Malaysian TS 'dumped hubby after getting visa'

[hk6969]

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news....sa.html

[Bumpa STIKKA]

'He was ignoring me, it's horrible when a man you love treats you like that'

Malaysian transsexual wife hits back at why she left caretaker husband after he paid £12,000 for visa...

The Daily Mail version!

[daveduke007]

Read it in The Daily Star, him "bad man" na

[thegame925]

From the Daily Mail - 12 April 2011

A transsexual who walked out on her British husband two weeks after he helped her win the right to stay in this country has explained her decision to leave.

Malaysian-born Fatine Young  €“ who was born Mohammed Fazdil Min Bahari €“ spoke out after her husband Ian told yesterday how the couple split after he spent £12,000 on helping win the visa battle.

Fatine 38, has defended her actions, saying she made major sacrifices to move to the UK and live with the school caretaker, who she claims eventually pushed her away with his behaviour.

Fatine said: 'In the end he was totally ignoring me. It's horrible when the man you love treats you like that. I've sacrificed my life because of him.'

Mr Young admitted he had not treated her as well as he could have done.

The night before she left, Fatine said the couple had a 'massive argument', with her husband storming out of the house they shared in Pear Tree, leaving her alone.

'He left me without any money,' she said.

Mr Young previously told how he was hounded out of jobs at three Derby schools by angry parents because of his love for Fatine, who was born a man.

The saga left the 32-year-old jobless and homeless, and at one stage he tried to take his own life by downing a bottle of pills.

Mr Young met Fatine while working in Malaysia as a security guard. The couple first started chatting in a coffee shop but he did not realise Fatine, who was born Mohammed Fazdil Min Bahari, was a transsexual.

After she told him, the relationship continued. Mr Young had previously had an eight-year relationship with a woman but then became homosexual.

Fatine moved to Derby and the couple tied the knot in a civil ceremony at Derby Register Office in 2009.

Ian Young said his life is in ruins after he spent £12,000 to get his Malaysian wife Fatine a visa - only for her to leave him immediately after it was granted.

They fought for a visa for Fatine after a request was initially turned down by the Home Office, saying she could be jailed if she returned to Malaysia, because Fatine has not had sex-change surgery and homosexuality was illegal there.

To support her visa case, Fatine included in her application death threats made against her on an internet site in Malaysia.

Both said how in love they were.

But life became difficult after Mr Young left a number of schools following complaints from parents who disapproved of his lifestyle.

Mr Young said yesterday: 'I feel like a fool.

'It was supposed to be the happiest time of my life. Now she won't speak to me and she won't get a divorce.'

Fatine admitted she had been ignoring her husband's repeated telephone calls as she did not want to talk to him.

But she said there was little chance of reconciliation and she would agree to his requests for a divorce. She said the matter was in the hands of her solicitor.

'How could we get back together when my husband has said a lot of bad things about me?' she said.

'I want to move on with my life.

'I'm living with a friend, who has given me a place to stay and I'm trying my hardest to find work. I loved Ian not just for a visa. I had no friends, no family over here - I was totally dependent on him.'

Mr Young said: €˜Fatine went off to live with friends in Blackpool and that didn€™t work out because they got fed up with her not getting work there,€™ he said.

€˜She thought she could crack it as a showgirl and got refused, so now she is in Manchester claiming benefits.€™

He added: €˜Our relationship was okay, but it was always filled with worry about visas, not just about getting them, but where we were getting the money from.

€˜We had applied five times in total and the cost was thousands. I was a caretaker in a small school earning £640 a month.€™ He said his mother even lent them £2,000 to help out.

Mr Young, who is now staying with friends, said of the relationship: €˜Being a straight man, I did have a few concerns. But I couldn€™t ignore how I felt.

€˜I admit that I did neglect Fatine when I was depressed. I just wanted her to tell me we could get through it together but she wasn€™t interested.

€˜I€™m trying to start my own business. I€™m still in debt, but I€™m moving on and getting back on my feet.€™

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1375710/Transsexual-wife-dumped-husband-got-visa-defends-actions.html#ixzz1JJg7YkU8

Please note the quote from The Daily Mail:

Mr Young had previously had an eight-year relationship with a woman but then became homosexual.

So we no longer need to ask the question in countless posts.
The Daily Mail has told us   If we go with a TS we become homosexual

[daveduke007]

€˜Being a straight man, I did have a few concerns. But I couldn€™t ignore how I felt."

Think that one rings a bell with most of us here

[anicon]

...what kind of VISA was she granted & can it be revoked now?

[El_hefe]

I guess I would have assumed that Malaysians wouldn't have a lot of visa trouble since they are a former member of the Empire, etc... Malaysia sure makes it easy for Brits to relocate there. Is is because she is a TS?

Poor guy sounds like a real sad sack....

[johnnydiver]

I think she is nothing more than a gold digger and she should be tossed on the first plane home! Buit that is just me! Hell, if he lived her in Illinois I would him give a free divorce as quick as possible to get rid of the gold digger! There is nothing worse than a person that plays with another person's heart strings and the reporters were to cowardly to call her on it! Since I do not practice accross the pond I think we need to ask the question of a real Barrister or a Soliciter. Is that the proper terms?

[pacman]

The reason she had so much trouble getting a visa into the UK is because the Immigration Dept has seen far too many of these cases where the poor British citizen was being taken for a ride & they are trying to save him from himself.

By placing obstacles in his path they hope that a) he wakes up & changes his mind or b) that the only ones who go to all the trouble & expense are the rare cases where they really love each other.

I have a friend who worked in the Australian Embassy in the Philippines. The staff spent most of their time vetting applications from older Australian males wanting visas for their fiancees or girlfriends.

The number of times he had to deal with old men crying about how much they loved their 25 yo girlfriend while she could barely conceal her contempt while parroting on about how "she loved him so much", he said if it wasn't so sad it would be funny.

[Rocket J. Squirrel]

"I need to try and sort my life out. I need to start over again and get back on track."

This sounds like a really good idea....

[BAM]

Malaysian Cum has made more men insane then any other

[transcebu]

We shouldn't assume from this that the girl intended to leave after the visa trial from the start. A cross cultural relationship is difficult enough without the added pressures and challenges from her being trans.

Seems she probably had it in mind to leave the guy some time before the visa was granted, but her alternative was returning home to a possible prison sentence and the guy was suicidal / depressive, struggling for a living and admittedly not the best partner. It's hard to be overly critical of her.

I'm still a bit stunned that parents had campaigned against him for being with a transwoman.  

She refused surgery? Who the hell was requesting / demanding it?

[moe666]

I guess it's not just the Thai girls who dump the old boy friend, what dumb asses