'Proper' relationships with ladyboys...

[guydesavoy]

"PROPER RELATIONSHIP WITH A LADYBOY LOVER"

That's an interesting question..for another thread.

Can someone start a thread about Improper relationships ?

Wait... that's the Trip Report forum

[young-asian]

Okay, Now I know! SO its all about buying a barbie doll, buy him fashion clothes and fancy shoes and .... ....... ...... ..... .......

[guydesavoy]

(young-asian @ Nov. 13 2010,16:19) .... its all about buying a barbie doll, buy him fashion clothes and fancy shoes and .... ....... ......  ..... .......

Check out the Cissyboy thread that Tomcat started.

Seriously, I think you need to start a new thread with your question, cos this one is about other things. Start your own and I'm sure you will get many responses

[Jake_Sully]

You haven't changed at all have you? You seem a natural at putting the knife in for your amusement and then intentionally twisting it while misconstruing everything that was implied originally.

Sour grapes gentlemen!

[Steff]

Jake, you get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?!?! You seem to be steaming again. Don't wanna mess with ya, so I will try hard to stay in your good books

[Jake_Sully]

Its not me you need to worry about.

But on a forum where we try to prevent other members from quagmires and such if we can, I thought a warning to those that might listen would be helpful.

Like they say, to the wise, a gesture is enough.

[transcebu]

(young-asian @ Nov. 13 2010,12:09) What do you mean about the terms PROPER RELATIONSHIP??

Are you guys implying that transgendered girl can never love??

Men are just making us their fantasies. We are just used then thrown.

I wanna twist the question of this thread.

"PROPER RELATIONSHIP WITH A LADYBOY LOVER"

LOL

PLease comment folks

When referring to ladyboys, most of the gents here are thinking of Thai trangendered women, although some transwomen from other countries, have adopted the term to identify themselves.

I don't know much about thai ladyboys, other than one who told me she loved me until the day she surprised me that she's married a German and didn't want me to contact her again.

I'm more familiar with Philippino transpinays, some of which see you as a wallet and others who are sincere, honest and very loving and loyal.

Should the lovers look in the mirror? For sure, there aren't too many who can maintain a loyal 1-woman relationship and many who wouldn't claim to want to. Hardly the ideal partners if one wants a serious long term relationship. Of course, each to their own.

[manarak]

to come back to the topic, I'm currently "in" a relationship, marriage, etc, and also probably having been through 80% of it, I am not sure I even want a "proper" relationship anymore.

I think I'd prefer something based on necessity, i.e. the girl or the LB agrees to the relationship because we get along well and have happy moments and stays for the money.
When money finit, girl finit.

The convenience of it beats the marriage thing for sure.

But that is just my egoistic view - the LB or GG will of course want some safety net for her old days.

[EyeMahk]

(manarak @ Nov. 13 2010,16:47) I think I'd prefer something based on necessity, i.e. the girl or the LB agrees to the relationship because we get along well and have happy moments and stays for the money.
When money finit, girl finit.

Then you'll like Thailand, the scenario you describe is very easy to find here.  

It's a relationship, but not of equals. Not bad, just different. When the relationship is about money but they guy thinks it's not ... that is when the "heartbreak" happens when money finit.

[manarak]

Then you'll like Thailand

I know...

[kahuna]

(EyeMahk @ Nov. 13 2010,21:23) ... that is when the "heartbreak" happens when money finit.  

Ain't nothing wrong with a little heartbreak in your life...If you ain't had a taste of heartbreak, you ain't really lived...

[Steff]

I suspect "heartbreak" may be part of the reason we have all ventured beyond our respective scopes of comfort primarily because it ceased being something we could accept or content with comfortably. Innard-resting journey if nothing else. I for one consider myself blessed for having the opportunity. Hooray!!! For those of you who might disagree, well... what can I say. Bon Chance, mes ami!!!!

[f0xxee]

(Bumpa STIKKA @ Nov. 11 2010,13:31) It's easy for your partner to feel unneeded and not useful. You may hear her asking or hinting about ways she can contribute to the relationship to make it more equitable.

I've found that relying on Olay for a lot of things balances the relationship.

She relies on me for A, B and C and I need her for X, Y and Z.

This is especially important where there is a bigger difference in age as an older partner can come across as domineering or dictatorial even unintentionally.

This is very true as the relationship develops. Its easy to get your nose out of joint feeling that you are the working and supporting partner while the LB in question seems glued to the Cartoon channel.

Mrs F was always willing to do as required, but not without direction. This stuck me as laziness, and started to become a big fat fence between us, almost creating a fight there was no coming back from.

Happily this changed when we moved into the new house at a point where it was still uncompleted 3 weeks ago. (Still no kitchen!) The difference? I told Mrs F I was on holidays. It was up to her to decide what colour marble for the kitchen, what colour paint. What tiles. What blinds for the bedroom. What plants. The works. Once I passed the repsonsibility to her we have become a far more harmonious couple. And she is going gangbusters. Interstingly none of the various subcontractors or labourers ever look to me for confirmation. They accepted from the start she is the  boss.

Lucky for me she has worldly tastes and the house is not purple and pink.

[f0xxee]

(young-asian @ Nov. 13 2010,12:09) What do you mean about the terms PROPER RELATIONSHIP??

Are you guys implying that transgendered girl can never love??

Men are just making us their fantasies. We are just used then thrown.

I wanna twist the question of this thread.

"PROPER RELATIONSHIP WITH A LADYBOY LOVER"

LOL

PLease comment folks

Hi,

It seems to me you have missed the point of the thread.


"Proper Relationships" in the context of this thread would seem to be resonably defined as a de-facto marriage between a ladyboy and a man. In other words a living together arangement. I belive that is quite clear.

"men are just making us thier fantasies"
"We are just used and then thrown"
See the problem is girl, you have never been a girl. Every woman, (not LB) below the age of 30 has made the same comments above to me at one time or another.

Welcome to the world. EVERYONE gets used and abused sooner or later. It happens to us all. It tend to happen to girls and ladyboys young in life, and to middle aged old farts like me later in life.

IN the end we all get our kharmic payback.

So stop whining. Its most unbecoming.

[alan1chef]

I agree. I believe our young asian got stuck on the word "proper" which can mean several other things however in this context it means "real" relationship.