Relationships with LBs (when living in LOS)

[Chinaman]

That other thread on a lb's expiration date made me think of this - also in the light of perhaps spending more time in the LOS starting this summer, even considering moving there for some time.

How easily do lbs (both P4P as well as non-P4P) "fall in love" with falangs, meaning that they want a more or less serious relationship and not a Baht per night stint AND how easily do they break it off, on what grounds, etc.

Of course I see Kahuna's point of falling in love and out of it night over night but I don't know whether that will work 4 me - unless I learn from the master - I mean this in all respect Mr. Kahuna, more so after having met you in person.

Opinions, experiences, advice, warnings, etc. please  

[abba]

(Chinaman @ Mar. 31 2009,10:14) How easily do lbs (both P4P as well as non-P4P) "fall in love" with falangs, meaning that they want a more or less serious relationship and not a Baht per night stint AND how easily do they break it off, on what grounds, etc.

Factors include:

-The indivudual lb in question.

-In addition to you being non-repulsive, how can you take care of her(i.e. contribute to her financial well-being)?

-A case might be made, for general variations between ladyboys working in ST-bars and go-go bars,
compared to ladyboys in beer bars.


Suggestion:
If you see a ladyboy that might fill your order,then do not lose time, in telling her what you are looking for.

Perhaps you might be looking for a rent-a-wife sort of arrangement. (Pay by the month.)

[electric ladyboyland]

I think p4p relationships are going to be tough. Too many issues.

As for the regular non p4p Lbs you can find on face-pic etc, well sometimes it will depend on chemistry (believe it or not, some of them are choosy).

In my experience (2nd LTR now, 1st one lasted almost 2 yrs, and a few hits and misses along the way) the genuine LB who is looking for a relationship will be more likely to judge you on character and not looks (provided you are not obese or repulsive).

Yes, if you are genuine and good to them and offer a relationship, they can quite 'easily' fall in love with you.

Just keep an eye on their msn activities as they are likely to have many 'suitors'

[si geena]

I'm coming up to my first year in a LTR, it's also partly LDR as well.

The important points

1. Learn Thai, if your would-be gf is not fluent in English. This is important, as effective communication is the key to all relationships.

2. Know her family. The family is the pillar of support and sometimes, burden as well. If you get into a relationship with a Thai, you'll likely need to help shoulder some burden. In this case, if there's a drunkard of a father and drug addicts of 2 brothers, I think it's a bridge too far for any sane person. Even if she's an orphan, she'll still have figures of authority in her life, say a foster-mother, who could very well be a LB as well.

3. Know her as a friend and companion before doing anything sexual with her. In this way, everybody doesn't feel used.

[Stogie]

Oops, oops and... well, oops!

[bigmick22]

0 for 3, eh?

[kahuna]

I'm 0 for 4...I don't even know what LDR means...

[rxpharm]

LDR = long distance relationship. You spend more than 1/2 the year in LOS, so it doesn't apply to you!

[Stogie]

Nothing applies to Kahuna! I needed to think for a while to figure out LDR, too...

I wouldn't get too bogged down in the language thing. Chemistry trumps the spoken word.

[Foggy]

Dont get bogged down to much with annalizing every thing. If your enjoying the company of one special one and she seems to feel the same way make your intentons reasonably clear so theres a base to work from...

If the relationship becomes to much like hard work for what ever reasons then move on...