Visiting your girl's hometown

[PigDogg]

A question for you guys who have visited your sweeties hometown............................Did you bring up the idea of a visit or did she?

Do they like to show off their farang to their family? How serious was the relationship before the visit?

[Guest]

A question for you guys who have visited your sweeties hometown............................Did you bring up the idea of a  visit or did she?

Do they like to show off their farang to their family?   How serious was the relationship before the visit?

I visited the hometown of one particular ladyboy back in 2002, that is a big part of this site, maybe as well known as any other individual model. You can try to guess who it is if you want to, but I ain't tellin'.
This was all supposedly an indication of extreme seriousness on both our parts in regards to a relationship. I met her parents, many of her friends around town, though 98% of them did not speak a word of English. Even the amt of a dowry was discussed with mom and pop.
She was 20 at the time, and she wanted breast augmentation, which me in my love for her agreed to pay for. I told her I would have the money for her in 2-2.5 months. My ideas for coming up with the money ended up taking longer than I had originally planned and after 2 months I told her that I needed more time, another 30-60 days.
She said ok, that her sister would loan her the money and I could pay back her sister. She got her boobs and they looked great when I saw them. Everything was still cool, I was only to repay sis.
In about 45 days, I had the money ready to send, but before I did, I found out from a couple of unique and separate connections, people who knew us both, but that she did not know, knew us both, that she had some other falang boyfriend at the same time as me, and he was who paid for the boob job. She wanted me to pay for it too, so she could be paid twice for the same boob job.
I ended up hanging on to my money and cutting off communication with her after that. Funny thing is I'm not, nor was not, a bit angry with her, and would still talk to her cordially if I ever see her again. Just would not believe all she says.
So, I guess the point of my story is that just b/c one wants you to visit her hometown and meet her friends/family does not mean there isn't ulterior motives. Many say that this is not something most girls or lbs will do very often and if you are one she wants to take home to meet everyone, then you are pretty special in her eyes. That was what I thought at the time, but in my case there was some other planning going on inside that pretty head.

[Guest]

I brought up the idea to May, because she said she hadn't been there in 3 years, but talked often of her parents, so I said, why don't we go see them? (she hadn't gone because of money). We'd know each other for about 3 months, and it was a good relationship, but in no way was it serious.

In our case, the introduction was very, very subtle, no big fancy party, no, "Hey everyone in town, this is my farang boyfriend!". It was done as May's character is, i.e., very quiet, humble. No money was asked for, except for a 1000 baht gift to he mum when we left. May told her brothers I would not give any money, ever, so don't ask for it. I was accepted by the family in the same way, i.e., no great fan-fare, just a normal welcoming for a stranger, which in rual Thailand, is very kind.

So in this case it was a very soft, quiet, gentle introduction, with no crazy side-effects, or scintilating revelations either before or after.

But I think all that experience is a reflection of May. It is very dependent on the individual obviously.

[Guest]

This thread looks a bit old, but hey why not share . I have had 2 serious relationships with ladyboy's in my 2.5 years of visiting LOS , and both of thoose have involved me meeting the parents and visiting home towns , which are not necessarily the same as i found out .

In the first relationship i offered to take her to Bangkok and any other place in Thailand she wanted to go and she actually choose her hometown . It was actually decided it was to be our first port of call so i meet her and all her family at the home towns fairly small sized airport . We spent 7 days there in total if i remember , altho we didnt stay at her parents house as i needed to have airconditioning hehe that was her suggestion too , which was fine . Anyway we did 4 trips to see her parents , all on the bus 45 mins each way . We did various activites each day visiting places of interest , and visiting many family and friends , by the time we left for bangkok i had two wrists totally covered in little white string .

Same relationship we went to see her parents again , the next time i was in LOS . This time she insisted i hire a car and drive for the days we where going to see her parents , because it was going to be too hot on the bus . Took a bit of getting used to the roads and the traffic but was fun none the less . Her family was very poor , so i tried to pay for everything i could , we went shopping one day with the family and i bought them all a little gift each like a total of 3000 baht . They reciprocated by cooking many very interesting dishes , including a bullfrog , which after one small mouthful i decided wasnt for me . Overall was a very good experience , one which i always look back upon with a smile.

In the second relationship , at her suggestion i have been both to her hometown where she has uncles ,aunts and cousins now , and to meet her parents in a totally different area of LOS . The first trip was to her hometown and it was good , most of them spoke some english and all her family where very nice apart from one auntie who always seemed to be tagging along and asking my girl for money , after a few days my girl had no money left and asked if she could borrow some from me i gave her the money told her not to bother repaying me  , but also decided it was time for both of us to go back to BKK . Her Auntie certainly put a bit of a negative spin on that trip .

I was a bit sceptical about our planned 2nd trip to see her parents on my next visit to LOS . thinking that her Mum was probably going to be like her Auntie , but she insisted and said her mum had already booked the bus tickets . I was also a bit hesitant on an 8 hour bus trip , but the only alternative was a 75 min flight followed by a 4 hour bus ride , so it would have taken us just as long with connections and taxi's etc . The bus ride was pleasant enuff , plenty of stops and refreshents and the time seemed to pass quickly enuff . Her mum picked us up at the bus terminal the other side and seemed happy to meet me and very happy to she her girl . We stayed at her Mum and Dads house , which was very nice A/C in right places and even UBC . Her mum was nothing like her Auntie and was a pure delight , gave us plenty of space when we needed it and also showed us all the most interesting sights around the area . I was told by my girl her mum must really like me because she was treating me so well , and she was . I was a bit worried about her father who seemed to ignore me , but then again he seemed to be ignoring my girl and his own wife for the most part as far as i could see . I was told by my girl that was the just the way he was , so i accepted that with good faith .

All in all very good experiences from meeting family in hometowns tho .

[stogie bear]

Great post, monkeyman.

[olekunde]

i have been many times to the village of my ex gg gf. this is not an isan village but a poor one anyhow. i was the only farang in several miles. within the family i was treated like everyone else, but i got alot of attention when i moved outside. maybe beacuse i am so young and handsome lol
everything is cheap. i know where to eat for 15b in pattaya (plate of rice + a bowl of tom yum/geng keo-wan etc), but here i could get it for 10b. so when i decided to
go to buy food for the folks i finally got to use the coins in my pants.
to stay in the village is ok for awhile, but everybody goes to sleep 9am and get up at 5 or 6am, and thats not for me. i only bought glass windows which cost me 1000b total and a bed, that my gf and i used.

[Khuntibi]

I have a big advantage my LB is from Bangkok. Don€™t must travel far.  Always when we are in Bangkok we must visit her family. Sometimes we don€™t have so much private time. That why we stay in a hotel to have at least the nights for us private.
I remember first time when she must introduce me to her Father. I was little bit nervous. Finally he is polite old men. We cannot talk anyway. In her family they speak beside of Thai mostly this Chinese dialect €œdaechu€.

Her closely sister have a house in Bangkok-Thonburi. Not far but a traffic nightmare. We must drive down the Sathorn road and cross the Taksim Bridge.  Her oldest brother have also house end of Petchkasem road. This is still Bangkok but you need till one hour to drive there by taxi.

I feel mostly good with her family. Her four sisters are funny and generous. Sadly I cannot talk with them, my 50 words Thai is not enough.

Could writte more but my english and time is limited.

Khuntibi

[Mai-Kee]

Lived with my girl in the mid nineties for a couple of months at her parents house, a crappy little village near Udon Thai. First they LOVE to show off with their farang bf's, second the family loves to have an ATM machine now directly in their house! LOL..... But, despite my cynicism - it was a great time and you see and experience things you'll never forget. Whatever I spent there moneywise (and we're talking about manageable amounts) - it was for sure an invaluable experience!

MK

[Guest]

Those are really great posts. I note most people had a good experience. I think if we went to a poor girl's town in the USA or Canada, we might be viewed as an ATM machine somewhat, so not sure this has anything to do with LBs or Thailand. But most of us have not been drawn on very much! Which is cool.

Also, I think, and it follows what I've read, that in rural Thailand, the mum is more the king of the house and family and economy, and papa is just in the backdrop, almost ignored, drinks with friends, and is pretty much useless. Correct?

[Ladyboy_Loser!]

Same type of experiance for me. I suggested the visit because I wanted her to know that I was serious about us. We had been together for almost a year and it just seemed like the next logical step in our relationship. I had talked with her Mom and one of her sisters whenever she was there on a holiday so they had some good idea of who I was. I will admit to be scared shitless as the time for our visit approached but after getting to Surin I seemed to settle back and take everything in. Meeting her parents, grandparents, sister and all her aunts and uncles at one time was a hoot. They took as much pleasure meeting me as I did meeting them. With the exception of a few words of English we managed to communicate with a lot of smiles, hand jestures and my poor attempts at speaking a little thai. I had the time of my life, her parents were amazing and accepting of me. I had purchased a bottle of Johnny Walker Black Label for her Papa and before the night was over it was gone as he, the village elder and her uncles along with myself polished it off. The next day I took 13 of us, including myself and my sweetie in a rental SUV to visit a few temples and for some lunch by the river. When it came to leave after three days I told my sweetie that I wanted to give her Mama and Papa some money from the both of us as a way of thanking them for welcoming me into their family. That done, they blessed us together, wished us good luck and happiness and off we went back to Bangkok. My sweetie was the happiest I had seen her in a long time, she was proud to have me visit her family, she was proud to have me as her boyfriend. Yeah, for me it was the best of times.