How do they tell their parents?

[snejana_demientrovska]

slow evolution of transition as i undergo......cause as a catholic influenced family i had and a dad with a reputation of a bad boy.......i had to slowly transform...starting from plucking my eyebrows..as on the first time they saw it they will disagree and i just promise them to make my eyebrows back to its thickness....but i never do it until they got used to me seeing with this eyebrows then time comes i dress up as girls slowly and hide away from them and be flamboyant as i want to be in public...hearing some rummors or stories from friends of my parents seeing me in the mall dressing like a girl or wearing make up and tell them....im doing this and that.....they would get angry and i feel guilty and defend my own self of not doing it........until my parents are hearing the same old stories and they just ask me without pressure about it...then oh time to dress up infront of them without any reaction from them.....until they used to me seeing dressing up as girls having a long hair and wear make ups......now im free ......one thing is still hide from them.......my sexual expereince....cause they think im a virgin.....my relationships with guys specially they are westeners which people in the philippines westeners are pervets........and lastly one thing im scared of going back home is a silicone tits on my chest which im scared of comming home having it

[Road Runner]

(snejana_demientrovska @ Jun. 02 2006,18:27) which people in the philippines westeners are pervets........and lastly one thing im scared of going back home is a silicone tits on my chest which im scared of comming home having it

Hello Minerva,

Westerners are perverts  -  where ever did they get that idea ?    

I don't think you need to worry about your parents accepting you having silicone breasts.  If they have accepted you so far - this is just another step.

RR.

[post-op lover]

Well, it's not like they can do much about it. Be strong. Tell them it is who you are, and who you intend to be. Ask for their support, tell them you were afraid, etc. Tell them you love them, and hope for the same from them.

You shouldn't be afraid to see the ones you love.

POL

[Guest]

Actually, I think getting tits may help the family.

Before you have tits, there can be this "well maybe she'll go back to a guy" perception. But with tits, all doubts are gone. It's a girl. No parent can pretend it's a guy then.

This may be totally stupid, but it's something to think about.

[snejana_demientrovska]

well now that they are accepting everything that i am no hassle....i still feel akward  being to girlish infront of them....like wearing skirts and false tits.....which i dont show infront of them....cause i dont know...but i still feel this akwardness infront of the family...and also i dont dress to girlish infront of the family reunion or sometimes i dont join family reunion...cause i dont want to embarass my family....it took so many years to have courage infront of them after all the times hidding away from them after all the time i suffer some humilation from them cause they want me just to become a discreet gay...but they cant help it and accept the fact and reality of who i am after all i was never doing something that could embarass them from the public...which most of them thinks gay people and trannies like me have a very wet and bad reputation of a hustler..drug user and thieves.....which i dont do.....and i really prove them that im not those typical (as they said) trannies or gay that always cause into trouble

[post-op lover]

How would they feel if they saw you with a boyfriend? I think Ziggy's right about having breasts - it's another big step as a female. How have your siblings reacted?


Thanks for sharing!

[Guest]

mai kee plz post the pics of siriporn.

[Mai-Kee]

Wish I had one..... or actually better not..... but imagine any early transformed extremely good looking lb with 19, then you may have the picture....

[olekunde]

@maikee ..

are you really sure her name was chalee or cha-lee?? that is very rude slang for adressing a gg in los ...

[Guest]

hello maikee post her photos ,if you get on net

[daveduke007]

(Road Runner @ Jun. 01 2006,14:21) As most of the girls will be experimenting with clothes hair etc. before they are 10 (yes I know many start well before that) -  I would guess that telling the parents is not really an issue.
As Post-op says the mothers may well work it out when the child is very young.

My limited experience is that nearly 100% of the mothers seem to accept the situation and usually support the child.
I'd say that the great majority of the fathers do too  -  though the level of support they give seems to vary pretty widely. Doing a 'runner' does seem to be one of the responses!

But as I have said before there are certainly a few cases I have come across where the father has tried to beat the idea out of the child.
Against that I know that even after that sometimes the father will eventually accept that their 'son' is now their daughter.

RR.

My g/f had some problems with her father accepting his son wanting to be a girl, making her  have her hair cut short etc in her early years.
This forced her to leave her family to go to Bangkok from Isaan and fullfill her dream, where she had a thai b/f.
She has told me she was a pretty wild girl in her later teens, and she had many friends there who wanted to introduce her to the bar-scene and still do which fortunately for her she resisted and found other work (non-sexual ), she respects herself and her parents wishes for her to not do bar-scene no matter how poor they are.
I met her parents last year and we had a little holiday with them for 4 days in Pattaya,  and her dad now accepts in my opinion that he has another daughter. and accept me too
Her parents were there for her at the hospital when she was recovering from the big-op, I just wish I had been too
Their born son is now well and truly a beautiful girl and they are very proud of her., me too

[Mai-Kee]

(olekunde @ Jul. 27 2006,10:40) @maikee ..

are you really sure her name was chalee or cha-lee?? that is very rude slang for adressing a gg in los ...

Actually I'm not 100% sure. Could have been also Sharee or Charee or Shari ??.... something like that!
What does Chalee mean?

MK

[ohnoriceagain]

I know this is an old and dead thread but I stumbled upon it, and found it interesting. I've recently struck up an online relationship with a very pretty, nice, smart ladyboy, about 2 months now. Voice chat when she is online, phone calls.

Her parents seem totally cool with her being a ladyboy. Ok, I sent her money once, $100, as she was attending a family reunion and I wanted her to have some fun. She called me from the reunion and made me talk with her mom, and mom is "when are you coming to visit? you can stay with us". Mom is always asking about me now. Her dad and mom are still together and according to her, her father is fine with it. No shunning, no disgrace to the family, which is cool.

Transgenders are not that common in any society though for us, it seems like that there are more than there really are. Those of you that chose to live in LOS, it's why you chose to live in LOS, and an everyday population. For the parents, it may be their first exposure.

As a parent myself, I could never not give my support; I'm right there with you with what makes you happy and healthy.

[Guest]

i have concluded that it is probably a good idea that i post here for the benifits of what i say for those stuck in the situation of having to tell friends/relatives/etc,
this thread is a bit like the question "how long is a piece of string",
truly, each persn is individual, personality, belivable female status, looks, experiences, and so is the family/friends/etc,
so, each case of "comming out" is truly unique, thus, it has to be approched in a very very political way, all aspects of the people involved should be taken into account, all possible responces/reactions be taken into account, all possible out-come senarios be taken into account and be prepared for in the event best/worst outcome, so as to strengthen/dampen the good/bad outcome,
and instead of falling to pieces in the event of bad, say, well it was a possibility!
i once knew a ts that had to tell her parents, and i insisted she not say "hey daddy...", but first "hey Mommy..." as, lets face it moms almost always accept and love their children.
there are exceptions to this,
when:-
1. the father basicaly already knows and accepts (those involved should be able to fairly well work this out)
2. the mother is obviously the hardest hard linner in the family,
3. the mother isn't around anymore, for any of several reasons,
4. if the situation is too tense,get a sibbling/relative/family-friend to break the news,
Also, ask the mother to pick the right time to tell the father! saves lots of troubles, and lets face it, the woman of the house always has sway/say with the man of the house!
and by doing that, give the farther/family to accept and and relax in their own time and space.

the lb's that i gave this advice to was shitting bricks before she told them, she followed my advice, and praises the advice i gave, and probably passes it on, (almost deffinatly sure).
BUT AGAIN, EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, so study it!
(hey when do i get my profile back?)

[Guest]

This is an old topic and we like to sensationalize the bad fathers, but my understanding is that the vast majority of Thai fathers accept it.

As for fathers who are distant and disapear, I think that is a good description of many Thai fathers, and is not related to having a LB daughter!