Are you happy with your life?

[Ninewives]

(Bumpa STIKKA @ Mar. 21 2010,02:41) Your 30s is trying to fix those bad decisions and setting your self up for your future.

Ain't that the truth! Although in my case I have needed an extra decade to fix the problems - getting close

[Bumpa STIKKA]

I'm with F0xxee almost word for word!

[manarak]

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yep... nice posts!!!
I agree!

I still have 3 full years of my thirties to put to good use.

So far my thirties have been:
- acknowledging there is a discrepancy between reality and what had been sold to me as "Life" when I was younger
- see that people function as much emotionally as rationally. Still didn't understand how most people function - see my Asperger's :-) - but at least I know there is big irrational part
- establish the fact that many people act selfishly and not for the success of the project/the company/the country...
- find out that my behavior is not 100% adapted to cultural rules and that when I speak with others, my non-verbal language conveys irritation and doubtfulness
- that I won't ever be successful in a big organisation, and that I won't ever be able to convince business partners or investors to realise one of my good business projects. Regardless of what I say and how well the projects are explained, I manage to irritate them and then most people just hack away.
- ascertaining that feeling there is something "special" about me.
- trying to overcome the difficulty by hard work on myself - only to fallback even deeper into my natural inclinations after a period of depression
- accept being different

Current phase (3 years to go before 40):
- trying to build on my strengths to derive enough revenue for own business to live in the LOS with my family

[JaiDee]

(manarak @ Mar. 22 2010,17:21) Current phase (3 years to go before 40):
- trying to build on my strengths to derive enough revenue for own business to live in the LOS with my family

excellent Manarak .........never lose sight of your dream and make it happen someday!

only 37, jeeesh, you are a young lad.....

[harley quinn]

(Bumpa STIKKA @ Mar. 20 2010,19:41) Took the plunge and no regrets...

Life is what you make it... I made mine great!

The way I see it you can divide your life up like this...

First 20 years don't count as you have no control over them.
Your 20s is just a decade of disastrous decisions.
Your 30s is trying to fix those bad decisions and setting your self up for your future.
Your 40s are FUCKING GREAT!

Dunno what happens after that. When I find out I'll report back on this thread!  

After your forties?

You get older, probably don't get wiser and realise that you actually couldn't give a fuck about what other people think!

Personally I'm loving it - particularly when you consider the alternative

[JaiDee]

(harley quinn @ Mar. 22 2010,22:22) Personally I'm loving it - particularly when you consider the alternative

heh heh, ya that's true!

I don't mind my 40's ..... sure, body parts are going to hell and I can't fuck the way I could 10 or 20 years ago, but you have a sense of knowledge and wisdom about the world at this age that we just didn't have back then. You know more, have seen more, and hopefully learned from past mistakes so as not to repeat them again.

[Instant Kama]

Can i start my response with two points.

One of the most wonderful things in the world is that we all, thankfully, differ in our ways, be it our outlook on life, how we view the world, how we respond to situations, ect ect. The second point was 'inspired' by FOxxee's comment that "i was dissapointed to find people so content and happy". What makes you think that?, maybe it's because, and this is my second point, that you can never really get to know someone by way of the internet, I hope so, as I'm delighted to find people content with there lot.

My comments at life beginning at fourty were aimed at B.S.'s opening response. As with others my own teenage and twenties years were a learning curve on life's roller coaster, but it didn't seem to stop me having a ball, mainly because i left the nest early i guess. My early thirties were spent living and working in Thailand and from there on in i've been on the road, a life that sure as hell wouldn't, understandably, suite many people, however it's what gives me the buzz i need from life, nothing much else does.

JaiDee, as mentioned it's not easy to know people by way of the net but i can assure you my friend i've toured Thailand from Had Yai to Mai Sai, from Mai Sot to Nan, appreciating it's good and bad points as i went, at no point did i mention Thailand as being a lousey place live, i mearly pointed out that i only visit these days to 'empty the bags' as it were. I do have many interests, history, culture, language, architecture and yes, clean oceans and beautiful beaches.

Please dont take this as a derogatory comment guy's, but i've been lucky enough to put a few thousand miles on the clock through my love of travel, for those who think of Thailand as a paradise well great. I've just found contentment in other places for many reasons.

As for Thailand being a place where one is as ' free as a bird' not sure about that.

Thanks for the input guy's. Enjoy your live's while you can.

As a mate of mine once said "one crowded hour is worth a day without life.

[transcebu]

Life never seems to be remain blissful for long, but I can say that my last couple of years have been my happiest in a sense. Also in my 40s I recently realized life is too damn short to not do what makes you happy for fear that others may not like it.

And since then I've learned what it really feels like to be so attracted to and so happy with a person that it can drive me nuts. But I'm alive more than I can ever remember. My biggest regret is I can't be in the PI all year round, but that's changing soon

Happiness isn't constant though. This reminds me of a poem by Kahlil Gibran - some segments below:

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

I've entered the world of Seasons, albeit in a land where they don't seem to have any.

[Instant Kama]

foxxee, my Dylan quote was aimed at quite a few folks i know, and dont we all, who are scared shitless of moving on or changing there life because there tied to house, wife, kids, whatever and so continue in there very unhappy state untill it's too late. I dont have any baggage, never had, so yes it's easy for me to move on. ........when you aint ..........

By the way, do you race locally ?. No not me my best mate.

Cheer s

[guydesavoy]

Wise words from KG transcebu Which book was that from ?

[Jerome]

(Bumpa STIKKA @ Mar. 21 2010,04:41) Took the plunge and no regrets...

Life is what you make it... I made mine great!

The way I see it you can divide your life up like this...

First 20 years don't count as you have no control over them.
Your 20s is just a decade of disastrous decisions.
Your 30s is trying to fix those bad decisions and setting your self up for your future.
Your 40s are FUCKING GREAT!

Dunno what happens after that. When I find out I'll report back on this thread!  

Man that is an encouraging post!

I just turned 38 last month and have been feeling really OLD.
Everyone says "you are still young" but I look back on the past 12 years and think about how quickly they have gone by. 26 seems like it was last year. Then I think in another 12 years I'll be 50 and get real depressed.

But if you say that '40s rock , then I wanna believe you.
I've been working on getting my online income up to a certain level that I reckon would give me a very comfortable life in Thailand (or anywhere else for that matter) and these past couple of months I've gotten it up to about 20% of that goal. Still far away I know but it is slowly but consistently rising. It just takes hard work and consistency, which I have.

So cheers to you, and hopefully my 40s will rock too, and maybe we'll share a drink one day

[Guest]

Hi Guys, My biggest regret was not getting divorced earlier. 30 years of on and off arguing and I finally finished it last year in my late 50's. During that time I spent 21 years in the military which was the best move I ever done as it meant staying away from home. My advice to anyone in an unhappy marriage...get out..even if it means losing the children as sooner or later they will understand. Am I happy now? bloody right I am...I am working for my retirement and eventually may sale my 2 apartments and go and live in LOS on the beach somewhere with a LB cock in one hand and a beer in the other.....sheer happiness, sheer bliss....crap happiness when you can or it will pass you by!!!

[guydesavoy]

After 2 heavy tours of duty (the marriage then the military) you have certainly earned that peaceful retirement millwall.

Good luck man

[Bumpa STIKKA]

This is turning out to be a fascinating thread. Some great replies here.

[JaiDee]

(Jerome @ Mar. 23 2010,20:17) But if you say that '40s rock , then I wanna believe you.

Errrm, ya...sure, believe us..... the 40's are great, oh ya best part of your life.... nothing is better

and I have a house in some lovely swampland I wanna sell you!!

Just kidding, it's not so bad; the occassional aches and pains but all in all it's pretty cool and the best part of course is the knowledge and wisdom you will have gained just by living for 40+ years; stuff you can't read in any book or on any message board.

  BTW, hang on to that age {38} for as long as you can; I was telling ladyboys in Bangkok that I was 38 for about 6 or 7 years, only one of which was true of course.  But as long as you keep your hair and stay in reasonably decent shape you can ward off the big 4-0 for a while yet