Is it impossible to make friends with LB?

[Guest]

Although almost two week already went by, I am still depressed now. As a matter of fact, I joined a tour group and travelled Thailand the week before last week. In Bangkok, I saw the gorgeous cabaret show and was fascinated by one LB of that show. At that time, I asked him photoing with me but I have no courage to make friends with him.

In fact, I want to make friends with him, just friends and no other weird attempt. After backing to my nation, I mustered up my courage to ask the female tour guide of my tour group and wanted her to help me to ask for that LB's liaison such as e-mail address, telephone number...etc. However, that female tour guide said most ladyboys in cabaret have boyfriends or be other men's concubine. She also said ladyboys can't trust me and if I want to make friends with ladyboys, I just waste my time. Therefore, I am extremely disappointed, discouraged and very sad.

I recognized that I want to make friends with him becuase he is very beautiful. But I know he is male and I am not gay, I just only want to make frineds with him, just friends like showing consdierations to ecach other. If he need any help, I will try my best to help, only friends. I know maybe I am a simple man, isn't this hope carried out?

Even though I am probably incapable of making frineds with him, I deeply hope everything is fine for him and hope he is happy forever and keep health in order to keep long life.

[Stogie]

April fools!

[Guest]

Being a boyfriend is hard enough! Why trying to do the impossible?
Although with that said, I was able to establish this friend status with a lb in Phuket, but only after telling her I had gf in BKK. She was happy to have some status and i reckon considered me a friend with benifits. Her getting money on occasion.

[abba]

I have my doubts about defining something as a friendship (that goes both ways) when the one party receives money, as a gift etc.

In such a relationship, the one party has become a recipient of a grant, more or less.
Resulting, in a friendly relationship, rather than a friendship.


It is an important part of life, figuring out who are your friends. And who is almost a friend, but not quite.

Signed,

IMO abba

[kahuna]

I think the OP misspelled his name...Should start with a "B"...as in full of baloney...

[abba]

Sounds like OP is experiencing a crush (or belated puppy love).
Possibly with a homo-erotic undertone. (OP is accenting the "male angle".)

OP, instead of fantasizing about a model (or cabaret performer), then find yourself a ladyboy to give you a foot massage in a massage parlour.
If you are too shy for that, then you are probably to shy to speak to a ladyboy.

[jadeite]

There are a few barriers to friendship with a Thai ladyboy. The first is getting past the artificial personality mode they put on for foreign customers. Their demeanor is often quite different when they are with friends. The second is language; they are most comfortable speaking in Thai with friends.

A real good way to get to know them is to live nearby like in the same apartment building. If you want a pen pal, there are good ones out there. Just don't go looking for them in bars, cabarets, or web sites where they are trawling for customers as they likely are looking for handouts rather than friends. If you learn Thai you will find thousands looking sincerely for friends online. So why not learn some Thai and see where things go from there? Free lessons:

http://www.learningthai.com/books/manee/index.html

If you are serious about Thai rather than just wanting to learn a few one liners, then learn the alphabet from the beginning like these lessons.

[EyeMahk]

jadeite gives some good advice.

That said, the original poster should either stop winding us up, seek therapy, or better yet, just come back to Thailand and start fucking ladyboys! Easy! After a few, he'll know if he likes it or not, and if he likes hanging around with them. Then, and only then, can he think about being friends with them.

And finally, a good start would be to stop calling them HE or HIM.

[abba]

...
And finally, a good start would be to stop calling them HE or HIM. ...

Yeah, that might be less annoying to board members, in general.

However, I am not sure to what degree ladyboys care, if they are referred to as "he", rather than "she".
Possibly, nearly everything else is more important to them.

My impression is, that ladyboys do not mind that other ladyboys refer to them as "he" (or use their first name, as stated on their ID-cards).
Thai rahk thai.

[kahuna]

An bit of an interesting tale but a bit off topic...Actually there ain't no fucking topic here
but Baloney so I don't feel guilty...

I stop by Hemma Cabaret several times a week...During my stops for a beer or two,
I've gotten to know the GG's in the bar...actually Nana Bar is to the right of the Cabaret...
Owned by a very beautiful young GG whose name is Nana...TTChang take notice...

While I had never taken a ladyboy from the actual Cabaret, I have had visits from several of
the ladyboys in the adjoining beer bars...

A new ladyboy in the Cabaret did catch my attention my last few visits and two evenings ago
I spent some time staring at her...Apparently I wasn't being too discrete because one of
the older GGs in Nana Bar noticed my stares and asked if I liked...and I said yes...and she
replied, "That's my son."  Well she repeated the "my son" phrase many times during the
course of the evening, until she finally had her son come down to sit with me...

Seemed a bit strange to ask Mama for permission to fuck her son...but I did...and she
assured me that there was nothing wrong with taking her son to my room...

BTW...when we finally peeled all the makeup off, her son was very very hot...

[abba]

So, did HE give you a good time?
 

[TTChang]

(kahuna @ Apr. 02 2009,13:53) Owned by a very beautiful young GG whose name is Nana...TTChang take notice...

I am taking notice  

What a great story, Kahuna. I know you don't mind taking the 'sons' ...  whereas I'm always looking for the 'daughters with a surprise'.  But Nana (without a surprise) woukl be good for me (I wish)

I was chatting to a gogo bar mamasan in Chiang Mai a couple of years ago. She was telling me about her 'son' who worked in Simon Cabaret. I wangled a meeting with 'him' ... but couldn't pluck up the courage to declare to Mama my undying love (for one night   )   With training from Kahuna, I'm a bit braver these days!

[seamus]

(kahuna @ Apr. 02 2009,05:53) BTW...when we finally peeled all the makeup off, her son was very very hot...

I bet her son was a very very hot young boy

[kahuna]

(TTChang @ Apr. 02 2009,14:19)

(kahuna @ Apr. 02 2009,13:53) Owned by a very beautiful young GG whose name is Nana...TTChang take notice...

I am taking notice  

And on that evening the lovely Ms Nana did ask after you...Surprised?

I assured her you would return...

[kahuna]

(seamus @ Apr. 02 2009,14:29)

(kahuna @ Apr. 02 2009,05:53) BTW...when we finally peeled all the makeup off, her son was very very hot...

I bet her son was a very very hot young boy  

A very very beautiful hot young boy...