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I for one hope that Ex and her boyfriend prove all of you nay-sayers wrong. I just guess that I am old fashioned and still believe that it is possible to have a loving relationship with an LB.
(PogueMahone @ Apr. 02 2006,03:57) I for one hope that Ex and her boyfriend prove all of you nay-sayers wrong. I just guess that I am old fashioned and still believe that it is possible to have a loving relationship with an LB.
No one doubts that it's perfectly realistic to have a loving relationship with a ladyboy the same way you would with a regular girl. I have myself been lucky in this department.
But if you're dumb enough to fall for a prostitute then you deserve to be made fun of.
This relationship is going no-where. I'll give it a year at the very most, but realistically it's gonna flounder within about 6 to 8 months.
I'll bet my life on it!
Time and time again I see this happening and time and time again I see reports on this forum of it happening also! Some people just will not learn!
My God - just look at all the people Chompoo and Jannie have fooled and still there are idiots lining up to be treated in the same way!
Falling in love with a ladyboy is one thing. Losing your heart over a bargirl is quite another!
If this forum has any value at all it is to remind people that falling for a bargirl or prostitute NEVER FUCKING WORKS!
Still - it's their money and their lookout!
We had a model here about 3 years back and her stupid fucking sponsor was in love and demanded that we pull her galleries. We did to avoid the hassle from this love-struck imbecile. She's now working as a prostitute in London because the stupid cunt couldn't seperate the real world from his dick!
(stogie bear @ Apr. 02 2006,05:45) I'll bet my life on it!
OK, the house has the edge. A big edge.
But are we punters who have slept with 100 prostitutes morally superior to girls who have slept with 100 customers? I say NO.
Is a relationship with a bargirl risky? YES
Riskier than with a nice girl back home? Probably.
But most guys who fail in a relationship with a ladyboy don't lose half of everything they own.
The guys with more baht than brains are going to get burnt for sure.
My next trip my plan is to spend my entire vacation with my teerak. She is quiting the bar, as least temporarily, to be with me. I've never sent money.
We'll see how the month together goes, Next year I might be in Thailand and perhaps we'll live together. Or maybe not. Maybe she won't like my low end lifestyle and choose not to. Or maybe we won't hit it off this trip and I'll change my mind. or maybe my Thailand gig won't materialize.
I choose to keep my heart open. And my wallet closed for the most part.
I'm not denying that being with a bargirl is a high risk proposition. And I'm certainly not saying that she wants me cause I'm a hansum man anymore than I'd want her if she were my age.
My choices are Thai non-bar girlor ladyboy, Thai bar girl or ladyboy, lots of sex with lots of partners, or farang woman. They all have pros and cons.
But money is part of any equation when the guy is twice as old as the girl, bar or non-bar.
But money is part of any equation when the guy is twice as old as the girl, bar or non-bar.
I can prove you wrong on this, from my own personal experience. I met and fell in love with a beautiful 19 year old ladyboy and we were both VERY poor for the first 2 years. For a while we slept on a wooden bed frame because we had no money for a mattress or even blankets. I was teaching English for about minimum US wage and I even ate rice every day. We would never dream of going to MacDonalds or KFC. We did our laundry by hand and we refilled large water jugs for drinking water.
Slowly we got our shit together and managed to improve our lives but in the whole time we were together we only had one proper vacation.
Is this a rare situation? NO IT IS NOT!
If you live here and work here you simply would not spend your time with hookers other than for the odd bouts of frenzied sex!
This is NOT about morals and how many ladyboys you have slept with. It's not about money.
It's about how much YOU are prepared to sacrifice to keep a relationship going and how much YOU want to fulfill a ladyboys Cinderella fantasy.
Bar girls don't think like you and me and you will NOT change them to fit into your life. With all the tens of thousands of beautiful, young, college aged ladyboys in Thailand why anyone would choose a bar girl as a partner leaves me completely bewildered.
O.k. here is my stupid 2cents.
Hot and Horny sex doesn't really have anything to do with me falling in Love.
Getting along,,,,Sharing,,,,enjoying the same things and just being able to tolerate someone at there worst. NOW THATS LOVE.
Good sex is great, but it has nothing to do with me staying with someone and telling them; " I Love you."
The BEST SEX is; (Variety.)
The BEST LOVE is; ( A Best Friend)
(stogie bear @ Apr. 02 2006,13:14) With all the tens of thousands of beautiful, young, college aged ladyboys in Thailand why anyone would choose a bar girl as a partner leaves me completely bewildered.
This is a good point Stogie. Once living here it will open up a whole new world of ladyboys who can be a potential partner.
But Stogie, is it really not a rare situation? Are there really that many uni girls living with farangs twice theri age who can't afford KFC? I always assuned you were the exception to the rule. This is seriously good news!!
Cindarella fantasy and it's bargirl counterpart , the Pretty Woman fantasy, is oddly somewhat appealing too me.
You're probably right, but I'd like to think that not each and every bargirl is permanently damaged goods.
Once living here it will open up a whole new world of ladyboys who can be a potential partner.
Yes it will. The same way that looking for a nice 'real' girl would be. If you only liked GGs would you settle for one that works in a bar? No you would not. You'd find a beautiful, degreed professional or student. Why does this change because you are looking for a ladyboy?
But Stogie, is it really not a rare situation? Are there really that many uni girls living with farangs twice theri age who can't afford KFC?
Well - the good news is that it IS very rare! This just means that the pool of talent is larger because not many people are willing to sacrifice everything to enjoy a relationship. I was and I'm damn glad I did.
but I'd like to think that not each and every bargirl is permanently damaged goods.
Bargirls are not cars. You can't simply knock out the dents and pretend it was never in an accident.
These unrealistic fantasies that someof us have about bargirls are simply because we don't live here and we don't see how these girls live from day to day.
The facts are these...
1 - You will never export a ladyboy to your home country with any success. Thais love Thailand. If you take her out of the box you have a year at the most to enjoy her.
2 - A long distance relationship only has a finate life expectancy - and is unfullfilling for both parties anyway.
3 - Only by living here do you stand a chance of a long-term relationship with a ladyboy (and if you do live here you'll probably quickly decide you don't want one!)
If you only liked GGs would you settle for one that works in a bar? No you would not. You'd find a beautiful, degreed professional or student. Why does this change because you are looking for a ladyboy?
It's good to hear the perspective of someone living in thailand as opposed to us outsiders. I guess there will always be guys with more baht then brains but as you have clealy pointed out stogie money does not buy you happiness , altho i am young i have no delusions that when i spend time with a hot prostitute ladyboy or gg for that matter that they only love whats in my wallet an not whats in my pants and im cool with that an so i should be thats the way is. Guys are just kidding themselves trying to hookup with bar girls, whats easiest an cheapest isn't always whats best.
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