Using dating services

[abba]

(cancer12 @ Dec. 28 2009,16:47) is it funny abba?

if you dont have something good to say, then don't bother...

he is kind to share her thoughts, and the guy pepsi is looking for advices.

In what way do you mean "funny"?


Alyssats has had her heart broken, via internet communication. And that , she states is the reason she became a prostitute.

I have also been promised this and that, from romantic prospects that did not deliver. And it is my claim that,  that was the reason I became a prostitute (escort).

I also realize that what happened to alyssats and myself, will happen to nearly everyone.
And that nearly everyone will not become prostitutes, merely on that basis of having ones heart broken.


Regarding cancer12 not liking my kindness by sharing my thoughts:

In every life, there must fall some rain.

[cancer12]

i misunderstood... my apology

[Guest]

(Mr. GRUMPY (Grrr!) @ Dec. 28 2009,16:58) That's a very moving post. One of the best I have read here.

Don't you dare ever give up hope of finding real love even as a P4P worker.

I met a ladyboy who worked for almost two years at the most skanky bar in Bangkok and we managed to turn our lives around just fine.

I second that!A beautifully written post.I will continue to look on these dating sites as im an incurable romantic,and i think i have more chance of finding a long lasting relationship on there than in a bar .

[thehawk]

I find looking for serious love with a ladyboy is almost impossible on the dating sites, and I've been trying quite a bit.

In fact i find the whole thing a bit soul-destroying, for a wide variety of reasons.

Most decent girls don't trust men for a start, so you have to work to convince that you are genuine - and really I think that is hard until you actually meet them and make good on some promises.

Then many girls seem to just want money, and if they don't eventually get it then they are not interested. I've had my time wasted a couple of times with girls like this as they seem to equate money with love.

And then the girls cover all their bases with multiple guys - you don't know if they are true or not. Like the girl who I was getting along great with and being serious with, sends me some photos one day but cc's 6 other guys at the same time.

But it's not all bad, I've met a couple of wonderful ladies who work in the health industry, with good jobs and they seem to be genuinely nice people. I can't promise anything to them, because it's so hard not meeting in person, and visas are hard etc but at least I know I've made 2 good friends anyway.

So there you go, I'm genuinely serious about meeting a ladyboy for love, I don't care about her background or her plans, just as long as she will love me back, but it's seemingly really hard to do.

[Bumpa STIKKA]

Hi, thehawk. My experience pretty much mirrors yours.

The only way to do it is to move to Thailand... or the PI, etc.

[TEXASMAC]

Mr. GRUMPY being nice?? What next the Jets beating the Colts?

[cancer12]

all i know is...... you need to have a broken heart to know what love really is...
you need to have a broken heart to be closer to the right one, the one who will make up these pieces of your broken heart to a brand new one. don't be afraid to love someone and get hurt, because getting hurt makes you look for a heal, getting hurt will make you love more.






cancer12

[cancer12]

physical appearance is indeed necessary, she or he does not have to be beautiful or handsome, she or he just have to be attractive to your eyes... but getting to know the person deeper is what more important...


i have a question... if you search on these dating sites... do you pick the most beautiful pictures?


personally... i need to make sure myself that i am attracted to the guy, looks first, but eventually as i talk to them, i dont see my self picking the most good looking, i always get to pick the average one, but i am sure, i am attracted to him in every aspects.... his entire being.

who does not want to have a supermodel girlfriend or boyfriend? but if her/his personality and attitude suck... i would rather not... i would rather be with someone not amazingly good looking but has an amazing personality!!!


does it go the same with you?

[thehawk]

Yes, none of the ones I've picked would be the most stunning, for two reasons really.

Firstly I pick them based on attraction, which can't be explained, it's just the way I feel about a person. Secondly, I guess there is a bit of mistrust of someone who is 100% stunning like a supermodel. I just want someone normal like myself.

Even if I do P4P, I always tend to pick cute girls rather than stunners, I find them far more attractive.

[petesie]

I admire your tenacity with the sites.........I tried a few but seemed to get nowhere.............so I gave up on cyber-lub and just went to LoS and got my heart broken in real time............much better and you really actually get to feel the pain.....

[huanzhen]

(PigDogg @ Dec. 27 2009,16:14)

(pepsi @ Dec. 26 2009,14:15) Please tell me what u think about this? All comments very appreciated.

I think it's counter productive to use dating sites in Thailand.  They're more useful in Indonesia or the PI where it's more difficult to meet in person.

Are you serious? philippines and indonesia are already countries where you can meet the most easily a "normal" woman...in all south east asia
In philippines meeting a ladyboy is not a problem at all....

[Guest]

on dating sites i check pics first, she must be ok looking.
then check if she gives the usual "longing for true love" lines. if they have that i move on.
then check job, if they look like could be p4p or very poor/unemployed i move on, if they look like they have good job bingo.

so basically looks aren't as important as being a respectable independent girl that is chilled out about relationships.

[alyssats]

(cancer12 @ Dec. 28 2009,16:33) i hAVE got the same story as you sister alyssa...

i am a newbie in this escort world, in the sex industry, and i definitely wanted to move out and come back to the old me.. i have loads of accounts in various dating sites, i met my first boyfriend in the bar, a cocktail lounge we have been together for 1 year, and i met my second boyfriend ( if he wants me to call him my bf) in a wholesome site pic-link, we clicked ( i hope he thought of the same thing) we talked almost everyday, he comes here as often as he can, but the relationship lasted only 2 yrs, but it was great.

but in between this relationship and as i broke up with my ex bf, i found and talked to many guys online, and it is just so hard to tell who tells the truth, who is truly into a long term relationship, who is desperate to to find love in the internet... for me many guys looking for love online are just full of BS, same as many girls looking for the same thing, i would say, i was one of those who desperately looking for love, i dont like Filipino men at all, and never had a relationship with them, and i am sure i do not want to and do not like them at all...

when i went into the p4p scene, i never expected to find a guy who will love me, and i prepared my self that it is all a game, when you are a hooker, it is like a tattoo that u can not easily remove... i set aside my goal to find my mr.right, and decided to play with several mr.wrong....i told my self, at least now if i am meeting mr.wrong, i will not be an ultimate loser, coz i got paid..... though, i have been chatting to some guys i met in the internet, in this forum for example, i met some of them and i would say the least expected thing happened... i just find my heart starting to beat again... hehehe

what i am trying to tell you pepsi is, there is no need to find love, do not set any expectations, our heart is a very delicate thing that we need to guard, when love comes, it'll come, and it is sweeter when it comes on its own way. it does not matter how long you know the person, but how much both of you feel for each other.... internet dating works, but before you get more serious, make sure u made your part to know the person in real.

good luck.

very nice input girl

yes the best thing is always stay as sweet, nice,warm and friendly as you are. dont get affected and influence by bad people around you and people you would encounter tru meet ups and escorting.

i always treat the lies and bullshit from guys as a challenge for me to be a better person.

my heart is always open for true and genuine gentleman im still preserving my virginity for the guy who will marry me lol

[guydesavoy]

(cancer12 @ Dec. 29 2009,16:03) personally... i need to make sure myself that i am attracted to the guy, looks first, but eventually as i talk to them, i dont see my self picking the most good looking, i always get to pick the average one, but i am sure, i am attracted to him in every aspects.... his entire being.

does it go the same with you?

I agree.

So far your pic and words are doing it for me