Dealing with dickheads

[Guest]

Face to face some fella is been a right bollix ..how do you handle the situation .

You were having a nice chilled day until this fella dumps all over it..

[PigDogg]

The key is not to buy into a dickhead's bullshit. And Pattaya seems to attract dickheads.

[seanbeag7]

i have dealt with dickheads in chippers for 10 years, and i always try to keep the cool and tell others why he is acting like a moron just to go away,

I found if you are sober you can easily make a dickhead look like a moron, just let him shout and rage all he wants but keep him at arm's distance and then if other people are around him, start using him him as your pratical joke, it always works for me,......... but then again i'm built like arugby player and i know i can lift most people and slam them HARD into a wall

[jimslim]

Are you telling us you are a bouncer in a chipshop seanbeag

[seanbeag7]

was a bouncer, salesperson and chef all in one

[jimslim]

Fair enough remind me not to complain about your chips then

[stogie bear]

Living in Thailand you meet a lot of crazies. People on the run from something in their lives...

I can sense when something is gonna go overboard and walk away before it does.

In this game (the forum/websites, etc) I've had a few haters wanting to teach me a lesson.

Usually it's someone who thinks I'm an arrogant tosser (I am, but hey!) or someone who thinks they can do my job better than I can or even someone who wants to be me because they think they'd be better at being me than I would! Then there are those who think I am making posts directed against them in particular and I get surprising hate mail telling me how sorry I am gonna be, etc.

The number one lesson in these situations is that you can never rationalize with people who lose their tempers or decide to get medieval on you.

Unless you enjoy the fight (guilty, sometimes) then just walk away. Even if the fool is aiming his weapons at you.

The world is a wacky place especially Thailand. You'll meet some very odd people. But funnily enough - the loudest of the losers are people who you have NEVER met who just don't like you for reasons of their own.

There are two ways to deal with people who bug you... either have them silenced or cover your ears.

Pleading with them, or asking nicely won't work. Pointing out the errors of their ways is futile. Laying out a rational argument stating your case just makes things worse.

People will like you or not. About one in seven people you meet will take a disliking to you for no good reason. That's nature and you can't fight that.

Choose your chums and cast all others asunder!  

[Road Runner]

Having been involved with 'customer service' for nearly 20 years in northern Europe I have met a few 'dickheads'
Don't get me wrong 90% of the public are fine  -  9% of them are brilliant! and often make your day when you talk to them.


Then there's the remaing 1%......    

I've only had two failures in my time  -  one was a woman who complained she could not get out of her car  -  very strange as she was standing in front of me outside her car!  
She wanted free food, free accomodation and her money back.  I did remain polite to her but said she was getting nothing.
I invited her to complete a complaint form on which she described me as being 'most unhelpful'  -  I signed it as I entirely agreed with her assesment.
Funnily enough I never heard another word about that one.


The other one was the most horrible person I have ever had to deal with male or female!   -  her husband was better but not by much.
Again the complaint was that she could not get out of her car  -  yes you've guessed it!
As I approached and before I had introduced myself she came out with a snyde comment  -  I don't care but it did alert me that I would have a problem.
After that all I got from her was that I was lying (which I don't do to customers) interspersed with verbal abuse.
What really got me is that I had talked to my senior supervisor before seeing this couple and he said he had tried to do everything possible and all he had got was a stream of abuse too.
It's the one and only time I have felt like hitting a woman!
Her final comment to me was that she would never deal with the company again  -  my reply?  -  Good!


RR.

[dummy_plug]

I usually turn the other way - you really have nothing to gain by getting into a boxing match with a drunk or an idiot. Life is full or morons who, for some reason or another, always seem to be begging for an ass-kicking. I've gotten into a few tumbles in the past and even if you come out ahead you still lose the game.

[daveduke007]

I count to "Ten" when confronted with a "dickhead"  in my boozer.

I "calm down" have a quiet chat with him or her in a "non" aggressive manner and 99% of the time they will leave the premises with me  getting a handshake and a apology.

In 12 years of me managing my pub  I have never been "punched" once     

[sev7en]

I wouldn´t lift a finger in Thailand if someone starts.
Just walk away.

Back home when the arabs gets too much, a fast hard kick in the nuts usually ends the discussion.

[pacman]

(seanbeag7 @ Jul. 03 2008,07:16) ......but then again i'm built like arugby player and i know i can lift most people and slam them HARD into a wall

I'm sorry to poke fun at a fellow BM, but this reminded me when kahuna got annoyed with seanbeag.

He had every right to be cross & he chooses who he wants to drink with .....

.... but I couldn't help think if sean decided to join kahuna for a drink just who was going to stop him.      

                             

[pacman]

(stogie bear @ Jul. 03 2008,11:51) Choose your chums and cast all others asunder!  

       Sound advice sir !          

Did the very thing years ago & unburdened myself of fairweather friends & have been much happier ever since.

I recommend it to all, you don't need to be patronised as you grow older.            

[seanbeag7]

I always found that people who are nice and polite during the day, when they get a few drinks in can tiurn into the biggest dickheads anyone has ever met, and they think they have a right to shout abuse at someone who is just trying to make a living in the nighttime, whether it's the taxi driver, chipper person or clock- room attendant at a disco.

I worked in chippers for 10 years and a year and a half ago i made a promice to my mum before she died to leave the night-time work behind me and find a better job, well now i work as a self-employed internet owner and 98% of the people i deal with are nice and polite, but i do have 2% that annoy the fuck out of me, and they know that i will not put up with their bullshite, at any time.

I find that if you lay down the law to dickheads, very few cross the line, but you on occsions get one who will see how far to push it, and i usually just grab the gobshite by the shoulders lift him up if i'm able and toss the cunt out the door and intio the gutter. it has a lasting affect on the wanker, and they never come back again.

I am not a violent person, i just get on with life and try to enjoy a few drinks with friends, but as i come from Ireland which has now become a nation of drink and drug problems, and every year we have a new generation of dickheads emerging to annoy the good people that i'm afraid to say have become few against so many.

[Naang Faa]

Always cold and calculated when somebody is annoying me..

With the exception of the Arab in Don Muang,who was rude and
then man-handled me-
It wouldn't be right for a lady to be brawling on the floor
....so i knocked him out in one!
an then gave his 5 friends the "don't even think about it" look...
x