Is it possible to find real love

[Guest]

I would like to know what you guys think about finding real love with a Ladyboy?[B]

[tropical]

Hey Wolf,
 Its impossible to find real love if your paying for sex with either a GG or LB.
 Perhaps you can find real love with a non pay for play LB, but you dont need us guys to answer that, It depends on how committed you are to making it possible ,only you have the answer to this question,are you prepared for the sacrifices needed to make a relationship last...?

[stogie bear]

I would like to know what you guys think about finding real love with a Ladyboy?

I think finding real love with a ladyboy is great.

[olekunde]

the chances are so slim i would say no.
if you go after an isaan ladyboy with no education she will always depend on you to pay for her and her family, so you will always aske yourself if she really love you or your money.

look outside the bar scene and the chances are better, but it will depend on many other factors as your looks, age etc etc etc ...

95% of the posters here only have experience with the bar scene, and it is not in this scene you would look for a lifelong partner.

[stogie bear]

the chances are so slim i would say no.

Incorrect.

if you go after an isaan ladyboy with no education she will always depend on you to pay for her and her family, so you will always aske yourself if she really love you or your money.

Depends on the ladyboy.

look outside the bar scene and the chances are better.

Correct.

95% of the posters here only have experience with the bar scene, and it is not in this scene you would look for a lifelong partner

Wise words!

[Guest]

the chances are so slim i would say no.

Incorrect.

if you go after an isaan ladyboy with no education she will always depend on you to pay for her and her family, so you will always aske yourself if she really love you or your money.

Depends on the ladyboy.

look outside the bar scene and the chances are better.

Correct.

95% of the posters here only have experience with the bar scene, and it is not in this scene you would look for a lifelong partner

 Wise words!

Thanks for all this feed back. Lots of trues and I guess everybody is right in what they are saying. I still hope to get more feed back.
Interesting indeet. Thanks!

[olekunde]

if you are *looking for love*, you can get yourself into trouble, mentally and financially. there are some bad seeds that will do and say everything to get your money. they can smell a lonely farang almost as soon as they set foot on don muang. *falling in love* in los is very easy. it usually doesnt take more than a drink, blowjob and 1000b before you have a girlfriend.

if you only plan to come as a tourist, youll probably end up in one of the nana or patpong bars, so my advice is - dont plan to get a girlfriend unless you want to settle in los, and enjoy your holiday.

[Tomcat]

The problem with real love is that ones sense of rationality can slip or disintegrate very fast. You can become almost Zombiefied with adulation and i guess most of us have to learn the hard way by getting hurt first before wising up.

Your skin usually gets a little thicker after the first let down.
Well it should do anyway...if it doesnt one has a big problem.

Of course love is a great thing and you will probably live a lot longer if you can maintain it but i personally try to think a lot harder now before catching cupids arrow ........sounds easy eh , ....well its not.. im only human ( well almost) after all.

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

In my case it has taken me almost five years of trial and lots of errors to find the one LB that I can say I love and that I am willing to commit whatever it takes to make it a successful relationship. Yes, she is a bar girl but not all of them are money grubbing Skanks. Take your time, do your homewrok, keep your wits and common sense about you and never forget this " if it feels like it's too good to be true, it probably is." I screwed up badly twice, I made all the the "newbie" mistakes and from these fuck ups on my part I learned valuable lessions. I was not looking to meet that someone special the past few years and maybe that is why I lucked out now. She came into my life quite by chance but there was something different, my radar went on full tilt and I was going to make sure I did not commit error number three. Thirteen months later all is full speed ahead for us. I took my time, I talked with her, I spent a lot of time with only her, I made the choice to sell my home here in America and buy a place for us in Thailand.
The bottom line is, why should you view a relationship with a LB any different than a relationship with a Generic girl, whether it is in Thailand or in own country? In either case if you rush into something with blinkers on you are going to have big problems. That is my opinion, I am only speaking fom my own erperiances with a Thai LB. It can be done but it is going to take a lot of work on both sides. Remeber, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[daveduke007]

the chances are so slim i would say no.

Incorrect.

if you go after an isaan ladyboy with no education she will always depend on you to pay for her and her family, so you will always aske yourself if she really love you or your money.

Depends on the ladyboy.

look outside the bar scene and the chances are better.

Correct.

95% of the posters here only have experience with the bar scene, and it is not in this scene you would look for a lifelong partner

 Wise words!

with you totally stogie

Im a lucky guy to have found my sweetie  

Dave...

[Guest]

Quote (olekunde @ Dec. 06 2005,18:06)
the chances are so slim i would say no.

Incorrect.

Stogie: Have you become 'older but wiser'? Seems to me that this is very different from what you used to say about this! Has something happened to change your mind?

[thaibound]

I would like to know what you guys think about finding real love with a Ladyboy?[B]

it would be like finding a fish riding a bicycle.

how can one find what does not exist? it is not 'real love' which has shattered our hearts repeatedly, nor real love of which 'private dancer' speaks, and never would real love take half of all we own, all we spent our lives gathering for the warmth and comfort of all those for whom we care and put it in their maiden name -- before tossing us out with the trash! No, not "real" love! not the divine, the infinitely beautiful and pleasurable, the unchanging, unending and unbearably romantic 'real love'.

yes, my son, wrapped within this mortal coil we are both doomed and blessed, for just an ocean away at most, we may bask in the pure love, the fully paid up and nothing due later love, the upfront and honest and we're both going to be glad we were here together love, the i do this for you and you do this for me and all is right with the world love, that love, that limitless affection of an unending line of ever more beautiful ladyboys who come of age as constant as a waterfall upon the deep needy pool of our bodies and souls.

but as for that old-fashioned notion of 'real love with a ladyboy' -- why give up the magic infinite waterfall for a single finite fountain? i'll settle for momentary love with the ladyboy of the moment. moment to moment to moment. there is only the moment. and thus there is only love. THAT my child, that is the real love to be found with a ladyboy.

[Guest]

yes, I want some of that too

[Guest]

In my case it has taken me almost five years of trial and lots of errors to find the one LB that I can say I love and that I am willing to commit whatever it takes to make it a successful relationship.  Yes, she is a bar girl but not all of them are money grubbing Skanks.  Take your time, do your homewrok, keep your wits and common sense about you and never forget this " if it feels like it's too good to be true, it probably is."  I screwed up badly twice, I made all the the "newbie" mistakes and from these fuck ups on my part I learned valuable lessions.  I was not looking to meet that someone special the past few years and maybe that is why I lucked out now.  She came into my life quite by chance but there was something different, my radar went on full tilt and I was going to make sure I did not commit error number three.  Thirteen months later all is full speed ahead for us.  I took my time, I talked with her, I spent a lot of time with only her, I made the choice to sell my home here in America and buy a place for us in Thailand.
The bottom line is, why should you view a relationship with a LB any different than a relationship with a Generic girl, whether it is in Thailand or in own country?  In either case if you rush into something with blinkers on you are going to have big problems.  That is my opinion, I am only speaking fom my own erperiances with a Thai LB.  It can be done but it is going to take a lot of work on both sides.  Remeber, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Thanks for this very positive approach. I am quite new on this forum and don't know much about all this. Never been in Thailand either. I had a few LB friends here and there. Unfortunately it never worked out yet. I am not saying that I would make a difference in a relationship with a LB or GG. Not at all actually. But I am happy to read that it worked out for now. Good Luck!
You also raise a few other interesting subjects that I would be keen on knowing more about. f.i. newbie mistakes and some of these valuable lessons.....Really, it sound interesting to be explored further
I definitely agree that not all of them ( bar girls - LB or GG ) are money grubbing Skanks!

[limpdick]

limpdick says if you really want it and you can put up with the late late hours they keep, GO fo it. I have a lb gf right now that all you wish you had, top of the line, Arreya kind of pretty also She is totally in love with me, does not even care about work, just wants to se me, wants to go to RCA have etc. But, do I really want to get into this mess, not really, great sex, happy to be walking hand in hand. But our sleeping patterns do not match, and communication is far from easy. Damm! did I ever open a can of worms!
So far I am still her boyfriend, but I wondering how long I can deal.