Divorced and detoured

[statuesque]

I have noticed, from my not-so-extensive experiences, that theres a high number of divorced men who pursue TGs, romantic or sexual, afterwards.  

Im just wondering why. Any reason behind this?  


S

[69billy]

They have seen the light....

[Monkey]

I think it's probably that these divorced guys are middle-aged, or heading that way, by which I mean 40+

It's at this stage where you start to look at your life in a different way, you realise that you won't be young forever, you 'only' have so much time left and that you wasted the last 20 odd years chasing things that you didn't really want but thought you did at the time.

Life, as they say, starts at 40.

Guys, save yourself the heartache and trouble of divorce.

Find a woman you don't like and buy her a house...

[stogie bear]

Most social gatherings of humankind are raised on a conventional approach to sex and relationships.

These binds are difficult to escape from, but certainly older men with more freedom of choice would be the perfect demographic for a romantic young transsexual to pursue!

[Guest]

(statuesque @ Jan. 23 2008,00:37) I have noticed, from my not-so-extensive experiences, that theres a high number of divorced men who pursue TGs, romantic or sexual, afterwards.  

Im just wondering why. Any reason behind this?  


S

During my years of marriage I would have never thought of pursuing a TG or even a GG€¦

Afterwards, I ran wild! The first few years were a string of short-term relationships with GGs€¦ Only one of them lasted more than a year€¦

I was having an affair with a married GG when I first encountered a TG, purely by chance€¦

A chance sexual encounter that was exciting, intriguing, erotic and exotic€¦ Maybe it was the €œnewness€ factor? Maybe it was exciting because of the €œtaboo€ factor?

In retrospect, I think I was bored with various aspects of my life€¦ I think the €œapproaching mid-life€ factor is relevant for me€¦

I€™ve never pursued a TG for a long-term romantic relationship€¦ Not sure if I could€¦  I think that might destroy the €œnewness€ factor for me€¦

Maybe one day I€™ll settle down again€¦ But for now I€™m still trying to make up for the years that I felt were wasted during marriage€¦    

[FB-lover!]

Personally, I think it's something of a probability thing...and an amount of time it generally takes to 'figure something out' - at least as much as we ever can.  People are 'usually' divorced in their late thirties or so - for me I was never actually married, but always with GG's, and sometimes for long periods of time.

I never felt 'straight' in the classical sense, but am not attracted to men. So...what the heck is that gonna mean to a 25 year old?

So, after a millions relationships with GG's, it started to dawn on me (overwhelmingly so) that it had to be LB's for me - who, for whatever reason, float my boat I don't think many 25 year old's have the wherewithall to figure that out and accept it - I still don't understand it   ...but accept it  

[strocube]

(FB-lover! @ Jan. 25 2008,09:13) Personally, I think it's something of a probability thing...and an amount of time it generally takes to 'figure something out' - at least as much as we ever can.  People are 'usually' divorced in their late thirties or so - for me I was never actually married, but always with GG's, and sometimes for long periods of time.

That's also about the age when it started to dawn on me, personally (and now 42), that I wasn't exactly 'straight' in the classical sense - but also that I wasn't attracted to men, either.  A strange state to be in - haha

So, eventually it settled on LB's - who, for whatever reason, float my boat
If it aint femme, it doesn't do it for me, but knowing she has that little (and I prefer 'little' to be in the literal sense as far as her equipment goes) something extra, becomes more and more of a requirement.  I don't think many 25 year old's have the wherewithall to figure that one out and accept it - I still don't understand it   ...but accept it  

Pretty much the same for me, especially "...it started to dawn on me, personally (and now 42), that I wasn't exactly 'straight' in the classical sense - but also that I wasn't attracted to men, either. A strange state to be in - haha"
Indeed, couldn't of said it better myself.

[FB-lover!]

Sorry Strocube, I must have edited it at the same time you quoted it, haha
Glad it spoke to ya' well, though

[statuesque]

 Does that mean FB-lover that youre only 25yo now??? Youre even younger than I am! Quite unlikely indeed...  


S

[FB-lover!]

No, no...I'm 42 now!  I only feel (and behave) like I'm 25.

[statuesque]

Ah I see. You are as young as the girls you surround yourself with, as they say


S

[FB-lover!]

I'm gonna use that one sometime I think it's actually because of my work, most of the people I meet are around 25-30, and things just happen.

I think many women my age are quite beautiful

[Guest]

(FB-lover! @ Jan. 25 2008,09:13) I never felt 'straight' in the classical sense, but am not attracted to men.  So...what the heck is that gonna mean to a 25 year old?

An interesting aspect...

My explorations with LBs have never made me question my sexuality€¦ I still consider myself heterosexual€¦ I don€™t think that experimentation means that a person is gay€¦ Maybe I€™m in denial? haha

I€™m not sure if that was the point you were trying to make€¦ As you said, you are not attracted to masculinity but to femininity€¦

Same for me€¦ Femme type LBs only do it for me...

[FB-lover!]

Right.  I have a lot of friends that are just purely gay, or bi or whatever (I make art for a living in NYC, and there are a lot of gay people in that world), so I know it's not an 'experience' or 'denial' thing...there's certainly no lack of opportunity.

It confused me a long time.  If there's a woman and a man standing next to each other, I know from a lifetime of experience that it's the female I want to get next to. But if there's a female and a ladyboy next to each other, there's no contest!

They talk about a 3rd sex as if it's just the femme...but I think there's maybe just honestly a 4th, in the ones that wants the 3rd.  I give up trying to fight it at this point  

THEN...the worrying part is finding one outside of the p4p arena that isn't on drugs, or only into shopping! haha (sorry, girls it's just what i see a lot.)
That's a WHOLE different story/thread...finding the right femmeboy who can appreciate me the way a lot of (certainly attractive) GGs have before!  I give up almost on that one, too...totally confusing to me, personally  

[FB-lover!]

Sorry! This got off topic a little...long winded from me and in the wrong thread!