I'm in love with a ladyboy bar worker!

[thebossman]

happens everytime i go to thailand. i found best solution is to either a) go into another bar and fall in love with another one, or b) give it 6months and the newness of it will go away.

[razrman]

Dave, my concern in this particular case isn't so much that your girlfriend is an ex bar girl but more that you're bringing her to a country which is totally different from what she is used to.
This may result in her being totally miserable and you have to go to extraordinary lengths to make her comfortable. Strangely enough she may have a problem with Asians there if they learn she was an ex bar girl. The old "looking down on whores" thing.
The argument that because she was an ex bar girl she would not be faithful can't be ruled out. But there again like Naang Faa pointed out , are we punters (or are you now an ex-punter?) angels?
You know something, if I were you I'd give it a shot! You could do worse with a local lass! Don't have high expectations and see how it goes day by day, month by month. and best of luck.

[D33]

(mrlblover @ Jun. 10 2009,10:54) have any of you fell in love because of multiple trips to same girl ?
sent the cash, paid for the body.
took her away from the scene.
but still in the back of your mind cant get the fact of she use to sell her arse each night and has probly had hundreds unload into her ?


my head is fucked !
but my heart is in love !
has this happened to you ?


mr lb lover

I can't tell you how many times I've fallen in love with a 3rd world transsexual prostitute with an 8th or 9th grade education.

[D33]

(bazza @ Jun. 11 2009,02:24) Well I am 50 and have a Ladyboy I am bringing to Engalnd in a couple of months she has been in loads of porn films, what would you rather do come to England live with a nice guy in a nice home or be fucked on film to earn a living

I've probably filmed her a few times, whoever it is, and I would bet I've filmed her while she has been "off limits" and not supposed to be fucking around.

If I had a baht for every time I've fucked or filmed a GG or LB who:

* Was married or had a boyfriend
* Was planning on going to live in another country with a falang
* Made fun of the idiots who send her money
* Bragged about all the lies she tells the guys who send her money

... I would be retired.

Sorry pal, I wish you all the happiness in the world, but you need to come to terms with reality. You are setting yourself up for failure. Use the right head and take the relationship for what it is, don't try to make it into something it's not. Have fun, enjoy it while it lasts, but protect yourself and don't put too much trust into her.

[guydesavoy]

(D33 @ Aug. 15 2009,18:54) If I had a baht for every time I've fucked or filmed a GG or LB who:

* Was married or had a boyfriend
* Was planning on going to live in another country with a falang
* Made fun of the idiots who send her money
* Bragged about all the lies she tells the guys who send her money

Indeed. I know someone who does the same thing.

Except she mostly snares her prey on internet dating sites. A few thousand from him, a few thousand from another...adds up quickly to a nice little earner. Then when they come to LOS, a free trip with nice presents and cash...

And yes, she does brag about how stupid these guys are.

Quite distasteful really  

[Guest]

relationships with lb's are hard work !
believe me, i know

stevie

[Tomcat]

Theres a nice piece about this subject on Capt. Outrag. site.

An American friend of his got fixed up with what he thought was an honest girl , not on the game, only to find she was prowling Nana to make some pin money....

He is now in what he considers a dilemma, does he make a meal of it or not...the Cap reckons the relationship will head southwards if he does

[guydesavoy]

sounds like a good read Tomcat.

Is it possible to post a link to that ?

[Tomcat]

There is no link. You have to join to get to the front page and read Caps opinion....I would have cut and paste it but not sure if Stogie is ok with it...i dont want to get 50 lashes

You can join for a month anyway for 15USD i think...cheap as chips my friends and fully endorsed by moi...

[guydesavoy]

(Tomcat @ Aug. 16 2009,22:14) I would have cut and paste it but not sure if Stogie is ok with it...i dont want to get 50 lashes

You think he cares anymore ?



Cheers anyway

[Tomcat]

What he states is basically that if you confront a ladyboy with accusations of infidelity, then you end up with one seriously damaged relationship. Even if it is true.

[guydesavoy]

(Tomcat @ Aug. 16 2009,23:33) What he states is basically that if you confront a ladyboy with accusations of infidelity, then you end up with one seriously damaged relationship. Even if it is true.

So very true.

Seems infidelity is a given in many cases, p4p or not.

Case # 1 : after the 'accusation' there were tears and denials...but eventually it was all ironed out. The 'Swiss' LB for those who know her    non p4p....she was a keeper. Still is.

Case # 2 : after the 'accusations' - plural - it all went south....no other way to handle it as I was rightly pissed off. Again, non p4p

Case # 3 : this one is semi p4p. Maybe that's a stupid classification as you're either in the game or you're not. Like being semi-pregnant. Seems her contacts go outside the 'customer' square from time to time. These 'accusations' are of course strenuously denied along with the usual "You're crazy" type exchanges. A case in progress as it were.

But the similarities are all there. Not sure it's restricted to LBs in particular either. One has to decide to put up with it or not. If you take the former course, you can be assured that it will happen again.

The Captain's friend is confronted with the non p4p LB who discovers that there is 'easy' money to be made from farangs as a FL. It's a bit like discovering Africa. Once you get a taste for the 'dark meat' you'll always go back. Or so they tell me...... For this too he should be prepared.

It's truly a slippery slope  

[doug]

Good lord, I can't leave the forums alone for a few days without you dipshits falling in love with every bargirl who promises to be "true to you only"

Argh.  It's like beating rocks with a dead cat (now I finally understand what that old lady was doing in the Holy Grail, she was metaphor for posting on a ladyboy forum!!)  

Ah well, you all know where I stand on this issue: Don't fall in love with plutonium.

But if you still insist, please post every single detail of your turbulent relationship and the guaranteed spiralling decent into chaos and despair.  Pretty please.

It'll make for a good laugh.

And before you guys get on me about being too hard on this guy or painting all working girls with a broad brush, just look at what he's asking us for:  "how to overcome her past?"

Overcome HER past??  Good lord, the level of maturity it takes to post something like that is astounding.  Do your parents know you're using their internet connection, buddy?  Perhaps it's time to move out of their basement.

What about YOUR past.  After all, she met you in a bar too!!  How does she overcome the fact that YOU "used to" be a "john" (have you quit that too?  honestly?).

99% of the normal girls in the world wouldn't touch a "john" with a BBQ-fork.  Why?  Because it's creepy and generally misogynistic.  Let's keep it real here, people.  Our "hobby" isn't exactly mainstream.

But your "brilliant" plan is to take that girl out of the P4P-"Disneyland" and into the real world, where all that real stuff starts to matter again.

For example, you might worry about how to explain her to your family, well guess what, she's probably worrying about how to explain you to her family.

In the Top-5 questions people ask a new couple is:  "So, how did you guys meet each other?"  Got a good answer for that question?  If you answer it truthfully, A LOT of people will have nothing to do with you after that.  If you lie, well, then your "true love" will be based on lie after lie (that won't be the first you'll need to tell to keep your "normal" friends).  How long can you two keep your stories straight?  How long can a "normal" relationship last that's predicated on multiple lies to your friends and family?

Those are just examples of some of the many hurdles you will face, but the BIGGEST hurdle you face is dumping your childish, immature attitude.  Stogie put it a lot more kindly than I did, but he's right.  You are a CUSTOMER.  Grow up and accept your history before you worry about hers.

Because if you think about it, that's what's really holding you back.  You're comfortable with the relationship on the p4p or "former customer" level, but taking it to the next level would require a huge adjustment in your lifestyle, and it seems to me you're not willing to make those changes.

Are you ready to swear off the bars for life?  Or are you still planning to sneak away to Pattaya every now and then?  If so, how do you plan to ease her fears that you might?

Because the day she finds this forum in your browser history or opens up the porn folder on your hard-drive and finds all the photos of HER friends that you've fucked.  Oh boy.  That's when the shit is going to hit the fan.

So are you planning to delete all your "conquest porn", throw away your p4p-phone and all its numbers, and spend every single waking minute with her tagging along behind you to ease her jealousy??

If so, then you're ready for "love"!

[guydesavoy]

I think the OP was just a plant to get doug back in the ring

Welcome back

[Tomcat]

Guys will always fall in Love with bar girls and it aint gonner stop any time now. After all its human nature , try to circumvent that and you are wasting time. yah it may be foolish etc etc but the warnings will not be heeded. You know it and i know it!

Lets face it if we were not deeply attracted to each other none of us would be here would we now!

A few guys might be able to switch the heart on and off like the Ladyboys do but i doubt if that can be learned in a hurry..