Buying gifts for your beau!

[stogie bear]

This brave new world of ours needs to be met with a certain amount of humility... Older guys not learning from the screw ups we made 30 years earlier... We all learn by doing and experience can't be taught. We are gonna all make the same mistakes at least once...

As for the shopping... having a clear understanding of your limitations would be good for a start and even better would be to have the model of the phone sorted before she parades you through the capitalist mecca that is MBK!

But no matter what we write here - the new fellas won't listen and will go ahead and do the exact same thing.

Like Kahuna - I'll spend any amount of Baht on the slutty clothes because I usually get to enjoy them... (on her, that is!)

[mcqueen]

(daveduke007 @ Jul. 30 2007,20:35)

(mcqueen @ Jul. 29 2007,19:54) "BTW Im buying the "teerak" a TV on tuesday"

Why? Did her TV implode, while she was giving you head?  

Believe it or not SHE actually turns OFF the TV when we get down to buisiness

Wow! Well that removes almost all doubt, you have a real keeper! I am usually the one, who turns off the t.v., before I get down to action with my chosen one. I am not sure, if I can remember a ladyboy, that turned the t.v. off herself.
Best of luck and times to you and your "mia", Dave!

[PigDogg]

(buttafly @ Jul. 30 2007,06:27) the poor guy who gave no gifts, was not a sucker and was better in the sack won out over the fool who threw his money around

Way to go BF!!!!

[tampanugget_2001]

(Tomcat @ Jul. 30 2007,19:13) Gentlemen have bestowed gifts upon mistresses and ladys of the night since time began. Many Hong Kong Businessman have secret hooker girlfriends over the border in Shenzen and are always buying gifts.

If you can afford it, are financially stable and have no family , why not, its keeping the economy turning over and someone employed and someone happy. There is a pleasure in giving and im not talking about sending money every month..thats another topic..

(You pay 3K for a long time and what has it produced, nothing but a shed load of useless spunk.. but you feel better afterwards, )

On the other hand if you cant afford it then thats another story...

I agree, if you can afford it and the girl has treated you well, why not buy her a nice gift.

The girl I hung out with on my last outing to Pattaya, I took shopping to the Outlet Malll one day and bought her a couple thousand bahts worth of clothes. We went there on my suggestion (I was looking for some deals on some Reboks). I can't believe that I can get better prices on shoes and most clothes (that are made in Thailand) in Los Angeles rather in the LOS.

Anyway it was my pleasure to give the gift. If I can't afford another $10-20, I should just stay home and skip my vacation. I feel as someone who has grown up in the West that I've been very lucky and I think I should when possible spread some of that good luck around.

[hardpaolo]

I have never been shopping with a gg or lb hooker, seems a bizarre concept to me.

Shag em, pay em and leave em.

[donnnnnny]

never gop shopping with whores

[donnnnnny]

or hippos infact never go shopping, its fucking boaring and expensive and we generally buy shit we dont really need
better of in a bar getting a blow job from a new girl who dont know you B=======D

[stogie bear]

and we generally buy shit we dont really need...

If I stopped buying stuff I didn't need I'd never leave the house at all!

So - what's the big controversy over treating your favourite bargirls to a few gifts every now and then? Let's face it - in terms of relationships - I haven't got many people that I care about that I CAN treat.

I don't mind the (very occasional) gift but I do expect gratitude. Anything over and above the cash amount that I pay for sex had better be appreciated.

[azza33]

What pisses me off, is that some of the gg/lb just expect to receive things...

They have a magical radar which seems to always end up at a shopping center or local market..

And i don't see them reaching for their wallet first

If you can afford it and really WANT to buy it.... why the heck not...

But when they just expect it, use us as ATMS, it puts me off being with them

Its a surefire way to kill the "romance" for mine~~

[Road Runner]

I think part of their expectation comes from the idea of karma.
It's good karma to give gifts so when you are re-encarnated you come back higher up the scale.  That's the theory  

(Religion?  I can see Stogie rolling his eyes    )


If you have money it seems like it's expected in Thai culture that you share it with your family and friends.

If we go to visit Herself's family we don't normally take any gifts with us.
After we get there we go out for a major shopping trip to fit out the kids.  There are 9 of them!
It normally ends up being about 5-7000 Baht which if you compare with UK prices is next to nothing.

It's dead funny traipsing round Tesco's in the local city with half of them in tow and all the locals looking at this crazy falang and ladyboy    

RR.

[tommy1983]

I bought a ladyboy a guess watch as a little gift before I even met her and we were lying in bed talking and she was telling me about some guy that gave her 5000baht for a short time and she was all proud of herself when she was telling me this, and I just turned to her with a smile and said "I spent 7500baht on a watch for you before I even met you" and it was the look on her face after i said that, that makes buying a gift for someone you like worthwhile  

just my 2 cents

[Tomcat]

(tommy1983 @ Jul. 31 2007,23:11) just my 2 cents

or maybe just your 20,000 cents

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

Let's make a BIG distinction here gentlemen. Buying a gift for you GF/BEAU is not the same thing as spending your money on some LB that you just shagged and have no intention of having any type of L/T relationship with. Most of these LB'S are out to take as much from you in as short a time as they can possibly can. If you are clueless or worse, ignore the tried and true advice offered by the guys here, then too bad, so sad you moron.
Once you have entered into a relationship with an LB then you had better understand the Thai concept of "Nam Jai" Which literally means "juice of the heart." You are expected to show this by buying them things, taking them places and proving to them that you do care for them. This is expected of Thai men also so don't go thinking you are being picked upon because you are a Farang. In return the LB will have to show "Gat Dan Yu" (spl??) to you. That basically means she has a responsibility to repay you by taking care of you. The more "Nam Jai" you show to her and her family the greater this payback is for her. It is a system that is ingrained in the Thai persona and unless you try and understand it ,accept it you are wasting your time.
I am speaking from my own experiances in trying to learn about the ins and outs of dating and then having a L/T relationship with a Thai LB. I was clueless at first when I went to my first LB Bar. I did get taken for a ride a few times but I learned the hard way how to put the LB in her place. There is nothing wrong in buying her small gifts if you are going to see her again and want to show your appreciation. You would probably do the same thing with a Farang lady. However, when an LB mentions to you first that she would like to go shopping with you, boot her ass out 'cause your pocketbook is the only thing getting action that day.

[stogie bear]

You would probably do the same thing with a Farang lady...

Come on... hands up... who'd buy ANYTHING for a white chick?

[kahuna]

I did...I bought her a divorce...and it's non-returnable