Should I sponsor/ how to say no?

[holly200]

Hi Guys,

I am thinking of sponsoring an LB but it may not fit into my current lifestyle or have any future for me. I think I'm being lined up for a big sob story in February when I get to Bangkok, and will be asked to be a sponsor to beauty school or quite the bar.

I cannot take more than 8weeks leave a year or two to three trips a year so there is not really any way of having any type of relationship.

But I really, really like her a lot (perhaps too much) as she is the one in a hundred, and this is the first time that I would like to spend most if not all of my holiday time with her. I have been traveling to Thailand for a few years now.

Its tough finding an LB you really like but even though there maybe no future in it. I would like the ask some of the guys on the forums what is the best way of saying to sponsorship (diplomatically) and still being with her.

Thanks
Rich

[rxpharm]

You have had enough experience and read enough stories to know that sponsoring a p4p person is not a good idea, especially if they are giving you the story that they will quit the bar - this rarely happens if they are sponsored.

However, IF she is asking you to sponsor her to a beauty school, and IF you can afford it you might want to do this.

Go with her to the actual school she is planning to study at. Verify its credentials. Pay the tuition upfront for the length of time she needs to complete the program full time. Typically around 8 months, possibly a year. Tell her she must show you the diploma after she completes the course or she must pay you back.

Now if you cannot afford it, of course don't bother and tell her you cannot afford it (even if you can if you want to turn her down).

Good luck!

[thaibound]

(rxpharm @ Dec. 31 2007,19:30) Pay the tuition upfront for the length of time she needs to complete the program full time.

what's the re-sale value of pre-paid tuition in thailand these days?
at any rate it can't be as high as a gucci handbag.

[SwoonTV]

if u need to ask what you're gonna get back from your expenditure, u probably shouldn't do it. but love is a weird weird thing, and i know nothing about it. maybe i should shut my trap. oh well, tough titties.

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

My advice, unless you plan on moving to Thailand and setting up a home you are pissing into a hurricane. LB'S will tell you the most belieavable storys and play on your good side when they know you are not going to be there to keep an eye on them. Just have a good time with her when you go there, take her places outside Bangkok or even Thailand if you two hit it off. No harm is keeping in touch but don't except her to sit around and knit stockings if you are back in your home. For a P4p girl the lure of the quick and easy buck is too strong for them to resist.

[Guest]

Holly just give the money to your favorite charity in the town where you live as it will infinitely do more good for those needy. Visit your gal in LOS and just have a great time and she will respect your decision not to sponsor her fantasies for money. Now here is your quiz question. Fill in the blanks and you win. "You will never lose your gal in LOS...you only lose _ _.

[Tomcat]

(holly200 @ Jan. 01 2008,09:20) I cannot take more two to three trips a year so there is not really any way of having any type of relationship.

So why post this thread?. I think you will have to carry on fucking and forgetting and get used to being just another brick in the wall.

Sounds like a severe case of having your cake and eat it.

[jadeite]

If it makes you feel good, then do it. Just keep in mind (1) the money may not be used for the things you are told it is for (2) don't expect money given, no matter how much, to necessarily earn you any points in the future relative to the next joe in the bar who has given nothing and (3) don't assume she will abandon working in the bar even if she says she will. It's basically a writeoff, but it's your money so do what you want.

If on the other hand you want to see what she really thinks of you versus the handouts, lie and tell her in no uncertain terms she will never, ever get so much as 1 baht from you for anything, no matter how urgent the need and see how things go.

[69billy]

(holly200 @ Jan. 01 2008,03:20) she is the one in a hundred

I wonder how many times we heard the same thing...

[holly200]

Hi Guys,
Thanks for the replies in particular: PogueMahone, Rxpharm, Jadeite and Apery. There were ways of approaching the LB relationship I wouldn€™t of considered. The best test is say no, then to gauge her response. After all is very, very difficult to have a relationship when you€™re not living in Thailand. We still can have great time together when I€™m here on Holidays.

Regards

[Guest]

Attention all BM's...Attention all BM's!! Finally someone gets it the very first time around when properly advised. Congrats Holly for listening to what wisdom we have to offer here on this forum. You will be a happier, wiser and somehat wealthier man and have some self -esteem when travelling in LOS next time!!

[PigDogg]

Just curious how much beauty school costs? How many hours involved?

Are most Thai salon workers beauty school grads?

[jimslim]

How to say no ? - NO
Only three words of Thai you need to know - mai aow khrap .

Just say no , explain you cant do it , and she will still wanna be your girl every time you come on holiday , its the next best option for her .

good luck

[moe666]

My girlfriend went to some sort of beauty school that I think cost her little or nothing. Never ask me for a dime but who knows maybe another guy picked up the tab for that one.

[funny]

Why buy when you can short-term lease and trade up on a newer model?