (hormones) and practice body mutilation (SRS is amputation, period), then that is the textbook definition of deluded behavior.

If some teen girl was cutting herself or vomitting to be thin, we'd call a doctor and try to help her recover some of her self-esteem. But ladyboys face the same kind of peer pressure and nobody blinks an eye when they cave into it. We've all known femboys who turned into plastic/silcone girls, not because they "wanted to", but because they fell into a crowd of ladyboys who'd done the same thing and exerted peer pressure on her to "get her chin done" or "shave her apple" or "inject a bit of silcone directly into her ass".

"Die young and pretty" is the motto of many ladyboys. So the dangers of that kind of body multilation (nerve damage, silcone poisoning, surgery mishaps, infection, etc..) are going to fall on deaf ears. Again, a clear indication of deluded and self-destructive behavior.

Worse still are the girls who get the chop for the sake of a man. Ugh. I couldn't imagine amputating my little piggie toe for any reason, no matter how happy it might make my 'significant other'. But amputating my genitals just to please someone else? How fucked up is that? And yet it's an all too common thing. I new a girl who did exactly that, and after she did it, the guy decided he really did want cock and promptly dumped her to go find himself some. What a dickhead! First he pressures her to get the "chop" so they can "get married", and then he dumps her when he gets bored with her "pussy". Meanwhile she was devestated by his rejection of her "ultimate act of love" and committed suicide about a month later.

Yes, I know that many ladyboys loathe their penises and can't wait to get the chop, but again, this is just another indication of deep-set self-loathing and self-hate.

The only way I could see SRS being "justified" was if it came as part of a comprehensive treatment and therapy program by a trained and professional psychiatrist who stood to make no financial gain from the surgery.

These chop shacks that hospitals and clinics run in Thailand are a joke. They don't give a SHIT if the girl is ready for such a big step or mentally tough enough to handle the consequences. To them it's just another "cosmetic" surgery. But it's not. It's a FUNDAMENTAL alteration of the body with serious side-effects, both emotional, mental, and physical. Any girl who races into it is practically screaming, "I'M UNSTABLE", and any clinic that performs it on such a girl is unethical.

Doctors don't staple stomachs so that obese people can keep on eating 15 chickens a day. They do it as part of a treatment program that takes into account the patients emotional, physical and mental state. There are serious, life-altering consequences to such a procedure and most doctors won't do it unless the patient's situation is "life threatening".

Likewise, an SRS done as part of a treatment program should be viewed as an extreme "last resort" to save the patient's life, not as just A GOAL in itself.

After all, what is the goal? Merely equating the physical image with the mental image? If so, then that's FUCKED UP. Nobody is physically the way they want to be, but what's important is to learn to be content with the way you are.

For example, when many guys hit their mid-life, they try to "re-capture" their youth. A fast car, a hot young mistress, and some hair-coloring gel (or a rug) help them delude themselves into thinking they're "still young", but every day their body calls them a liar. The bones creak a bit more in the morning, the hair clogs up the shower drain, and the little blue pill becomes a necessity rather than a "pick me up". Eventually, most guys learn to become comfortable with their aging bodies and they find some level of contentment (or at least resignation), and grow old with dignity. Other guys, of course, walk around in baggy jeans, get Wu-Tang tattoos and A.C.Fitch T-shirts until they're well into their 60's or 70's. Thailand is filled with guys in the latter group, because guys in the former group don't have to travel halfway around the world to find a place where they feel "normal".

Likewise, the truly "content" and "normal" ladyboys are the ones who found a way to accept and LOVE their bodies as they are. They don't strive to be a "real woman", but rather to just be A GOOD PERSON. They seek acceptance from their peers (and potential mates) through their actions and character, NOT through their conformity to some "gender role" that they simply DO NOT match.

Sadly, very few girls have the strength of will to find this contentment. Like I said, it take a lot of willpower to deny what your body is telling you every day, and so most girls don't have much left for the real battle (which is: how to give up that fight and learn how to be happy "as is").

So, first you've got girls who are facing a huge internal struggle. One that brings into question their very identity as a person and their role in society.

Next, you add in all the external pressures and scars from peers, haters, family, and the media (which insists on portraying them as clowns).

Then you add all the "normal" insecurities, traumas and disappointments that every human faces in their search for love and a meaningful relationship, but with the added burden of being treated as a fetish object or a source of potential shame and embarassment by guys she wants to love, but who won't love her back. (I knew a girl once who pissed on her pants during a road-side potty break because her boyfriend refused to let her pee standing up for fear that "someone might learn he's gay". Is he ever going to bring her home to mom and dad? hell no).

Ask any woman who's had to come to terms with infertility, and she'll tell you that it called into question her "role as a woman" and "her identity as a woman". Many genetic women lose their parents over this issue, and so it's no surprise that even if a ladyboy manages to find a nice, straight man who's willing to have her, that she may still lose him to a woman who can carry his children.

Then you add in all the pitfalls that trap unhappy, low-esteem people of any type: drugs, gambling, shopping, cosmetic surgery, abusive relationships, body mutilation, risk-taking, destructive and/or suicidal behavior, bareback sex as a form of suicide, etc...

Finally, you toss in a cocktail of hormones that their bodies aren't really designed to absorb.

Is it any surprise that so many girls are a bit off? What's more surprise is that there are some who do manage to avoid all these pitfalls and hurdles to arrive at a point where they can be content with themselves. Self-approval without the need for peer-approval or "opposite sex"-approval is not very common amongst ladyboys, and no, I don't count someone with a "bitchy" ego as someone who has achieved real self-approval.

Don't get me wrong. I love ladyboys, but I doubt I would ever involve myself emotionally with one. And it's not that I don't want to. I'd love to find a ladyboy that I could settle down with, because I know from my friendships with many ladyboys that I'm truly very content and happy around them.

However, I don't think I'd ever "fall in love" with one, because truthfully, I don't think I could stand a real heartbreak like that. How could one know that he's found a "real ladyboy" who's READY for a "real relationship", and not some needy girl who's just looking for an enabler for her self-destruction. How many ladyboys date a guy--not because they like THAT guy--but because dating a guy is something they feel they need to do in order to "feel normal"? Trust me, there is a difference.

The odds are really stacked against these girls, so I do admire the ones who've managed to thread the needle and find some level of happiness and sanity. But anyone who's honest knows that such girls are rare to come by.

So I'll continue to date and admire ladyboys from an emotional distance. Getting involved with someone while they thread a minefield is not my idea of fun.

[Naang Faa]

Let's face it. In very real terms, ladyboys are EXPERTS in denial.

No were not..

x

[doug]

(Naang Faa @ Jan. 21 2008,04:54)

Let's face it.  In very real terms, ladyboys are EXPERTS in denial.

 No were not..
                         
                             x

Hahah

Thanks for "not" proving my point

[Naang Faa]

I Take it you don't like Post-ops then Doug?

x

[Naang Faa]

"Die young and pretty" is the motto of many ladyboys.

News to me

[Dieter]

The most crazy transsexuals / ladyboys I know are heavy on drugs....sorry...

Dieter

[Fred_Nguyen]

(Naang Faa @ Jan. 21 2008,04:54)

Let's face it.  In very real terms, ladyboys are EXPERTS in denial.

 No were not..

You were not. But are you currently?