Amateur Question

[Guest]

It's been while since my last visit to LOS.

I remember reading in a forum when i got back that there were "right things" to say and 'wrong things' to say when chatting with the girls.

I remember that they all ask you "how long you here for?"

"You ever been here before?"

"When you come back?"

I obviously know the answer to "you been here before?"

..but any advice on answering the other questions. I've hear other posters say it can make a big difference in the way the girls treat you and the service you get...

Any other tips on "the right things to say?"

...also...any advice on keeping the aggressive girls off you in the NANA LB bars?

Thanks for your help guys!

[rxpharm]

from the Travel Information Forum.

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[stogie bear]

Good questions... I'd be interested to hear the little white lies that members come up with to avoid being hassled by shitpit dwellers...

[qwerty]

what i would do if i were u:

print up a small card, like the size of a business card. have it laminated. when bar girls or LBs start asking the same old questions i would just show this card.

it read something like this.:

ANSWERS
1. Thomas
2. Canada
3. 2 weeks
4. 2nd time here
5. Hotel
6. I'll think about it.

[Guest]

That's funny qwerety...but would probably be effective.

Does it make sense to tll them you're going to be in LOS for a while so they treat you better -thinking there might be some repeat business?

[mister_smith]

(steeverrl @ Jan. 28 2007,12:00) Does it make sense to tll them you're going to be in LOS for a while so they treat you better -thinking there might be some repeat business?

Nah oldest trick in the book they're Ladyboys not retards, if you were staying in BKK for a while you'd be holed up in an appartment not whatever hotel, if you try pulling a stunt like that word will will spread round the LB grapevine like wildfire

[jadeite]

I would say honesty is the best policy. If you have a significant other, tell them. If you are a butter fly, say so. They are fascinated to know the real you. Not that you should brag about such things, but just a subtle acknowledgement of things they ask can actually earn you points. They are lied to often and don't believe a lot they are told but a few responses that seem candid and they will start to trust you and like you for being honest. Seriously, they like the guy who admits he has a wife and despise the liar who denies it.

I try to be a nice guy, but keeping away undesirable drink pressure in a gentle, face saving way is not always easy and there are different strategies. Their basic operating principle is to first get a foothold. Something to build on to gain leverage so that you will cave in to giving them a drink. Once they get you to do that, they€™ll want another, then others will approach for the feeding frenzy, then barfines will be requested, tips, and then each time you return the same ones will expect as much as they were given the first time.

What you need to do is hold the line up front, even if it seems you aren't being a nice guy because it will create harder to solve problems if you put it off. If a definite "no" approaches (versus a maybe or yes), resist the urge to shake an outstretched hand. If idle chat is made, don't engage in it. If massaged, don't allow it. Any such unwanted attention and do something simple like respond without looking at them directly that you are looking for your friend. Once you softly deflect the first salvo, they and others in the bar will notice and you have a good chance to be left to do as you wish, at least for a time where then you can scout the bar and start making your own choices. The other potential problem in conceding to attention from those you don€™t like is it could keep the one you do like from approaching since they see you are already occupied and pulling a switcheroo can be tricky.

Happy hunting.

[Guest]

i always avoid the handshake if its a girl i dont want to sit with,
give a brief friendly smile but cut it short.
say you just want to relax alone for a bit (not like theyll really care, youre a treasure chest of gold and who could walk away?)
but try to find the one you like soon and buy her a drink.
i like the honest route too.
it saves you trouble.
i let them know i have a wife... imagine i'm walking in the day with my wife and the ladyboy is out shopping, at least she knows my secret and may give me a wink insted of yelling something to me.

[Guest]

my name is costas,this is my first time in thailand,i know nothing about ladyboys,please help me out.

[qwerty]

i think costas is the ron jeremy of ladyboy lovers

[surropan]

(jadeite @ Jan. 28 2007,16:13) if you are a butter fly, say so.

Top drawer advice!

If you ever wanna visit the same establishment again, and avoid awkward situations, make it clear that you are a butterfly. I didn't do that, and I feel very strange going into certain bars here now, because I feel bad about not taking the same girl. Not because I have any illusions that they actually like me, but in one situation, e.g., I respect a particular lb so much that I feel a bit like I'm cheating on her if I take another girl.

And to you more experienced guys, yes, I know its all about the $$$ and I shouldn't feel like this. But there is one special lb in one bar that I cannot help but feeling like this about. As jaded as we may become, you can't help falling for someone you really like. DummyPlug takes some flack on this site for buying an lb an air conditioner, but I understand where he's coming from.

[Guest]

Be polite for as long as you cand stand it but do not be a push over. You are the customer and be honest with your intentions if you want to butterfly.  

I actually think telling the girls you are around for a little while is not a bad idea and for some at least might think they might get some repeat business. However you must remember that most of these girls only think of the now so may not work in all instances.

I am trying to think back to when I actually used to get hassled by the girls as no it is almost like I am a leper because almost now girls approach me in the bars as they know my modus operandi.

[katoeylover]

I always tell the truth

say i'm new, never been with a ladyboy and had read it costs 5k baht short time that last 1/2 an hour....

It works right up to the point you get spotted by someone youv'e been with before, or the mamasan sees you and says Hi!!!

[stogie bear]

If they ask me something I always say 'Yes'...

If they ask me for something I always say 'No!'

[stogie bear]

I must admit I'm a constant liar...

When they ask me my name I'll say something like Trevor, or Brian or anything I can think of. When they ask "Where you from?" it's always France or Canada or Africa... "How long you stay?" Varies but usually I say "I leave tmollo - last night tonight..."

I find the questions so annoying that it behoves me to tell them the truth about anything.