I've met someone...

[surropan]

OP, this is a tough situation, one with which I can sympathize. Those of you telling him to be honest and 'grow a backbone' may be right. But, at least for me, it's very difficult. I would never cheat on my gg wife with a gg... but as is the nature of my 'addiction' sometimes I just need a big ol' cock. I love my wife like crazy, and am attracted to her as well. I try to justify my unfaithfulness by restricting it to lbs and telling myself it's a product of my fairly abnormal sexual needs. This would, however, not be so easily understood by my old lady. Nor is it really a legitimate reason to cheat.

I think this may be the price of, for lack of a better word, my 'bisexuality', or whatever title we want to give to a guy who likes girls with giant dongs. If sometimes we are attracted to ggs and other times lbs, how can we ever be satisfied with a long-term relationship with one or the other? I bet if my wife was an lb I would be sneaking out from time to time to get some pussy.

Not saying I'm right, this is just how I feel.

[Monkey]

She's not the girl for you mate.

If she was then you wouldn't be jetting off to Thailand for some sex.

Either dump her now or re-evaluate your relationship with her.

Anyway, are you sure she's in Chiang Mai and not in Pattaya shagging some hairy arsed tourists?

[donnykey]

It seems to me by your post #12 that you just need a holiday....if that's true go to Bali it's that simple...but for the life of me i cannot fathom why are you asking people you've never met before such advice

[Torurot]

>>Telling her the truth is not a option because she knows Pattaya, BKK and Phuket all to well>>

Good Thai girls generally do not know all those three places well!

Tell her your meeting with OLD FRIENDS in Thailand for a previously arranged long standing holiday/party/meeting. This was arranged well before you met her. If she won't accept that, you are going to have a permanent millstone, not a wife. She's got to understand that all Ozzie men are entitled to fishing trips away with the boys.. Oh and don't forget, what's good for the Goose is good for the Gander!!

She will always be going back to Thailand for family meetings. You won't always be going back with her.

[surropan]

(donnykey @ Jun. 12 2008,20:53) i cannot fathom why are you asking people you've never met before such advice

My guess is that he probably doesn't have anyone else to talk to about lb related stuff... most of us probably wouldn't casually say to our best (straight) drinking buddy, "Hey I love my new girl but I really need a bit of cock!" At least I wouldn't.

I think we should be supportive of the OP, as well as everybody else on this forum, as it is a great way to talk about our sexuality in a way that we can't with the people we interact every day. That's the main reason I'm here. I never talk about my attraction to lbs other than on this forum. Most other people just don't understand.

[Guest]

i thought there were loads of ladyboys in Bali - so whats the problem?

take my advice (if your completely off your head that is !!) and stay single and go play when you need !!

signed a sad middle aged bastard

[surropan]

(Torurot @ Jun. 12 2008,21:02) >>Telling her the truth is not a option because she knows Pattaya, BKK and Phuket all to well>>

Good Thai girls generally do not know all those three places well!

Tell her your meeting with OLD FRIENDS in Thailand for a previously arranged long standing holiday/party/meeting. This was arranged well before you met her. If she won't accept that, you are going to have a permanent millstone, not a wife. She's got to understand that all Ozzie men are entitled to fishing trips away with the boys.. Oh and don't forget, what's good for the Goose is good for the Gander!!

She will always be going back to Thailand for family meetings. You won't always be going back with her.

Good idea. If you need proof just take some pics with your old buddies. Or any random farang, for that matter, and claim it's of your old buddy. Tell her you love the beach, the prices, the para-sailing, whatever... you have plenty of excuses to pull out.

[Freebird]

(surropan @ Jun. 12 2008,21:02) most of us probably wouldn't casually say to our best (straight) drinking buddy, "Hey I love my new girl but I really need a bit of cock!" At least I wouldn't.

Told a friend of mine who knows that I'm fucking lbs too 2 month ago before I went to Patts for the weekend something like "I really need to suck a dick this weekend.".

His question was "A girl this weekend or a tranny?"

Anyway, all my friends know what I do...

[surropan]

Sounds like you have some nice and tolerant friends. Most average guys my age (20s) in my shithole of a country (USA) are not nearly as open-minded. I would instantly become persona-non-grata if I admitted to what I do here.

I know, I know, the people who react this way are probably not worth being friends with anyway... but there's 10 years of history there... not something that is so easy just to throw away because they are assholes. I'm kind of an asshole too, in certain respects, so it works out.

Wish my friends were more like yours though. Where are you from?

[Freebird]

Nice and tolerant, most of them a bit crazy, all - except for one - girls...

They all know me long enough to know that the topic "sex" shouldn't be discussed with me anyway cause I'm a bit weird.

Germany. ^^

[wembleyguy]

(Torurot @ Jun. 12 2008,21:02) >>Telling her the truth is not a option because she knows Pattaya, BKK and Phuket all to well>>

Good Thai girls generally do not know all those three places well!  

Tell her your meeting with OLD FRIENDS in Thailand for a previously arranged long standing holiday/party/meeting. This was arranged well before you met her. If she won't accept that, you are going to have a permanent millstone, not a wife. She's got to understand that all Ozzie men are entitled to fishing trips away with the boys..  Oh and don't forget, what's good for the Goose is good for the Gander!!

She will always be going back to Thailand for family meetings. You won't always be going back with her.

My GF knows the goings on with Pattaya, BKK and Phuket because she is well educated and comes from a middle class family in CM, she left there when she was 30 and knows her country well. Since living in Australia and being a high qualified nurse in a private hospital she is making very good money and has holidays her self on the way back to CM to see her family. Your comment saying ( good girls generally do not know these 3 places ) was very nieve.

Your other comments were appreciated  

[Foggy]

If you cheat now it will definately bite you back in the future..... just got to know that..... so enjoy the time you have with her while you can....

good luck

[jimslim]

(wembleyguy @ Jun. 12 2008,20:11) Telling her the truth is not a option because she knows Pattaya, BKK and Phuket all to well and without putting tickets on myself im a fairly good looking guy so she knows exactly what would happen to me.

Lucky you , all those nights out on the pull in Pattaya only to come home empty handed is hell for the rest of us  

[seamus]

(Monkey @ Jun. 12 2008,12:52) She's not the girl for you mate.

If she was then you wouldn't be jetting off to Thailand for some sex.

The Wise old Monkey has called this one right !

[manarak]

Ok, you feel lonely at home when she's not there, but when she is, you would like to have some variety, especially as you are into LB.

If I was you, I would just pretend to be at home.

Your phone can certainly be redirected to your mobile without the caller knowing.

That's step 1.

Step 2: call her often enough that she doesn't need to call you.

Step 3: when you are back declare that you lost your passport and throw it away.



About what you want to do, I think "up to you"!

I have been doing the same for 8 years now. Everything's ok, I just get restless because of too few occasions for "holidays".