question regarding ATTITUDE

[diablo80]

Guys and Dolls

I have been with some LBs in Bangkok both top and bottom. Lately, I have tried to establish a relationship with a quite pretty-famous bottom LB. In other words I have tried to convience her stay and spent more time with me than other customers etc.

What happened is that another LB -top one- who has once been with me in the past has talked to her and told her everything regarding her and other LBs I have been with, thus making her to change her opinion about me. Well the truth is I did not tell her all the details about the LBs I have been with but I thought she would not be interested in my past since I have historically been with GGs...

Any opinion on the subject.... I have reached a point where I do not know what to do...

Diablo le Grec

[donnnnnny]

thais especially ladyboys love nothing better than to gossip and drop any falang in the shit if they can
cheers donnnny
,.

[stogie bear]

Why are you chasing a bar girl?

[stogie bear]

Do you really think that her opinion of YOU has been changed by the gossiping of another ladyboy? I suspect that the attention you lavished on her was fun and interesting to start with but has now become stifling and annoying.

Leave the girl alone and if you want to start an emotional relationship with a ladyboy find one that doesn't have her arse stretched for a living.

[diablo80]

Stogie Bear,

I leave her alone i have not insisted... she is the one who comes back to me now every night and says i do not care about money... (or is it all BULL).

Stogie bear I think you should tell me more about relationships in Thailand... As I have already said i am new in the Bangkok scene and now ver few about LBs...

thanks anyway for the advise ... now the next question is how to get rid of her without hearting her feelings (if she has any of them... the way you discribe them )

Diablo

[stogie bear]

now the next question is how to get rid of her without hearting her feelings

Good luck with that one. But her feelings may come back to haunt you.

There are a few guys here that make it VERY clear up front that they are 'butterflys' and they seem to have their heads screwed on right. No mixed and confusing emotions are at play here and fun and great sex for all is ensured!

Some of us fall into the trap of 'making friends' with the girls (and I am guilty of this!) and it comes back to haunt us.

Do you have angry ladyboys showing up at your house drunk at 3 in the morning? Do they leave you millions of messages and calls on your mobile? Fuck knows this has happened to me and it's a fucking pain in the ass and I wish that I'd never met these people at times...

But every time I have an awkward situation it's always my fault. I allow these friendships to develop and I'm not always as clear as I should be about where these people stand in my life.

Good luck with your situation, mate...

[kahuna]

Right...Even though I haven't been in the chase long, I'm guilty too...I have one chasing after me (well my wallet)...constant emails and calls...and it's my fault...

I've learned the hard way that it's whole lot easier to find them to get rid of them...

[BigTel]

I remember when I was living in Pattaya, friends of mine asking me why I never moved a GG in to live with me.

My reply was :

Any fool can get one in, you try getting one out.

[SamplerDoc]

(stogie bear @ Oct. 31 2006,17:21) Leave the girl alone and if you want to start an emotional relationship with a ladyboy find one that doesn't have her arse stretched for a living.

  Classic Line SB!!!
Now I must get back to reading the rest of the posts

[diablo80]

Do you have angry ladyboys showing up at your house drunk at 3 in the morning? Do they leave you millions of messages and calls on your mobile? Fuck knows this has happened to me and it's a fucking pain in the ass and I wish that I'd never met these people at times...

But every time I have an awkward situation it's always my fault. I allow these friendships to develop and I'm not always as clear as I should be about where these people stand in my life.

AMAZING...    this situation is happening right now. I have had this LB angry with me or crying (that what I thought) and then suddenly I said do not cry and what it is described above is happening.... when not with me she abse my mobile and appears in my condominiom when not expected to check me if I bring other people back to my place...

This situation may become rough especially when you bring a GG back home and you find a LB waiting for U at the entrance of your Door (thanks God did not give her keys to my apartment).

Now WHAT IS THE STEP to get rid of her softly without losing friendship and making her cry??? (or all this crying is FAKE). Please HELP ME

Diablo

[kahuna]

I'm reading with the hope that someone gives you the answer...

I've tried the "let her down easy" approach and that didn't work..

I've tried the "hard" approach..."I really don't want to see or talk with you again" and that didn't work...

Right now I'm using the "lie" approach..."I've had a serious operation and have to stay in the hospital for an extended period"...and I get sms messages and emails with prayers...

I guess the  next is the "Im dead" approach...but she'll probably just want to come to the funeral...

And mine is long-distance...I don't envy you living in the same city...

Hope someone gives you the right answer...

[stogie bear]

I guess the next is the "Im dead" approach...but she'll probably just want to come to the funeral...

Well, you are just gonna have to hurt her feelings and even then it won't work for a long time!

First of all NEVER allow them into your apartment for ANY reason amymore. If they start getting violent or emotional they are a fucker to get rid of. believe me I've been through this and threatened the bitch with the police and everything.

Meet them at weird places during the day when you know it's awkward for them and say that any other time is awkward for you!

Lie about EVERYTHING. Thais do it and so should you. When caught out just say "I lied!" The more outragious the better.

They are sneakier than you can imagine and in fact you are being stalked by an irrational mind. If possible leave town for a month without a word. Bed down in someone elses apartment or rent a place just for a month.

Obviously change your phone number...

You are a pot of gold, my friend and these insane little tykes have a firm grip!

Good luck...

[mardhi]

I think we are talking about a girl from Obsession here. If so I have realised who you are. She came up to me and asked me about you the other night - to which I replied "oh him - yes not seen him for a while" - but I can understand your predicament - very nice girl. My experience the only way you can do it, is to go into the bar and tell her, you are coming back with another LB who knows you are a butterfly - and then do just that - she will lose face but its the only way they get to really understand. I have to say it helps if the new LB is better looking, more feminine, bigger tits (whatever she can just justify to her colleagues) than the old one but in this case, assuming you are who I think you are, this is not an easy thing to do as she is one of the best looking girls anywhere on the LB circuit. I have done the be nice approach and it does not work.

Cheers
Mardhi

[donnnnnny]

go to some thug cop tell him you will give him 5000 to put the frighteners on her but not hurt her then you will be left alone. when in rome do what the romans do.

[Guest]

Damn I am curious as to who this girl is  

Anyway I am sure, well at least hoping that donnnny is joking about his approach to resolve the situation as this would surely create more problems. Of course if she does become violent and you fear your safety then by all means go and see the police.

I suggest talking to mamasan in the bar if she is a bar girl.  Go in when your girl is not there and have a chat with mamasan and tell her the situation. Make it clear the there has been some communication breakdown between you and the girl and that you are a butterfly and would love to keep coming back into her bar fine the girls but you feel you could not unless the situation is resolved.