What is a 'long term' relationship?

[Tomcat]

It nots that simple

A modern day Philosopher would analize the meaning of each word of "long term relationship". If we are talking just about LB-Farang monogamous then the word "long" would only be used in refering to this case study to have any meaning.

Of course if you are comparing with normal relationships then perhaps that should be made plain otherwise the question is ambiguious.

Take a sample of all the LG-Farang relationships since say 1980 and do the statistics. My guess is that there would be a few 10 years but most would be 2-3 years with many lasting 3 months. The average therefore could be skewed towards 5 years but thats why averages mean nothing.

if around 80-90 % last 2-3 years then the word "long" in this case study would therefore be 3 years. (IMO)

[Guest]

Hi Guys

I have been a fringe dweller for a couple of months..This topic got me going !!!

Long term relationship ? is there such a thing as everybody has there own idea, including the person that you plan on having a relationship with, usually a woman (previously ) well they dont know what they want in life so how should we be able to figure them out ?... In my case marriage lasted 5 months...I didnt know it at the time but she did me a huge favor by leaving... I discovered ladyboys !!!!

As for a time ,well I agree with JaiDee, 5 years wasn't an option so I would have to say 10 years, but no relationship I have ever had has lasted more than 5 years ..

I haven't had a Ladyboy relationship but like all relationships you have to work at them ....We are trying to mate 2 totally different beings and make them fully compatable...I dont know if the human race is that advanced to do that !

Anyhow 5 years is my answer.

Cheers

[stogie bear]

Hi Guys... I have been a fringe dweller for a couple of months..This topic got me going !!!

Welcome, friend. It was your avatar that got ME going!

[Guest]

Thanks for the welcome Stogie, hopefully I will contribute to the offerings here.

Cheers

[Guest]

true, very cool avatar!

 from what I can see in this thread most people think a relationship doesn't have to be monogamous, so naturally the ladyboy can think the same way.  so I am sure many guys consider themselves to be in a relationship even if they are a long ways from their sweetheart, but the ladyboy or lady they are smitten with may be carrying on relationships with 4 or 5 other guys simultaneously.  I don't want to be one of those guys.

[Looker]

 I don't want to be one of those guys.

Which guys..the first group..or the second group??

[Guest]

I will never be a guy that says I am having a "relationship" with a ladyboy while I am 10,000 miles away, while she is telling her friends that she is having a relationship with 5 guys from 5 different places.

[Looker]

I will never be a guy that says I am having a "relationship" with a ladyboy while I am 10,000 miles away, while she is telling her friends that she is having a relationship with 5 guys from 5 different places.

And how would you know that she is having 5 more guys?

[Guest]

I guess I am just skeptical, cynical, whatever you want to call it

quotes verbatum from a cell phone conversation I heard in a taxi on Phuket

cell phone rings, ladyboy looks at the incoming number
[ladyboy puts finger over mouth and says 'shhhhh' to me before she picks up]

"Hi Darling, how are you?"

pause.....relationship boy from america is speaking now

"Yes, I am fine. Yes, I still visit my brother at he home for 1 week; I back Bangkok sunday"

Ummm, not really...... you have been with me on Phuket the last week

"Yes, I miss you also; when you come back?"

translation.... keep sending dough, and make sure you give me enough notice so I will not be away with another one of my relationships when you are coming

"Thank you, is very beautiful here now, and in your country, are you OK?"

translation.... keep sending dough, and make sure you give me enough notice so I will not be away with another one of my relationships when you are coming

More small talk continues while I shake my head laughing; she hangs up with an "I love you too, darling" and then says to me, and I swear this is true while she shivers her body; "Uggghhh..... I don't like that guy at all".

can this really be the only time this has happened? again, I won't be one of those guys, my relationships last until I get off.

[Looker]

  can this really be the only time this has happened?  again, I won't be one of those guys, my relationships last until I get off.

Of course we all believe you..
But..what kind of lb was she? A club worker one or someone with a normal job/normal life?

[Guest]

HAAA JaiDee that was me one the other end of the phone, What were you doing with my girlfrend???

[Guest]

But..what kind of lb was she? A club worker one or someone with a normal job/normal life?

Ummmm, that girl was actually a college grad who didn't like working in bars but still did some hooking from escorting, referrels from here, going to straight disco's and the like; so yes, a working girl. You may have someone that you are smitten with Looker and that is great, I hope it works out for you and as we always talk about up here, there ARE that small percentage of nice ladyboys and ladies who just want a nice relationship. The question always asked is 'where to find them' and truth be told only the people that can live there full-time have the means to find that out.

if anyone thinks they can carry on a meaningful relationship with a working girl while they are out of the country they are only decieving themselves and setting themselves up for a lot of hurt later.

[stogie bear]

  if anyone thinks they can carry on a meaningful relationship with a working girl while they are out of the country they are only decieving themselves and setting themselves up for a lot of hurt later.

I agree.

[Guest]

Thats why I gotta find a job over there, so I can stay and be around all the time! HA!

[jellybean]

  if anyone thinks they can carry on a meaningful relationship with a working girl while they are out of the country they are only decieving themselves and setting themselves up for a lot of hurt later.

 I agree.

I disagree    

I agree that if anybody in a relationship  working girl believes she has stopped working and is celibate while he's out of the country then he IS deceiving himself.

However, I fundamentally disagree that if a LB continues to work then she cannot be serious about somebody.

As someone currently in this situation, my views maybe some what biased but Kai and I are still "together" sure being apart is a real bitch but we talk daily and she still working but it is just that.....work.

If we can fuck someone without having any feelings for them, why can't they?