Buying a girl from a bar, long-time

[buttafly]

if you really liked a ladyboy that you knew, and she had just started to work in a bar so you knew she was kind of a 'nice girl', would you be willing to tell her to quit that bar and stay with you exclusively?

problems; you have to support her, working there she could make 30K or more per month if she's cute so figure that much at least

also; you would have to live in the city she lives in

you'd have to have her with you at least 5 nights per week or else you would always wonder what she's up to, and even in this case she would probably have a Thai lover on the side or someone she still has on her mind constantly

also, depending on how long she worked in the bar it may be too late.

and lastly she may have some friends in the bar and is working there for that reason, she wants to hang with her pals and not some older white guy for most of her free time. has anyone here done this or would you be tempted to do it?

[dummy_plug]

(buttafly @ Dec. 18 2006,10:59) she had just started to work in a bar so you knew she was kind of a 'nice girl'

While there are exceptions to every rule, you should re-read this sentance and see if you can get the two things to reconcile. Just thinking about it makes me .

[Guest]

I believe this is an real "beatn to death" topic, but I also believe this is a topic every body loves to ........"continue beating" .
If my ass is not in LOS, the answer is NO. I don't care if she EVR works in a bar. There are bar veterans who still have a good heart, and YOURSELF are always an factor. It's possible that YOU, your relationship with her, can change or reverse all the bad things the bars have done to her. BUT, you have to BE THERE to do the magic first. Diffcult as it already is, (keyword: magic), you can not do it from the other side of planet.
If I am lucky enough to say good bye to all the family pressures and money issues and WTF and move to LOS tomorrow, I would then seriously think about this. My preference would still be outside of the bars though. Because the very fact that she started meant there was a moment she was weakened .... spiritually. (lack of better words)

[Guest]

(dummy_plug @ Dec. 18 2006,05:08)

(buttafly @ Dec. 18 2006,10:59) she had just started to work in a bar so you knew she was kind of a 'nice girl'

While there are exceptions to every rule, you should re-read this sentance and see if you can get the two things to reconcile. Just thinking about it makes me   .

Eye fron temptetions told that you were paying her 5000 aday

[Guest]

And you believe her?

[koykaeng]

(costassg @ Dec. 18 2006,13:38) Eye fron temptetions told that you were paying her 5000 aday

You're not suggesting that Dummy Plug is a cheap skate ?

Cheers
Koykaeng

[diablo80]

Buttafly,

talking from a personal experience... I tried for a month to do the same thing that you are planning to do. It did not work for many reasons. It is not a bad idea if you are sure about what you are doing, you have a clear idea on your mind and you like the LB... However if you are still "flying around" as your nick says... you better go and pick up a new girl every night instead of having one coming to you or staying in your room waiting for U to return.

My original agreement was to pay 30K + her monthly fine where she works (let's say 8k because one day she will have to return and you do not want her to be negativelly fined) + everyday food + clothes + shoes + taking her out for a drink and a dance = calculate 45 to 65k a month EASILY

The girl I choose spend with me only one week since she literrally "burned me out". I had paid her for the whole month and simply told her not to come back (loosing all the money). Very pretty (obsessions) - one of the market super star - young, smart anything you want, etc BUT I did not count on the human factor (factor X) that i could get bored of her, that she changed her attitude once in a "relationship" (or whatever can pass through your mind)

Anyway, the story is that i ended up really bad, having a very bad reputation in the Lb community. The LB is very angry with me and she reppeatedly came back to my room pushing me to change my room and telephone number.

I am now in a very serious relationship with a new girl but I experienced one of these nights that noone would like to go through where this famous girl was knocking on my door while I had my new gf in my room scared and crying (promising that this one would be her last night with me ) ....

At the bottom line, it is your decision BUT I would strongly recommned you NOT TO GO OUT with any gogo bar LB. They easily fall in love with your money and your good life style and then have dificullties to go away. They will also play with your mind since most of them have a MSc in Psychology (more effective than real women believe me)...

In conclusion DO NOT DO IT unless you like to go through really shity situations

Diablo Le Grec

[Snick]

Go For It !

Just pay with a credit card so you can dispute the charges later on if the transaction was not succesfuly completed.

[kahuna]

Damn this Forum is really fun sometimes...

[stogie bear]

Diablo was ripped off from the first day! A life time bar fine is available in the bars for 10,000 Baht and your gal should have suggested this! Oh well...

she could make 30K or more per month if she's cute so figure that much at least

also; you would have to live in the city she lives in

you'd have to have her with you at least 5 nights per week or else you would always wonder what she's up to

I ain't paying, I ain't moving and I ain't sharing!

Don't go with bar girls for a loving relationship. It simply won't work and if your the jealous type stay at home and jerk off! Thais don't see 'love' in the same way that you probably do.

[buttafly]

Oh, I am not saying *I* would do this....I was asking for a friend [chuckles]

no, seriously....I know that without living in Thailand 24/7 it's impossible and even then it's 99% impossible....as SB says these people just do not "love" us the way we look at love and frankly they would rather be with young people of their own kind.

I attempted this twice myself .... in 2003 I had a non-bar girl kind of living with me off and on and I supported her; that was cool for a while but inevitably ended in disaster for many reasons. in 2005 I tried again and the girl said "no"! LOL....she preferred working and being with friends which is understandable as many like that but still kind of a let-down. that would have ended badly also of course so it's probably best.

then I heard a story about a friend recently who attepmted this deal.... the girl in question told him she was going away for a few days and she came back without her dick and balls! Ouch.....for both parties!!

Bottom line, as always; short times are best for people who don't live in Thailand and probably even for guys who DO live there!

[diablo80]

Stoggie Bear....


really thank you very much BUT a litlle bit TOO LATE monkeyman and mardhi already know my problem...

anyway... i almost fall in love with her when I realized she was falling in love with the "think" of my wallet

So ... guys and dolls leran from my experience and do not do the same

diablo le grec

[buttafly]

don't sweat it  man, you are not the only one.....as mentioned on this forum many times, any westerner who believes their Thai ladyboy or lady is with them for 'love' needs to have their head examined and their ego checked at the door.

If they have worked in a bar for a year, a week or even a day that rule gets magnified 100 times

[Mai-Kee]

I'd only consider it if I'd live there... but to be very honest, in this case I mistrust myself much more than the bar girl...

[buttafly]

he hee, so true! I never mentioned; the girl I 'supported' in 2003 [read; gave her 10-15K per month so she wouldn't slide her skinny-ass body up and down on a brass pole all night] was cheated on more than Hillary Clinton!

Probably why she left me for that semi-rich, fully-retarded moron from Massachusetts who could give her much more $$$ than I ever could....... she heard so many stories about the buttafly man I am surprised *I* was not castrated!