Touching their head, going upcountry, etc!

[halla]

Sometimes when you are about to surprise someone(maybe if you haven't seen him/her in a long time), you might get the clever idea of sneaking up from behind, cover their eyes and say something stupid like 'guess who?'. How will someone who is thai react to this? You know, not suppose to touch the head thing. Any experience?

And what is up with ladyboys wanting me to meet their family. Happened to me last time in Pattaya. We were at an Issan consert and it was like, my brother and his girlfriend are right over here. Let's go over to them.

Now after 2 nights in Bangkok, different lb, I'm invited to Issan to meet mamaaa, papaaa and the brothers.

Does this happen a lot? Do they just want to make you feel more like they're into you, or do they really mean it?

[Road Runner]

Getting invited to Issan to meet the family......... that's serious!

RR.

[Stewart]

or do they really mean it?

Probably her birthday next month, wants to invite all her friends to a big party.....guess who's paying

[Stogie]

Traditions in Thailand seem to be very, very slow to disappear and touching a Thai person's head is one of them... at least in public. Pointing with your feet is another... spitting at policeman is another.

(I'm just kidding about the spitting at the police one. Although, most Thais would love to if they thought they could get away with it!)

If you have been invited up country to meet the folks then it's 90% probable that you are the 'trophy boyfriend.' Demeaning ain't it? You'll be paraded around the town like a prize bear and made to perform tricks like paying for dinner and buying gold, etc.

I'm assuming that the LBs that are inviting you to travel are non P4P gals?

[halla]

(Stogie @ Apr. 07 2009,00:14) Traditions in Thailand seem to be very, very slow to disappear and touching a Thai person's head is one of them... at least in public. Pointing with your feet is another... spitting at policeman is another.

That's what I thought. Just wondered if someone had done it with a positive outcome, cuz I'm gonna surprise someone I haven't seen in a while, who don't know I'm in LOS.

As far as the gurls go, they're sadly both p4p  Both have been mentioned on this forum on several occasions.

I did find the scenario with the brother very strange. Who want's too meet the guy who's fucking your sister, but I guess it was more of the sisters choice than the brothers. He seemed a bit distracted at first, he didn't really  English. But his English was miles ahead of my understanding of Thai, so he's not to blame for this. His girlfriend spoke English and she was cool as fuck. As for being the big spender farang, I think not. First my girl bought a bottle of sangsom, then I bought one, then the brother bought one, then we all chip in 200 baht for beer pitchers and some food. I was treated like an equal, at least it felt like it  

As far as the up country trip, it did not correlate with her birthday. But what her agenda was (if she has one), I dunno. And I told her it was a bit strange to meet the family when I don't really know her.

[Naang Faa]

That's what I thought. Just wondered if someone had done it with a positive outcome,

I have had this done to me many time and saw it done on many Thai movies,but i don't recomend
it unless you are good friends with the girl..
x

[Stogie]

(halla @ Apr. 07 2009,00:55) ...cuz I'm gonna surprise someone I haven't seen in a while, who don't know I'm in LOS...

Please please PLEASE tell us what happens...

[rxpharm]

meeting the family after only knowing an lb a short time is unusual. Typically if it happens at all, after you know her for quite a while. I've met the families of 3 lbs, and only after knowing them for about a year. Two of these lbs were in the p4p business and the other was not.

[Guest]

(rxpharm @ Apr. 07 2009,01:42) meeting the family after only knowing an lb a short time is unusual. Typically if it happens at all, after you know her for quite a while. I've met the families of 3 lbs, and only after knowing them for about a year. Two of these lbs were in the p4p business and the other was not.

and.... what happened?

Avoid meeting the family at all costs, otherwise the costs will be yours. If you are really serious about this lb or gg then go for it. If you are generous "naim Jai" it may eventually come back to you if you are ever in need.

strongly suggest you buy and read the book "Thailand Fever" co-written by a westerner Chris Pirotti, and Thai woman Vitida Vasanti. He is married to a Thai and she was married to a falong. its a great read although geared toward male female relationships, Most of it applies to Westerner/Thai relationships specifically.

The Thai female author is a little removed now living outside Thailand for quite awhile, but overall its pretty accurate. The foot thing has always been a tough one for me, because I used to use it to point out of laziness to bend down. I also like to pick up things with my toes versus bending down and using my hands. Easy to do when your often barefoot in LOS.

I also used to throw money down, but have been broken of this habit. With the king on all the money you are basically mistreating the monarchy in their eyes. So when a tuk tuk driver tells you its a 100 baht for a kilometre ride, don't throw it at him in your discust, just accept it or walk the next time.

[donnnnnny]

(halla @ Apr. 06 2009,22:56) Sometimes when you are about to surprise someone(maybe if you haven't seen him/her in a long time), you might get the clever idea of sneaking up from behind, cover their eyes and say something stupid like 'guess who?'. How will someone who is thai react to this? You know, not suppose to touch the head thing. Any experience?

And what is up with ladyboys wanting me to meet their family. Happened to me last time in Pattaya. We were at an Issan consert and it was like, my brother and his girlfriend are right over here. Let's go over to them.

Now after 2 nights in Bangkok, different lb, I'm invited to Issan to meet mamaaa, papaaa and the brothers.

Does this happen a lot? Do they just want to make you feel more like they're into you, or do they really mean it?

thats more like mum dad and her husband(boyfriend) so they can see the new ATM she has snagged
sorry welcome to thailand

[donnnnnny]

excuse me but this touching heads business? I thought It was only children heads that were not supposed to be touched? As for the pointing of feel(lowest part of the body) you are not supposed to point them at the head. PLenty of thais do this to me, so i know longer follow this rule unless im far away from farang enclaves.

[Guest]

(donnnnnny @ Apr. 07 2009,03:37) excuse me   but this  touching heads business? I thought It was only children heads that were not supposed to be touched? As for the pointing of  feel(lowest part of the body) you are not supposed to point them at the head. PLenty of thais  do this to me, so i know longer follow this rule unless im  far away  from farang enclaves.

I'll excuse you donnny, but you are the reverse contrarian on this.
Elders may often put there hands on childrens heads, however to do this to an adult is considered looking down to them. In fact if Thai did this to another Thai they may even fight that person. They simply never do this to any one older, and would wonder why no one ever taught that person better. You might see them touch the head of someone younger, and you will probably get away with it, if you did this to a bargirl, lb or younger person. If you want to test this theory go ahead and start patting some Thai adult male heads.

As far as feet go, you never want to show the bottom of your foot to a Thai. Its equivelent of saying your under my feet or lower. Pointing with ones foot is also considered rude. If you went to Chatachak Market and pointed at an item you wanted that was spread out on a mat on the ground with your feet, they wouldnt sell it to you if you were Thai. A farang will get away with this as they will write this off as you knowing no better and they want the sale.

You say plenty of Thais point there feet at your head?

Was this after patting them on the head? or what was the occasion may I ask? Again you may be able to get away with it as farang for not knowing better, but if they are doing this to you, I wonder what you did to provoke this?

[halla]

(donnnnnny @ Apr. 07 2009,03:33)
thats  more like mum dad and her  husband(boyfriend) so they can see the  new ATM she  has snagged
sorry  welcome to thailand

Oh lighten up ye ole git!

As for sharing the financial burden with the family, great! I have a 34000 EUR, and growing students loan. And I'm gonna throw away any aspects of making any (serious) money for a couple of years. For starters I'm gonna live in Thailand without pay for six months, starting this fall. What's gonna happen after these months, I don't know. Probably something fun

I tell the girls this if they hang around for a couple of days. If they don't believe me about my future and money situation, then their loss. If I'm invited, and they expect me to throw cash around, they're completely wrong. If they say I'm a walking ATM machine and I'm not, wouldn't that make them loose face to the family and the village? If they don't believe that I'm not rich, and gamble on that I will throw around, they loose

Now there's no reason for me to consult the oracle for this one. No plans to loose my heart to her(yet ). But after I've been in Phuket, I might need to book a session with the oracle.

What I got going for me is that i still have my youth, am hansum and I'm gonna move to Thailand in the near future.

What I got going against me is that I'm not rich, I don't speak thai (yet) and I've been with a double digit of working lbs. Probably got some other negative aspects, but I'm too jaded to find them.

And yeah, it was the head thing I really wanted the answer to, the family thing was kind of a side note. But guess that's more interesting

I think I've thrown some money on the counter at 7/11, and such before. Better stop that then.

Please please PLEASE tell us what happens...    

All I know now is that it will be postponed for a day or two, cuz at the moment I'm fucked up and on antibiotics.

[si geena]

Going upcountry is always fun. We're heading to Prachuap to visit with the grandparents for Songkran.

The last time I was there, we had BBQ frogs for supper. Something about crocodiles this trip, I hear...

[kahuna]

(rxpharm @ Apr. 07 2009,01:42) meeting the family after only knowing an lb a short time is unusual.

That's just wrong...almost every girl who I have met on this trip has suggested a trip to Isaanville or Laosnowhere to meet mama, papa and the family...

However, since I have already had that experience, I have had to decline every invitation.

I would strongly recommend that you spend all your time in the bars in Pattaya and BKK...

If you want to see Isaan...and I do recommend a visit...do it on your own...