How to get rid of a woman who wants to marry you

[Guest]

(testicular @ Jun. 04 2006,10:54)

(grunyen @ Jun. 04 2006,00:18) I have never seen a man so pussy whipped by his parents before.

You don't think you can tell them to leave your house?  You act like they have a right to stay and you are at a disadvantage.  Do you think they will stay in your house after you tell them to leave and just stop talking to them?

You are messed up in the head. You need to see a therapist. You've been under the apron so long you can't even remember what it looks like to see the sunlight.

The only really smart thing so far said on this subject.

It's time to be forceful and take control of your life. If you are pushing 30 and your parents are waiting outside YOUR house for you to come back from work so they can twist your life around then pack their bags and drive them home.

Do you really think that this will resolve itself if you can just stop from shooting someone for two months?

As for marrying people you have never met - well that is an insane move by any rational thinking person.

Sound like typical religeous folk, though!  

I am not sure if you guys just misunderstood my writings or you have your agenda and have to jump to it quickly. so fuck GTSL and his REAL questions, let's talk about how macho ourselves are.
I am not an experts on this and maybe you macho people are, if you pack up your parents' stuffs and throw them on the street. Would cops come over to put your parents in jail for traspassing or put you in jail for abadoning seniors. My parents live overseas. They don't have no place here. I can't check them into hotel rooms cuz I am not dragging two old people into lobbies and shit. Are you guys just fucking with me? Didn't I tell you they will leave in two months by themselves?
I'd like to hear about your stories on throwing your own parents on streets. Give me some pointers there, eh?

[Guest]

As for marrying people you have never met - well that is an insane move by any rational thinking person.

Another misread on your part, I was not asked to do that at all. They just set me up with someone. They expect me to date her. Today I just met her for the first time, she happened to be an OK person. Almost making me feel bad to drag her into this. I purposely endulged myself a little on the booze trying to set up her mood (she expressed her dislikes on drinkings) for me tell her how my decision really has always been next time. Also told my folks she is not too attractive (unfortunately it's the truth ) and again, to set up the exit strategy.  Luckily I got a couple of guys in previouse posts who decide to really read my questions and answered them ....

[Guest]

Actually you are sending out conflicting signals...

Topic title...

Topic: How to get rid of a woman who wants to marry you, don't laugh

From your first post...

My parents have been very aggressively pushing me to get married...

From your last post...

I was not asked to do that (marry her) at all. They just set me up with someone. They expect me to date her...

So which is it?

See a shrink mate. You are fucked up.

[Guest]

They are agressively pushing me to get married but not to a person I never met! You made it sound like it's an arranged marriage in ancient time and some shit. In their mind the date will lead to marriage. Man I have to spell every little single details for your limited reading ability now?

[Stewart]

GTSL - YOU are the one who asked for our opinions. Now you are getting them, you are getting all defensive!

If you don't want responses from this bunch of retards, then don't ask!

[Stewart]

f you can't tell people to let you run your own life, then you deserve all you get....just fucking tell them to go away, then laugh out loud at them, How difficult can that be?

Its a cultural thing Stewart...to some extent, the respect to your family, especially your parents, is similar to how it is in Thai culture. According to Confucian beliefs, you pay enormous amounts of respect to your parents (i.e. fililial duty) even if in some cases it trumps your own desires. The older generation has a greater expectation that this be fulfilled. Unlike you, I wouldn't advocate treating my loving parents like common pieces of garbage...

It's more extrame in certain cultures, that's for sure. "Western" cultures are more built on individual choice, "Eastern" cultures more about the good of the collective.

I employ several young Chinese nationals in Spore, and I get this all the time - they are trying to get away from this stuff, yet still feel this sense of duty back home. I just ask them if they want to look forward or backwards. To me, this is modernity versus tradition.

And if my "loving parents" really love me, they will understand this. If they don't, then yes sorry, they are going to get some responses they don't like - shame, but too bad

[vangough05]

(Stewart @ Jun. 04 2006,12:13) GTSL - YOU are the one who asked for our opinions. Now you are getting them, you are getting all defensive!  

If you don't want responses from this bunch of retards, then don't ask!  

Thats the kindest thing any one has ever said to me

[Guest]

(Stewart @ Jun. 04 2006,12:13) GTSL - YOU are the one who asked for our opinions. Now you are getting them, you are getting all defensive!  

If you don't want responses from this bunch of retards, then don't ask!  

No, the first couple of responses were great and well intentioned. But then some people came in, trowing curse words at me and man I can't take that!
Especially - they really think like I think. I got very frustrated this way. Is it my writings? Now I know I will not write a trip report cuz some folks will read them wrong. Still though, if my writing is not clear - I just need writing lessons, why do I need to see a shrink? That shit is not trying to be nice, that's trying to pick up a fight with my ass. I got to respond man.
So maybe as one more intent to make peace, once again, points well taken on how "it's my own life and I have to take a stand" and so on. If I don't already feel this way, why do I even ask my "tactical" questions?
It's still worthwhile cuz some of the early responses were really nice, not necessarily all suggested the things I would do but at least nobody just shouting without reasonings.

[vangough05]

Relax mate, its harmless fun. Don't take anything personel. As Stewart says don't take notice of us retards. I am pretty heartless, i didn't even cry when my gold fish died.

[Guest]

(Stewart @ Jun. 04 2006,12:19)

f you can't tell people to let you run your own life, then you deserve all you get....just fucking tell them to go away, then laugh out loud at them, How difficult can that be?

Its a cultural thing Stewart...to some extent, the respect to your family, especially your parents, is similar to how it is in Thai culture. According to Confucian beliefs, you pay enormous amounts of respect to your parents (i.e. fililial duty) even if in some cases it trumps your own desires. The older generation has a greater expectation that this be fulfilled. Unlike you, I wouldn't advocate treating my loving parents like common pieces of garbage...

It's more extrame in certain cultures, that's for sure. "Western" cultures are more built on individual choice, "Eastern" cultures more about the good of the collective.

I employ several young Chinese nationals in Spore, and I get this all the time - they are trying to get away from this stuff, yet still feel this sense of duty back home. I just ask them if they want to look forward or backwards. To me, this is modernity versus tradition.

And if my "loving parents" really love me, they will understand this. If they don't, then yes sorry, they are going to get some responses they don't like - shame, but too bad

I agree with your points Stewart. But I think we as individuals have to fight for our own indepedence no matter what. There is a cultural thing, yes, that simply means the battle is tougher. It doesn't mean one should give up.
One thing - sorry for seemingly trying to pick up the fight again, but really NOT - that some previouse posters do not understand is that we as this generation of chinese think very differently than our parents. So the suggestions asking me to nicely but firmly communicate with them will not work. I in fact have already stop talking to them. It's very weird to have people in your house and only say three words to them a day. But they don't quit - Ronin has told to be easy on them - cuz "they are only th product of their time". This is true. It's just very unfortunate that I have to be in a position of hurting someone to gain my independence. Think about a stalker - every chinese parent from my father's generation (he is also 40 year older than me, so go figure) is a stalker for their sons and daughters. Their lives have been devoted to this and there is no turn back on this. I am actually doing a very crule thing to them but again, no choice. I am also doing this to end a viciouse cycle because if I cave in, I am gonna grow the same twisted mentality toward my own kinds. Maybe my dad liked ladyboy too huh? and now he is thinking if he could give up his dream why can't I ...
Thanks for bringing this thread back to normal - I thought I lost my temper too...

[Guest]

(vangough05 @ Jun. 04 2006,12:30) Relax mate, its harmless fun. Don't take anything personel. As Stewart says don't take notice of us retards. I am pretty heartless, i didn't even cry when my gold fish died.

Thanks man. I thought I got today pretty well managed. Came home to see Mav's winning the western conference title. I figured I will check the thread before heading to LGD and the first thing I saw is someone throwing curse words on me, now I am in no mood to jack off ...
BUT YOU ARE RIGHT - it's harmless fun and I should chill out.

[Guest]

(goingtosugarland @ Jun. 04 2006,12:40)

(Stewart @ Jun. 04 2006,12:19)

f you can't tell people to let you run your own life, then you deserve all you get....just fucking tell them to go away, then laugh out loud at them, How difficult can that be?

Its a cultural thing Stewart...to some extent, the respect to your family, especially your parents, is similar to how it is in Thai culture. According to Confucian beliefs, you pay enormous amounts of respect to your parents (i.e. fililial duty) even if in some cases it trumps your own desires. The older generation has a greater expectation that this be fulfilled. Unlike you, I wouldn't advocate treating my loving parents like common pieces of garbage...

It's more extrame in certain cultures, that's for sure. "Western" cultures are more built on individual choice, "Eastern" cultures more about the good of the collective.

I employ several young Chinese nationals in Spore, and I get this all the time - they are trying to get away from this stuff, yet still feel this sense of duty back home. I just ask them if they want to look forward or backwards. To me, this is modernity versus tradition.

And if my "loving parents" really love me, they will understand this. If they don't, then yes sorry, they are going to get some responses they don't like - shame, but too bad

I agree with your points Stewart. But I think we as individuals have to fight for our own indepedence no matter what. There is a cultural thing, yes, that simply means the battle is tougher. It doesn't mean one should give up.
One thing - sorry for seemingly trying to pick up the fight again, but really NOT - that some previouse posters do not understand is that we as this generation of chinese think very differently than our parents. So the suggestions asking me to nicely but firmly communicate with them will not work. I in fact have already stop talking to them. It's very weird to have people in your house and only say three words to them a day. But they don't quit - Ronin has told to be easy on them - cuz "they are only th product of their time". This is true. It's just very unfortunate that I have to be in a position of hurting someone to gain my independence. Think about a stalker - every chinese parent from my father's generation (he is also 40 year older than me, so go figure) is a stalker for their sons and daughters. Their lives have been devoted to this and there is no turn back on this. I am actually doing a very crule thing to them but again, no choice. I am also doing this to end a viciouse cycle because if I cave in, I am gonna grow the same twisted mentality toward my own kinds. Maybe my dad liked ladyboy too huh?   and now he is thinking if he could give up his dream why can't I ...
Thanks for bringing this thread back to normal - I thought I lost my temper too...

I re-read your post Stewart and I think I was just repeating your points - I am making a mistake that I just accused others of....

[Guest]

Everybody take a deep breath, and chant an om... Concentrate on your breathing....
Ok... who's on first? what's on second,...

Always, always, always find the mood to jack off, or something. It's good for your mental health; got to have that balance between the mental and physical stress.

Ronin

[Guest]

No man, now I drank too much. I am really dickless now ...

[Guest]

Ok, save it for the next time, double the load.

Shit, didn't check my last post; looks like I was jacking off on the flag.

Cheer up, have a good weekend.

Ronin