Timely but how much do you miss old mates?

[mardhi]

Not sure about you guys, but just tonight, while I got fixated with a song from my past, I got thinking about loads of great great mates who I am hopeless at keeping in touch with. As many of you know, one of them is my username - not a week goes by without me thinking of the Indonesian Girl with this name and hoping she is doing well.

I got a call out of the blue from an old Uni mate who I have not seen for nearly 16 years since his wedding in some fantastic castle in Italy - both of us spoke about a 3rd mate whom neither knew how to contact. Luckily my mate kept my parents details from when we were at uni and called up my mum who relayed the message. Strange but at this time of year, living in the middle of paradise, you cant help but wonder about people you knew many years ago. Not a sob story, no drama about anything being knicked - just remembering the good old days. My Uni mate had no idea I was even living and working in Thailand - certainly makes you think. I can think of at least 10 people whom I would like to know what they are up to and if they are doing well. Must be that new year time of feeling I guess.

Best wishes to all and never forget to keep in touch with your mates is all I can say.

Cheers
Mardhi

[allstar88]

i once saw a mate on crimewatch(no bull)

[stogie bear]

Sad, but I can't think of anyone who I knew in the past and would like to see again. Maybe a couple of old girlfriends... but the past is the past and for me; life gets better every year so I don't need it. Besides - I barely have time to deal with the present!

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

I have two true and trusted friends and that's it. One is my best friend from grammar school up to the present. He is someone I will always stay in contact with. The other is my Ex, she was a good friend before we got married and despite our differences which lead to the divorce we still remain best friends. I consider very lucky to have them in my life but they are the only ones I care about. All the rest, best wishes to them.

[gizmo]

(mardhi @ Dec. 28 2007,21:06) Not sure about you guys, but just tonight, while I got fixated with a song from my past, I got thinking about loads of great great mates who I am hopeless at keeping in touch with.    As many of you know, one of them is my username - not a week goes by without  me thinking of the Indonesian Girl with this name and hoping she is doing well.  

I got a call out of the blue from an old Uni mate who I have not seen for nearly 16 years since his wedding in some fantastic castle in Italy - both of us spoke about a 3rd mate whom neither knew how to contact.  Luckily my mate kept my parents details from when we were at uni and called up my mum who relayed the message.     Strange but at this time of year, living in the middle of paradise, you cant help but wonder about people you knew many years ago.    Not a sob story, no drama about anything being knicked - just remembering the good old days.   My Uni mate had no idea I was even living and working in Thailand - certainly makes you think.    I can think of at least 10 people whom I would like to know what they are up to and if they are doing well.      Must be that new year time of feeling I guess.

Best wishes to all and never forget to keep in touch with your mates is all I can say.

Cheers
Mardhi

I met you last April, and you never call?

[Naang Faa]

Hi Mardhi,
Nice post..

I (cowardly) ran away,not wanting to be a cause of shame,embarrassment or dissapointment
to my friends or family...i only kept in touch with three people who"knew"..
I did everything i could to bury my past....i felt like a criminal (no jokes please about that being a scouse
"birthright").....
There were times,especially when i'd hear a song,i'd start thinking of friends,the laughs
we had-i wanted to call but there would be too many questions i couldn't honestly answer..
Stupidly,the fear of losing my friends was what made me run away from them..
I started the rumor of what i did myself..to test the water, waited a couple of months for the gossip to
stop and went back..
When you do something like this you put every single friendship you've gained on the line and you
really do find out who your mates are..
Everyone was fine,they just thought it was sad i had to live with a secret..they knew there was
something they couldn't quite put the finger on about me anyway!
Both here and Thailand,without my friends i'd be nothing,they stood by me when i needed them most
and you can't ask for more than that..
a very happy
Naang Faa
x

[newwriter]

Interesting thoughts. I had a month in a manoir in France for the RWC (please let's not mention the rugby) with half a dozen school mates from 30-35 years ago. We remain firm friends. Was meant to be 12 of us but I de-partnered during organisation so went solo. Good friends, it barely mattered.

Also have a large group of workmates I continue to see. Perhaps I live in the past too much.

Not very many old girlfriends still close though. Perhaps to do with my liking of LB's now.

[Guest]

(newwriter @ Dec. 29 2007,10:17) Interesting thoughts. I had a month in a manoir in France for the RWC (please let's not mention the rugby) with half a dozen school mates from 30-35 years ago. We remain firm friends. Was meant to be 12 of us but I de-partnered during organisation so went solo. Good friends, it barely mattered.

Also have a large group of workmates I continue to see. Perhaps I live in the past too much.

Not very many old girlfriends still close though. Perhaps to do with my liking of LB's now.

Poor bastard. Being an investment banker and a crap one at that, its a small wonder you have any mates.

[TTChang]

(stogie bear @ Dec. 29 2007,06:27) Sad, but I can't think of anyone who I knew in the past and would like to see again.

Up to you       I remember Stogie ....  

[katoeylover]

(stogie bear @ Dec. 28 2007,23:27) but the past is the past and for me; life gets better every year so I don't need it.

Apart from Bad TV shows - it seems!!

[katoeylover]

They say if you can count good friends on one hand you are doing well.

I ampretty good at keeping in touch, but really there are only 2 or 3 that I want to. I think if you really did want to keep in touch, then you wouldnt lose contact in the first place.

[PigDogg]

I used to have lots of friends.

About 5 years ago, I started taking trips to Thailand and became anti-social at home.

In the last week, I reconnected with a few and it feels good.  Bonding with some buds and being a bit more open about Thai adventures.  Haven't been mentioning the ladyboys but rather the socio-economic dynamics of Thai-farang sexual encounters.

Somewhat easier to re-connect with single and divorced friends though.

[kahuna]

Well, when you get to be as old as I am there are many who have passed through your life...old school mates, business partners, roommates, work mates, army buddies, etc., etc.  I don't see any of them any longer...And I can't tell you why...I've always been a bit of a loner and I suppose I'll always be that way...

I live in the small Northern California town I grew up in...I went all the way through public school here...many of my old class mates are still around...The best man at my wedding years ago lives a block away and I haven't seen him in months...I suppose I could stop by and say hello...but I don't...

And the few times I do run into old friends...we say "Hi..How you doing...You're looking good...What ya been doing"...And then we part...

I've been home now since November 20th...remoldeled the master bedroom and bath and just finished the kitchen...I'll put the house on the market in a day or two...and then I'm off to Thailand on Friday...

And I suppose on this New Year's Eve and on New Year's Eves to come, I "...will take a cup of kindness yet.  For auld lang syne."

There is a sadness in it, I'll admit...But I'll put the old friends and the old memories away, where they belong...

[allstar88]

how many of these friends can you realy trust?

[Guest]

I tend to lose touch with people for a reason , so i dont tend to miss anyone , unless im sober , so hardly ever .