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A while back I did an interview with Steven Leather and that worked out very well... The author of Private Dancer was forthcoming and interesting to read about. This time I went one on one (lucky me) with Tia Phoenixx and I poked around in her private life.
This is what I found out...
Hi Tia. Thanks for doing this...
1 - The last few months have been very eventful for you and by now you must have had time to think carefully about everything that has happened since you were 'banged up abroad!'
Yes, it was very eventful... if you want to say that. Well, I'm a pretty positive person, and I prefer to close "the chapter" and move forward.
Of course I still get grumpy sometimes if I remember those who are abusive or mean to me. Honestly, I"m still working on it to totally forget everything..
It's tough you know. It's definitely the toughest experience in my life so far.
The good thing is: I've become more careful and thoughtful.
In jail: the angrier you are with them, the worse they will treat you. So at the end, I learn to be cooperative and be patient.
2 - Has the experience of this changed you in any way and what are your biggest regrets about the whole misadventure?
A: Honestly, I think I've become a better person, since I appreciate my freedom and my health more. Look at me now: I'm a free person and still healthy (after being raped a few times) and still cute too LOL.
I'm very lucky and I'm grateful for that. I took my freedom and health for granted before.
3 - In your posts and on your website you come across as a girl who is a lot of fun with a wicked sense of humor...
A: I think I am, thanks. I guess I'm just a positive and outgoing person by nature.
4 - What are some of the things that make you mad and get you cursing up a storm.
Those girls (and surprisingly some men too) who are mean to me. Those who have tried to get rid of me from the escorting industry by saying something that is not true at all.
5 - One of the things that can be scary for us 'ladyboy fans' is that some of the professionals out there have serious attitude problems, they hate men and are 'clock watchers.' I'm guessing that meeting many people over the years can dampen your spirits and make you more hardened...
That's true, especially those girls who advertise their big penis. I believe it's very hard for them to know that the men who come to see them are primarily interested in their dick, but not their femininity.
Most of us are real girls at heart you know... I will be mad if a man is only interested solely in my dick, LOL.
6 - So how do you stay enthusiastic and interested in what you do? Don't you sometimes get bored, angry or frustrated with your clients?
I do lots of things to keep me positive and energized: exercising my hobbies (walking, eating, watching movies, seeing my friends and family..and TRAVELING).
I do traveling at least 2-3 months a year. I take a long walk for at least 30 minutes daily, more often 1 or even 2 hours. Not to mention, I eat my favorite food everyday. I have lots of favourite food: from a gourmet food to junk food!
Just to let you know that I don't cook, so I eat at my various favourite restaurants everyday. The food can be Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Italian, French, Indian, Ethiopian, Japanese, Malay/Indonesian, Korean etc.
I even go to Mc.Donalds ( I love the french fries), KFC, Pizza Hut (super supreme pizza hmmm...) or Wendy's (I love the chicken strips) from time to time. No embarrassment here. It's a fact, LOL.
7 - What was your first sexual experience like and how old were you when it happened?
I was born a slut! I think I was 7 or 8 at the time, with one boy same age as mine. I was always the one who seduced him first. It happened in the toilet of our school during the break! It's funny but it's true, LOL.
If I met this boy right now and if he still remembers, I would be very embarrassed! No penetration though... just kissing and touching. We're still kids for God's sake lol!
8 - When did you first take money or gifts for your company? What was your first time as a 'professional' like?
I was 18 yo, in Sydney. I was a feminine, pretty and witty boy at the time. It was my first experience traveling overseas by myself. I was broke and somebody offered me money in the bar.
I accepted it. I liked it.
I posted my first escort ad two weeks later, and it was a huge success...
3 months later I bought my first house! It cost me $56,400 at the time to buy a one bedroom house in Bogor, West Java, one hour from Jakarta.
The value has gone up steadily. I remember it like yesterday. It was a small bungalow with a nice garden. I was so proud!
I invited as many friends as possible to show off, LOL. I bought it in cash and I was merely a teenager at the time!
Shortly afterwards, I met my ex boyfriend, stopped escorting, and moved to Europe. I went straight to University for three years, one of seven students who finished the fastest, then took a post graduate programme for 14 months.
My education went as smooth as Thai silk LOL. I did perform poorly on my post grad, btw, but I passed anyway. I was too lazy and a little too young at the time. Not to mention that my colleagues were pretty boring.
They were smart, book smart I mean, but so arrogant and ambitious for something that was absurd in my opinion. I was so relieved when I finally passed. Thanks to my CEO boyfriend at the time who helped me a lot.
9 - One of the hardest things for almost all Western transsexuals is reconciling their sexuality with their families and loved ones.
How does your family feel about you and what were their reactions when they discovered that you weren't going to be their Alpha male son?
In general no problem. They've known me mentally as a T-girl since I was born. I have been feminine and girly for as long as I can remember.
Besides, I'm not going back to see my family with sexy dress and stilettos! I'm always a tomboy, half boy - half girl, always wearing jeans and t-shirt, but yet still attractive, lol.
(In the future, I will post more outdoor pictures, showing me with jeans and t-shirt. Just wait and see my friend!)
However, they kicked me out when I was 16 for few days since they could not handle the pressure of having boys calling me 24/7. Then my father suggested me to move overseas, to a western country that suits my lifestyle and sexuality better.
I agreed. Here I am now.
10 - You have gone to a lot of trouble to tell us that you have NOT had any operations and that you do NOT take hormones. For may of us who love the 'femboy' look this is great news. For those who love the 'shemale' look then they'll probably be less interested.
Do you know that I was very cute as a boy?
In my case "Cute" means: smooth, slim, medium frame, toned but not muscular, nice smile, nice skin colour, and pretty. I'm Asian, remember? Half Chinese, half Thai. I'm lucky to be born like this.
Therefore, I never have the feeling of being born with a wrong body. I was cute before and hopefully still cute now as a T-girl...
The transformation goes naturally but takes several years in order to become like me as you see on the internet (and hopefully even better in reality.)
And regarding my look, I think I look too feminine by now due to the competition.
In the western world, almost everybody think I'm a woman, unless some women who have really keen eyes or some men who are T-girl experts, they know I'm not the real one, LOL.
Thanks God that I don't have big boobs or huge silicone injected in my butt, otherwise I will have a hard time to prove that I'm not a GG... No joke, I'm serious!
Too bad really, since I wish I could still get laid by some hunky gay guys that I meet from time to time, LOL. But no, they are not interested... because physically I'm already too feminine.
Therefore, in reality, I prefer to wear jeans, t-shirt and no make up, because I'm really half boy and half girl at heart, thus I don't like to look too feminine.
I'm a natural T-girl now. It's my path, it's my destiny. But yes, I'm still a tomboy at heart. With the right outfit I can look like a diva or goddess, but I still can climb the mountain if I want to!
Needless to say, with make up, high heels, and lingerie...I will not be embarrassed to be compared with any of those beautiful chicks you see on the internet, even without big breasts and big butt!
OK, regarding hormones... I did take it in the past for few months. But it did not suit me. I became chubby! I stopped it of course.
11 - Have you ever been through stages in your life where you HAVE considered cosmetic surgery of any kind? Breasts, SRS, Adam's apple, etc?
Of course from time to time. I just do not know what to change at the moment. I think I look fine by now. I have only a small Adam's apple so it's not a big problem, my breasts are pretty flat but I have nice nipples. My skin, my nose and my mouth are ok.
I'm happy, not perfectly happy though. My shoulder and my feet are a little too broad. I wish My butt would be more firm and rounder... My waist would be one inch smaller..my hips would be one inch wider. But hey..nobody is perfect right?
However, I may do one surgery in the future: face-lift. But I don't have any wrinkles yet, so it's not at all a priority by now.
BTW, I've done lots of things, too: laser, skin care, diet and herbal pills, etc just in order to look feminine and attractive. So yes, I've done somethings.
12 - Diet and exercise... Do you make an effort to stay in shape or are you one of the lucky ones who don't have to?
Unfortunately I do. I wish I could eat twice or three times more a day LOL or sleeping all day and still have this shape. No, i have to watch what i eat and i do exercise at least 5 times a week, if not everyday.
13 - You travel a lot and meet many people along the way... It's a pretty reasonable assumption to say that you have your favourites that you look forward to seeing again and again...
A: Yes, of course. Some of them have become friends!
14 - ...but have you ever fallen in love with any of your clients?
Not yet. They fall in love with me LOL.
15 - You must spend a lot of time in airports and on planes... What do you do to pass the time? Read books? Check email?
Checking out boys or talking to boys, plus shopping from time to time and eating or at least drinking something.
The answer is all of the above, my dear...
16 - Where would you like to travel to but still haven't been yet?
A: South Africa: Cape town, I want to see that city. Morocco will be this winter...oh..I'm excited!
17 - We understand that you have to be discrete about your life and your business. But what was the biggest and best payday you ever had? Was he Japanese, an Arab or a stony broke Englishman giving up his life savings?
25K for a night by a young, rich sheik in Abu Dhabi. He was a little drunk at the time, so he was very generous. Lucky me!
He was handsome, too, BTW. Ah..what a nice memory. After him was my ex boyfriend, the CEO. He gave me 20K a night (by certified check) plus a promise to give me the best education and the best life style I could ever imagine. He kept his promise. I still respect him a lot!
Thanks, Uwe (yes.. he's German!)
18 - Conversely - what has been one of your biggest disappointments or regrets in your line of work? Missed appointment? Client with no money? Someone suddenly getting violent?
Very good question. I've met some important... very important clients during my career: the richest man in the country, professional athletes, politicians, and the list goes on.
But when I got caught, everybody seemed to disappear.
Some of them could release me with only one single phone call, but nobody did. This is the cause of my sadness right now to be honest.
You really nail the point my friend... really really nail the point!!!
I thought they were friends... but they were not... I'm merely an escort for them, their secret desire and not more.
Too bad really... I think I have much more things to offer rather than my sensuality, right?
19 - We all have pet peeves. Some of us don't like drinkers or smokers or noisy people. What are some of the pet peeves you have about the people you meet? (This will help us to behave a bit better when we ask you over!)
Arrogant people. Money, fame and looks mean very little to me, if you come to see me just to be my client. I don't care who you are and how much money you earn. Just be respectful please.
Besides, I'm no longer broke you know!
20 - When will you hang up your hat? In Thailand a retired ladyboy would open up a beauty salon in her home town or appear on Thai soap operas as the comedy relief! Have you given any thought to what you will do when you have had enough of it all?
I will be building up a hotel and commercial properties. With regards to business, I'm a real man LOL.
21 - You're on holiday at home in Toronto. It's Saturday night... What is your ideal fun night out? A night out at the clubs or do you stay at home and watch The Discovery Channel?
The perfect Saturday night will be spent with my boyfriend if I have one.
I don't unfortunately, since I'm looking for a soul mate now, not a boyfriend. I want somebody for life... and it's a challenge to find him. But I will, I'm sure.
He is closer and closer now... I feel it. And for him, it's not too difficult for me to be monogamous again ( I did it in the past)
Here is my typical weekend activity:
Marko... as you know, I had lunch with a friend of mine this afternoon, then we went to a cinema, then I worked for few hours, and now I'm replying to your questions, then I may work again or sleep...
The good thing about me is: I'm rather unique in this industry, plus I'm willing to give my best service to each of my client (I'm serious..trust me!) therefore they don't mind to wait for hours just to see me, so I can have more flexible schedule in Toronto.
Lucky me, eh?
22 - How many times have you been proposed to? (And we'll know if you're lying!)
Twice. One was definitely not my type. The other one, I liked him but I was not ready at the time. Oh well.
23 - What is the question you most hate being asked? And what do you wish people would ask you more often?
Hate: How big is your dick? Can you fuck me hard for one hour non stop.
(Eeeek...I'm not Arnold Schwarzenegger you know LOL)
Like: Well prepared, polite, he knows everything that is mentioned on the website. And he does not bargain the rate.
The one who respects and treats me well. A true gentleman, he will have the best time with me!
24 - Can you see yourself eventually in a monogamous life long relationship with just one lucky guy?
For sure. Both options are possible: monogamous or open relationship. I get tired of having so much sex too from time to time LOL
25 - If you were granted a wish and could change just one thing about yourself then what would it be? (It could be something in your past or something about you right now.)
I want to be a real woman. It's so hard and so challenging to be a third gender. But let's be realistic: I'm not a woman, but a third gender now, so be with it... Be a good one though!
26 -If I turned up at your apartment tomorrow morning for breakfast what would you be wearing?
Tank top and panties... that's it! LOL
Thanks very much Tia... and good luck.
I can't wait to read some of the responses to this!
This is what I found out...
Hi Tia. Thanks for doing this...
1 - The last few months have been very eventful for you and by now you must have had time to think carefully about everything that has happened since you were 'banged up abroad!'
Yes, it was very eventful... if you want to say that. Well, I'm a pretty positive person, and I prefer to close "the chapter" and move forward.
Of course I still get grumpy sometimes if I remember those who are abusive or mean to me. Honestly, I"m still working on it to totally forget everything..
It's tough you know. It's definitely the toughest experience in my life so far.
The good thing is: I've become more careful and thoughtful.
In jail: the angrier you are with them, the worse they will treat you. So at the end, I learn to be cooperative and be patient.
2 - Has the experience of this changed you in any way and what are your biggest regrets about the whole misadventure?
A: Honestly, I think I've become a better person, since I appreciate my freedom and my health more. Look at me now: I'm a free person and still healthy (after being raped a few times) and still cute too LOL.
I'm very lucky and I'm grateful for that. I took my freedom and health for granted before.
3 - In your posts and on your website you come across as a girl who is a lot of fun with a wicked sense of humor...
A: I think I am, thanks. I guess I'm just a positive and outgoing person by nature.
4 - What are some of the things that make you mad and get you cursing up a storm.
Those girls (and surprisingly some men too) who are mean to me. Those who have tried to get rid of me from the escorting industry by saying something that is not true at all.
5 - One of the things that can be scary for us 'ladyboy fans' is that some of the professionals out there have serious attitude problems, they hate men and are 'clock watchers.' I'm guessing that meeting many people over the years can dampen your spirits and make you more hardened...
That's true, especially those girls who advertise their big penis. I believe it's very hard for them to know that the men who come to see them are primarily interested in their dick, but not their femininity.
Most of us are real girls at heart you know... I will be mad if a man is only interested solely in my dick, LOL.
6 - So how do you stay enthusiastic and interested in what you do? Don't you sometimes get bored, angry or frustrated with your clients?
I do lots of things to keep me positive and energized: exercising my hobbies (walking, eating, watching movies, seeing my friends and family..and TRAVELING).
I do traveling at least 2-3 months a year. I take a long walk for at least 30 minutes daily, more often 1 or even 2 hours. Not to mention, I eat my favorite food everyday. I have lots of favourite food: from a gourmet food to junk food!
Just to let you know that I don't cook, so I eat at my various favourite restaurants everyday. The food can be Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Italian, French, Indian, Ethiopian, Japanese, Malay/Indonesian, Korean etc.
I even go to Mc.Donalds ( I love the french fries), KFC, Pizza Hut (super supreme pizza hmmm...) or Wendy's (I love the chicken strips) from time to time. No embarrassment here. It's a fact, LOL.
7 - What was your first sexual experience like and how old were you when it happened?
I was born a slut! I think I was 7 or 8 at the time, with one boy same age as mine. I was always the one who seduced him first. It happened in the toilet of our school during the break! It's funny but it's true, LOL.
If I met this boy right now and if he still remembers, I would be very embarrassed! No penetration though... just kissing and touching. We're still kids for God's sake lol!
8 - When did you first take money or gifts for your company? What was your first time as a 'professional' like?
I was 18 yo, in Sydney. I was a feminine, pretty and witty boy at the time. It was my first experience traveling overseas by myself. I was broke and somebody offered me money in the bar.
I accepted it. I liked it.
I posted my first escort ad two weeks later, and it was a huge success...
3 months later I bought my first house! It cost me $56,400 at the time to buy a one bedroom house in Bogor, West Java, one hour from Jakarta.
The value has gone up steadily. I remember it like yesterday. It was a small bungalow with a nice garden. I was so proud!
I invited as many friends as possible to show off, LOL. I bought it in cash and I was merely a teenager at the time!
Shortly afterwards, I met my ex boyfriend, stopped escorting, and moved to Europe. I went straight to University for three years, one of seven students who finished the fastest, then took a post graduate programme for 14 months.
My education went as smooth as Thai silk LOL. I did perform poorly on my post grad, btw, but I passed anyway. I was too lazy and a little too young at the time. Not to mention that my colleagues were pretty boring.
They were smart, book smart I mean, but so arrogant and ambitious for something that was absurd in my opinion. I was so relieved when I finally passed. Thanks to my CEO boyfriend at the time who helped me a lot.
9 - One of the hardest things for almost all Western transsexuals is reconciling their sexuality with their families and loved ones.
How does your family feel about you and what were their reactions when they discovered that you weren't going to be their Alpha male son?
In general no problem. They've known me mentally as a T-girl since I was born. I have been feminine and girly for as long as I can remember.
Besides, I'm not going back to see my family with sexy dress and stilettos! I'm always a tomboy, half boy - half girl, always wearing jeans and t-shirt, but yet still attractive, lol.
(In the future, I will post more outdoor pictures, showing me with jeans and t-shirt. Just wait and see my friend!)
However, they kicked me out when I was 16 for few days since they could not handle the pressure of having boys calling me 24/7. Then my father suggested me to move overseas, to a western country that suits my lifestyle and sexuality better.
I agreed. Here I am now.
10 - You have gone to a lot of trouble to tell us that you have NOT had any operations and that you do NOT take hormones. For may of us who love the 'femboy' look this is great news. For those who love the 'shemale' look then they'll probably be less interested.
Do you know that I was very cute as a boy?
In my case "Cute" means: smooth, slim, medium frame, toned but not muscular, nice smile, nice skin colour, and pretty. I'm Asian, remember? Half Chinese, half Thai. I'm lucky to be born like this.
Therefore, I never have the feeling of being born with a wrong body. I was cute before and hopefully still cute now as a T-girl...
The transformation goes naturally but takes several years in order to become like me as you see on the internet (and hopefully even better in reality.)
And regarding my look, I think I look too feminine by now due to the competition.
In the western world, almost everybody think I'm a woman, unless some women who have really keen eyes or some men who are T-girl experts, they know I'm not the real one, LOL.
Thanks God that I don't have big boobs or huge silicone injected in my butt, otherwise I will have a hard time to prove that I'm not a GG... No joke, I'm serious!
Too bad really, since I wish I could still get laid by some hunky gay guys that I meet from time to time, LOL. But no, they are not interested... because physically I'm already too feminine.
Therefore, in reality, I prefer to wear jeans, t-shirt and no make up, because I'm really half boy and half girl at heart, thus I don't like to look too feminine.
I'm a natural T-girl now. It's my path, it's my destiny. But yes, I'm still a tomboy at heart. With the right outfit I can look like a diva or goddess, but I still can climb the mountain if I want to!
Needless to say, with make up, high heels, and lingerie...I will not be embarrassed to be compared with any of those beautiful chicks you see on the internet, even without big breasts and big butt!
OK, regarding hormones... I did take it in the past for few months. But it did not suit me. I became chubby! I stopped it of course.
11 - Have you ever been through stages in your life where you HAVE considered cosmetic surgery of any kind? Breasts, SRS, Adam's apple, etc?
Of course from time to time. I just do not know what to change at the moment. I think I look fine by now. I have only a small Adam's apple so it's not a big problem, my breasts are pretty flat but I have nice nipples. My skin, my nose and my mouth are ok.
I'm happy, not perfectly happy though. My shoulder and my feet are a little too broad. I wish My butt would be more firm and rounder... My waist would be one inch smaller..my hips would be one inch wider. But hey..nobody is perfect right?
However, I may do one surgery in the future: face-lift. But I don't have any wrinkles yet, so it's not at all a priority by now.
BTW, I've done lots of things, too: laser, skin care, diet and herbal pills, etc just in order to look feminine and attractive. So yes, I've done somethings.
12 - Diet and exercise... Do you make an effort to stay in shape or are you one of the lucky ones who don't have to?
Unfortunately I do. I wish I could eat twice or three times more a day LOL or sleeping all day and still have this shape. No, i have to watch what i eat and i do exercise at least 5 times a week, if not everyday.
13 - You travel a lot and meet many people along the way... It's a pretty reasonable assumption to say that you have your favourites that you look forward to seeing again and again...
A: Yes, of course. Some of them have become friends!
14 - ...but have you ever fallen in love with any of your clients?
Not yet. They fall in love with me LOL.
15 - You must spend a lot of time in airports and on planes... What do you do to pass the time? Read books? Check email?
Checking out boys or talking to boys, plus shopping from time to time and eating or at least drinking something.
The answer is all of the above, my dear...
16 - Where would you like to travel to but still haven't been yet?
A: South Africa: Cape town, I want to see that city. Morocco will be this winter...oh..I'm excited!
17 - We understand that you have to be discrete about your life and your business. But what was the biggest and best payday you ever had? Was he Japanese, an Arab or a stony broke Englishman giving up his life savings?
25K for a night by a young, rich sheik in Abu Dhabi. He was a little drunk at the time, so he was very generous. Lucky me!
He was handsome, too, BTW. Ah..what a nice memory. After him was my ex boyfriend, the CEO. He gave me 20K a night (by certified check) plus a promise to give me the best education and the best life style I could ever imagine. He kept his promise. I still respect him a lot!
Thanks, Uwe (yes.. he's German!)
18 - Conversely - what has been one of your biggest disappointments or regrets in your line of work? Missed appointment? Client with no money? Someone suddenly getting violent?
Very good question. I've met some important... very important clients during my career: the richest man in the country, professional athletes, politicians, and the list goes on.
But when I got caught, everybody seemed to disappear.
Some of them could release me with only one single phone call, but nobody did. This is the cause of my sadness right now to be honest.
You really nail the point my friend... really really nail the point!!!
I thought they were friends... but they were not... I'm merely an escort for them, their secret desire and not more.
Too bad really... I think I have much more things to offer rather than my sensuality, right?
19 - We all have pet peeves. Some of us don't like drinkers or smokers or noisy people. What are some of the pet peeves you have about the people you meet? (This will help us to behave a bit better when we ask you over!)
Arrogant people. Money, fame and looks mean very little to me, if you come to see me just to be my client. I don't care who you are and how much money you earn. Just be respectful please.
Besides, I'm no longer broke you know!
20 - When will you hang up your hat? In Thailand a retired ladyboy would open up a beauty salon in her home town or appear on Thai soap operas as the comedy relief! Have you given any thought to what you will do when you have had enough of it all?
I will be building up a hotel and commercial properties. With regards to business, I'm a real man LOL.
21 - You're on holiday at home in Toronto. It's Saturday night... What is your ideal fun night out? A night out at the clubs or do you stay at home and watch The Discovery Channel?
The perfect Saturday night will be spent with my boyfriend if I have one.
I don't unfortunately, since I'm looking for a soul mate now, not a boyfriend. I want somebody for life... and it's a challenge to find him. But I will, I'm sure.
He is closer and closer now... I feel it. And for him, it's not too difficult for me to be monogamous again ( I did it in the past)
Here is my typical weekend activity:
Marko... as you know, I had lunch with a friend of mine this afternoon, then we went to a cinema, then I worked for few hours, and now I'm replying to your questions, then I may work again or sleep...
The good thing about me is: I'm rather unique in this industry, plus I'm willing to give my best service to each of my client (I'm serious..trust me!) therefore they don't mind to wait for hours just to see me, so I can have more flexible schedule in Toronto.
Lucky me, eh?
22 - How many times have you been proposed to? (And we'll know if you're lying!)
Twice. One was definitely not my type. The other one, I liked him but I was not ready at the time. Oh well.
23 - What is the question you most hate being asked? And what do you wish people would ask you more often?
Hate: How big is your dick? Can you fuck me hard for one hour non stop.
(Eeeek...I'm not Arnold Schwarzenegger you know LOL)
Like: Well prepared, polite, he knows everything that is mentioned on the website. And he does not bargain the rate.
The one who respects and treats me well. A true gentleman, he will have the best time with me!
24 - Can you see yourself eventually in a monogamous life long relationship with just one lucky guy?
For sure. Both options are possible: monogamous or open relationship. I get tired of having so much sex too from time to time LOL
25 - If you were granted a wish and could change just one thing about yourself then what would it be? (It could be something in your past or something about you right now.)
I want to be a real woman. It's so hard and so challenging to be a third gender. But let's be realistic: I'm not a woman, but a third gender now, so be with it... Be a good one though!
26 -If I turned up at your apartment tomorrow morning for breakfast what would you be wearing?
Tank top and panties... that's it! LOL
Thanks very much Tia... and good luck.
I can't wait to read some of the responses to this!
great interview, truly enjoyable. 
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