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[Guest]

14 months and no sign of ending

[gunslinger]

14 months!!! steady on!
                          I'm still waiting for the latest thrilling Ex update it must me ......2 weeks since the last one, no news is good news I suppose.
                         So is there anyone who has done 5 years+ and is still in it?
                      ....and living in different countries and seeing someone when there are in LOS don't count, you just sound like the sad fuck at school who had a gf who they met on a caravan holiday.

[jellybean]

(gunslinger @ Sep. 04 2006,17:18) ....and living in different countries and seeing someone when there are in LOS don't count, you just sound like the sad fuck at school who had a gf who they met on a caravan holiday.

Yeah but the sad fuck in school probably knew the difference between there, their and they're          

[gunslinger]

Erm, right. That's me told then

[tampanugget_2001]

I think long term relationships most likely do exist. However your sample (members of the Asian TS.com community) are most likely not representative of those in long term relationships with ladyboys. I assume I am somewhat similar to most board members (creeping up on middle age) who intrigued by ladyboys and currently visit the pay for play scene in Thailand a couple of times per year.

On the other hand, those in a long-term relationship seem to me, a lot less likely to be a member of this forum. If your in a stable relationship you don't want to go to Pattaya or Bangkok to meet ladyboys in the trade.

Just my two cents worth.

[Guest]

Quick answer from a long time lurker on this board.

I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years with a Thai Ladyboy. We live together in Asia (not in Thailand).

Family, Friends, workmates, etc. all know.

Will it last another 7 or 30 years - only time will tell.

[Guest]

I've not been in a relationship in real yet but would lvoe to and is in constant contact with a lovely TS from Philippines and we planning to meet one day to see how we feels in real before committing ourselves.

[dmlbl2001]

Well lots of interesting notions. I think that basicly having a long term relationship with a ladyboy is possible. Once you are comfortable with the fact that you prefer LB's then the rules are going to be pretty much the same as with a GG. The odds of success will be the same as with a GG. You meet and get involved with a GG BG you are in for a hard time of it. If you meet a nice girl you have a slightly better chance. I think the same applys to LB's.
I am totaly open to a long term relationship with a LB but on the other hand I also tend to not think in those terms. I feel that for the most part any relationship that lasts over two year is a bit of a miricle. Personaly at this point I prefer to rent rather than own. But again if something else where to develop I would go with it.

[Bit Beefy]

(pico629 @ Sep. 05 2006,18:55) Quick answer from a long time lurker on this board.

I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years with a Thai Ladyboy.  We live together in Asia (not in Thailand).

Family, Friends, workmates, etc. all know.  

Will it last another 7 or 30 years - only time will tell.

Good 4 u Sir. Good Luck....

[Guest]

Tks, Bit Beefy. I think everyone needs a little luck in life (and relationships). As dmlbl2001 intimated - a relationship is a relationship... with marriages divorcing at a 50% rate these days it takes a lot of work no matter what the relationship involves.

Doesn't help that all these beautiful ladyboys keep popping up on the scene, lol!

[dummy_plug]

(dmlbl2001 @ Sep. 07 2006,05:23) Once you are comfortable with the fact that you prefer LB's then the rules are going to be pretty much the same as with a GG. The odds of success will be the same as with a GG.

I'm not sure I can agree with that. Ladyboys and GG's face a different playing field and I think that ladyboys in particular are aware of that (I ignore talking about GG's). For a ladyboy, I think that a lot of them have bought into the notion that true everlasting love may (emphasis on may) not be for them. I think they know that their society, as open as we think it is as outsides looking in, may not accept them fully as they would a GG. They also know that they have less to offer in terms of a relationship as to my knowledge they cannot be legally married in Thailand, cannot have children, and are likely to undergo medical treatments in the future to maintain their feminine looks. From the ones I've talked with and spent time with, and this is a very short period of time, I got the sense that they know that man-katoey relationships have a limited shelf-life and that its going to be a given that the man will leave them, not the other way around. This in turn creates a vicious cycle I think where ladyboys don't put 100% into their relationships. I'll elaborate more into this in my trip report as I got to spend an amazing 10+ days with non-working ladyboy and her friends and got a different view of ladyboys, Thai people, and Thai culture than I had before.

[Guest]

DP,

That is the best thing that could have happened to you. To see Thailand through the eyes of normal Thais is the best way to understand relationships and culture. Good on you for having a go at something different and spending time understanding there is life outside Nana and KFC and Siam Square. Looking forward to you sahring your experiences.