Who here has dumped their wife...

[stogie bear]

Thing is, my mom *loves* her, since she never had a daughter and my wife is great at kissing ass when it suits her. Tough thing will be to get out without pissing off mom and losing out in the future.

Same here mate. My mum hasn't spoken to me since I left Mexico! She and her second husband doted on my wife... It's amazing that my own mum can side with a girl from Mexico she hardly knows! Oh well...

So you have to do some planning - tell your mum that you are unhappy and will probably separate... include your mum in everything you are thinking and so it won't be a shock when it happens. In fact you can tell her that you hope she won't be too disappointed if and when it happens...

Sounds like your rescue may need some planning but start those plans today. Hoard and hide all the cash you can too...

[Stewart]

Thing is, my mom *loves* her, since she never had a daughter and my wife is great at kissing ass when it suits her. Tough thing will be to get out without pissing off mom and losing out in the future.

Sounds like she is going to leave the inheritance to the wife!

[Guest]

am serious i had to give away a 1500 usd dollar dog to my nieces husband. the dog had championship akc registered pedigrees from both parents. i charged 500 stud fee plus pick of the litter sometimes 2 picks. the dog was incredabley smart and well trained with very little training from me. it was all breed into him and he did it natrually. plus my kids could crawl all over him, pull on his tail or ears or poke him and he would take it all with out getting mad. i really do think he loved the kids after all that, he was very protective of them.........hell i was going to move him with us overseas.. he would have been worth every penny to ship him there also....

no she did not get the truck or my guns i still have those. plus yuo would not catch me in a dodge vechicle of any kind. their crap

[stogie bear]

Dogs... I hate 'em! Never understood how a guy could get so close to a dumb animal.

Now - sloths on the other hand...

[buttafly]

In 12 years I have given my Ex 150K US dollars

answer your question?

[Naja Tom]

Well, I lived most of my life in California and was married just shy of 20 years to my ex. In that wonderful man loving state, everything is split down the middle...doesn't matter who, when or what. Our divorce was final in 1999 and I am STILL paying her almost a grand a month in spousal support AND she got luckily less than 50% of my retirement from out there. The laws in California TOTALLY SCREW the man, especially if he makes more money than his wife. If she wants to fight you she can put you through hell. So tread lightly man!!! Get out early to cut your losses because after 10 years it's considered a long term marriage and you are stuck with the law that COULD make you pay her until you die. I also am forced to carry her on my life insurance for $150k of it which also sucks big time. She quit her good job and has never really tried to do better even though she is very capable of it.

So get a damn good divorce attorney and HOPE that she is willing to work it out with you. If she plays hardball, it's gonna cost you a lot...especially in good old Calif. Our attorney fees combined were about $70,000 and she ended up with exactly the same thing she would have had if she had not been such a bitch!!!! The one thing I had going is I worked for the court system and my attorney said pay me some as we go along and when it's over I'll cut my fee in half. Saved me some cash!!!!

And now I am working on another retirement in NC, collect my retirement from Calif and can't wait to just get the hell out of here when it's all over!!!

[buttafly]

every state screws the man, it's the way it is

people on this board are old farts for the most part and already know better, but for you young guys out there who have never taken "the walK' check this site and read and learn


www.NoMarriage.com

[Guest]

I was going to slog Stogie again but frankly, I do agree there is little sense to marriage at all these days.

For the split, "Fair" can only be determined by the couple, and if it's a friendly situation, then I recommend jointly working a separation agreement with a single lawyer. If it's not friendly, then only 2 lawyers fighting can do the arrangement, and you have basically little say, just follow the law.

In my case we jointly did a separation agreement, and while difficult and a little unfair, I am ok with it, and it was good for my sanity to not go through a legal battle and think about that for the rest of my life.

[jimslim]

Its best if you can agree a deal because if the fight becomes dirty (like it usually does) the law always favours the woman (esp if you have kids )
Its amazing how people can change overnight at the mere sniff of money
I got done for quite a few quid , but best move I ever made .

[Guest]

SB-----well i always wanted a tasmainien devil for a guard thing. maybe i will get one now.

[Guest]

(bobdobbs @ Jun. 23 2007,09:32) I hear that. I really love my house, but I stand to inherit somewhere around a million bucks when my mom kicks -- probably not for a few years. My wife knows that and still she's a complaining bitch. I really don't want my wife to have a dime of that money and if I dump her before I inherit it, she won't.

I guess I have to bite the bullet and move out with as much of my shit as I can.

hear what you can do have her leve every thing to her pet then when she die you get the pet and doing so only you get the pet and no 1 but you then the bicrh cant get shit but if yore in thailand it not mater she cant get the money if you leve her well thats is what i have ben told may be im wroung

[moe666]

Get your own lawyer and keep an eye on him or her. It is your divorce and they are representing you.

A friend and his wife split and they both were fighting over shit finally someone told him what the fuck are you doing let go of that shit. So John says ok you can have the crap sign she refuses. A lawyer friend gives him a divorce program and in the morning John would pick out the petition for the day and print it out take it to court and have it submitted to her. Well she has to respond using her lawyer at $200 a pop she signed off after about a week.

You may not like her any more but keep your cool, always be civil let her make the mistakes. Remember every thing is negotiable even in a community property state.

Get your own lawyer donot use the sameone and get a divorce lawyer and also donot use a friend.

[Naja Tom]

One thing I did forget about in California....MEDIATORS!!!! You can hire a divorce mediator that you both agree to go to. They will sit down and work out the settlement that you both sign, file it. Since Calif. is a no fault state, you can be divorced in 6 months. A mediator is SO MUCH CHEAPER than hiring an attorney and they are usually attorneys anyway. But it keeps you out of court and no attorneys running up the fees filing motions and other shit. My ex would not do the mediator route and it cost her dearly since about $35,000 of what she got out of the house, etc went to her idiot attorney.

But I have to relate that I got married again here in NC and she took me out of town to Atlantic City for a night and when we came back her kids had cleaned out her stuff from the house that was in my name and she had ripped 5k from the savings account. Well, here you have to wait a year and a day to file, which I did, and she was so damn stupid she never talked to her attorney and I got an uncontested divorce through and now she is forever barred for coming after me for anything!!!! The house is all mine but she could have gotten some money out of it since her pay went into the joint checking account that paid the mortgage. So now I feel that FOR ONCE I got JUSTICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[moe666]

Just getting rid of a loser is justice enough.

[Guest]

Thanks for all the tips, guys. Per Stogie's advice, I spent 30 minutes on the phone today telling my mom what a gold-digging bitch I've married. I think she gets it. My mom put all her assets in a trust which stipulates that if any of her three sons die, the inheritance is to be divided amongst the surviving sons. My wife won't quit bitching about that. I told mom about that and she said her money is for blood relatives only. Yeah mom!

Anyway, I'm still planning on what to do with this piece of crap. The sooner she's gone, the better, but I really don't want to start over.