I've met someone...

[Freebird]

Now thats a stupid post. Did you even read his first post?!

You're doing it for 8 years? Whoever you're doing this to must be a real fuckin dumbass. Sorry, but "lost my passport" is suspicious. Calling to many times too.

[Buddy]

My advice: Just look her in the eye and tell her the truth. If you really want to marry her then commit to it, all in. I never married anyone.

[Looker]

Exactly!
There are couples who are able to have an happy exhistance by being a swinger type couple or, however, a totally sexually liberated couple, as I understand "perthcouple" are just to be named as an example.

I'm in similar position. I do have multiple sex partners as GGs and occasional LBs, and if I ever (which I doubt) I'm going to get married it will will be with someone I can continue my sex life as of now; better if we can do it together.
I used to have a Chinese g/f and we were swinging and be very happy as couple. We decided to split because our lifestyle (not sexually speaking) was a bit too different but still remined great friends.

I admit it maybe not be easy to find a woman who accepts that but if this is what you need in life the rest won't fit you.
Or else I'm 99% sure wembleyguy will keep having "business trips" to Pattaya behind his wife-to-be

[kleetora]

(wembleyguy @ Jun. 13 2008,04:11) ...thats always been traveling to Thailand or Bali over the last 5 years since i have been single...

I think that's the crux of the situation. If you believe strongly in your relationship, don't go to Pattaya, head to Bali instead.

If you still feel the urge to visit Pattaya, you just need to own up as per Naang Fa's suggestion. Otherwise, stowe the urges and have a happy life with the missus. 3 months into a relationship might not be the best time to test it. That's just my opinion.

[Guest]

your stuffed!!! " One last party...yeah right" I've been having "One last party".. for the past 30 years.
Once you have the taste you will always be thinking of ways to get some lb action.I have a very beautiful Thai wife, although we did not meet in LOS.
I cheat on her every week in Oz, and even had a lb affair that she knows of.We are still together but she will never entirely get it out of her system.
Whenever she sees an lb on the tv in LOS, as we spend 6 Months there, it all comes back.
You have to live with it forever.You will have an addiction like heroin ,you just can't help yourself.Now I cover my tracks as much as possible and hope for the best.
We are bisexual and have to adapt, if we can.
Good luck!!

[wembleyguy]

I really think she wont mind if i say im going to Bali ( but book pattaya insted )alone as she has never been there. She has to understand that i too like to get away and its unfortunate that being so early in our relationship our holidays just were not planned together this time around. She has just spent 3.5 weeks back home in CM and i was never even asked if i minded so why the hell should i feel so guilty about myself headin away on holidays in 6 weeks time

[wembleyguy]

I cauld also say im have been told to do some training at head office in Queensland for 10 days, so she thinks im not on holidays at all and just make sure i ring her every second day. She has a prepaid mobile so she will never see a bill statement if she calls me

[seamus]

I may have some shots of Nusa Dua beach in Bali, without anyone in them, might have to crop them to take the date out, but drop me a PM with your email & I can send them on if you like !



Seamus

[SukhumvitRoad]

(stogie bear @ Jun. 12 2008,19:24) Relationships are NOT based on love and trust. Learn that and you'll be happy.

Relationships are built on tolerance and forgiveness.

How can someone as funny looking as Mr. Bear be possessed of such good sense, even wisdom......

Maybe I'm just too good looking to be that wise.

[Torurot]

>>I really think she wont mind if i say im going to Bali ( but book pattaya instead )

Think about it. Go to Thailand or FOREVER hold your peace. You said it yourself, your girlfriend is not stupid and has her own holidays. You WILL get caught out if you try the Bali OR the QLD thing. You think she "won't mind" if she then finds out? Losing a passport is not a trivial thing. 30 + Years old, never married. You think she's never tried anything herself. If you don't go to Thailand you will never know the answer and will never be happy either as your "relationship" will be built on lies. She either accepts you or not. How many compromises are you going to make for the next forever? No need to rub her face in it either. She's Thai, not stupid.

[frederick]

I agree with you Monkey,

He clearly does not love her enough or sufficiently ( and I guess that may open up another complete topic of conversation/debate), but if he is about to commit to her in Aus then why is he looking for one last fling in Thai?

Me thinks he is wanting to " have/eat his cake both ways" ?

[Freebird]

Yeah, that opens up a new topic...

I loved my Ex-Gf, she was fucking other guys/girls, I was fucking other girls, we were fucking other girls together.

Sex <> Love

[Naang Faa]

Bypass all that emotional love crap,to save time,just find a girl you hate and buy her a house...
and then go to Pattaya!
x

[seamus]

You are right of course, but we all want/need love

[Naang Faa]

sorry,i had to have a meeting with my ex today (can you tell?)
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