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Perspective is a wonderful thing.
It changes our view entirely on a subject depending on where we are coming from.
I love Thailand, I love the scene we all enthuse about on this & other forums. I don't take kindly to idiotic, ill-informed remarks made by people who have no idea what they are on about.
Many times over the years I have had to endure the put-down of LOS by someone who went there once, & knows all about it.
I'm sure most of us have heard about "all those hookers in Thailand, they are all sluts out to rip you off."
Then to qualify it, to give definitive weight to their outrageous stupidity, you get such nonsense as : "my friend's neighbour heard of a guy who had all his stuff stolen."
And that's not all, "if they aren't on drugs, they all have AIDS". Well, what can I say?
If they are acquaintances, I will attempt to set them straight with a counter argument, but with clients, I just shrug, & concur.
I will offer a comment about it can happen anywhere, that I have had many good holidays there,
& providing you aren't crawling back to your hotel, drunk as a skunk, you are safe, no less than here at home.
But frankly, I am keener to move the conversation on to doing the business they came for.
I have noticed such generalised views held by some of our esteemed BMs, & hope they are relatively new to the scene,
because if they continue to attract trouble on every visit to LOS, I would suggest they have a hard look at their alcohol consumption.
Though I suspect many have never left the comfort of their loungeroom.
Over 30 years of regular visits & I have experienced every attitude imaginable, from new arrivals with stars in their eyes & fear in their heart,
to superstars who act as though they only have to turn up for you to have the greatest sexual experience of your life.
Never again will I outlay top money for some over-opinionated glamour who refuses any request except a couple of minutes of half-hearted fellatio, condom compulsory.
But in the same bar there will be another stunner who will perform, guess who gets the repeat business?
And even those we so willingly condemn as the worst of the gold-diggers still want the dream. They will content themselves to make the money with a black heart,
but hope one day Mr Right will arrive to rescue them from the scene.
There is no better example of this than the relationship between Amy/Emma & Matrix.
And I think the way Matrix handled the slings & arrows thrown at him has been admirable.
Another high profile relationship we can relate to is that of daveduke & Am. It seems there are some who expect this to end in tears.
They really should worry about more important things because it is a far more common event that the match of falang & local goes off very successfully.
You just don't get to read about them. I know of several long term couples here in my home town.
And one more high profile friendship is that of our ringmaster & the delightfully kooky Cindy.
Regular readers of the forum see this teaming up becoming very close indeed & we all take delight in the taming of the Bear.
Having eager competition for her hand adds an extra dimension to the relationship, one that I doubt I would wish upon myself.
With all girls having a finite shelf life, there comes a time when one "has to piss or get off the pot".
I think the metaphor is explanatory enough, but to these 3 guys, best of luck with it, you have the support of all of us.
While there is little we can do about about the stupid views held by a minority, we should not let them be profligated here.
So while it makes better press to dwell on the bad things that happen on the scene, we should never lose sight of the real needs our Thai friends have.
To escape poverty, to help family, to have a better life, these are the reasons that get them working in the biz in the first place.
Drugs, heartbreak, competition from younger girls, are some of the things that go wrong.
With this forum being monitored by increasingly well educated locals, we should be all mindful of extreme generalisations.
I don't want to be stopped at immigration one visit by an official who says to me "as a member of the ATS forum you are denied entry on the grounds that the site you contribute to has been deemed prejudicial to Thai culture & it's members are viewed as undesirable visitors."
Imagine if he punched my name into his computer & up came all my posts on here !!
Do you think that is an improbable leap?
Think again, though whether the Thai Govt would ever bother to do it, let no-one be uncertain that there isn't someone keeping a regular watch on the comings & goings of all posts & posters.
Most threads are completely harmless, the ones we should be concerned by are those that express extreme generalisations.
Not for a moment do I condone censorship but I do wish to see more studied opinions, rather than the sweeping statements that tar all with the same brush.
I have wanted to float my thoughts for awhile & I invite any contribution either for or against my theory.
It changes our view entirely on a subject depending on where we are coming from.
I love Thailand, I love the scene we all enthuse about on this & other forums. I don't take kindly to idiotic, ill-informed remarks made by people who have no idea what they are on about.
Many times over the years I have had to endure the put-down of LOS by someone who went there once, & knows all about it.
I'm sure most of us have heard about "all those hookers in Thailand, they are all sluts out to rip you off."
Then to qualify it, to give definitive weight to their outrageous stupidity, you get such nonsense as : "my friend's neighbour heard of a guy who had all his stuff stolen."
And that's not all, "if they aren't on drugs, they all have AIDS". Well, what can I say?
If they are acquaintances, I will attempt to set them straight with a counter argument, but with clients, I just shrug, & concur.
I will offer a comment about it can happen anywhere, that I have had many good holidays there,
& providing you aren't crawling back to your hotel, drunk as a skunk, you are safe, no less than here at home.
But frankly, I am keener to move the conversation on to doing the business they came for.
I have noticed such generalised views held by some of our esteemed BMs, & hope they are relatively new to the scene,
because if they continue to attract trouble on every visit to LOS, I would suggest they have a hard look at their alcohol consumption.
Though I suspect many have never left the comfort of their loungeroom.
Over 30 years of regular visits & I have experienced every attitude imaginable, from new arrivals with stars in their eyes & fear in their heart,
to superstars who act as though they only have to turn up for you to have the greatest sexual experience of your life.
Never again will I outlay top money for some over-opinionated glamour who refuses any request except a couple of minutes of half-hearted fellatio, condom compulsory.
But in the same bar there will be another stunner who will perform, guess who gets the repeat business?
And even those we so willingly condemn as the worst of the gold-diggers still want the dream. They will content themselves to make the money with a black heart,
but hope one day Mr Right will arrive to rescue them from the scene.
There is no better example of this than the relationship between Amy/Emma & Matrix.
And I think the way Matrix handled the slings & arrows thrown at him has been admirable.
Another high profile relationship we can relate to is that of daveduke & Am. It seems there are some who expect this to end in tears.
They really should worry about more important things because it is a far more common event that the match of falang & local goes off very successfully.
You just don't get to read about them. I know of several long term couples here in my home town.
And one more high profile friendship is that of our ringmaster & the delightfully kooky Cindy.
Regular readers of the forum see this teaming up becoming very close indeed & we all take delight in the taming of the Bear.
Having eager competition for her hand adds an extra dimension to the relationship, one that I doubt I would wish upon myself.
With all girls having a finite shelf life, there comes a time when one "has to piss or get off the pot".
I think the metaphor is explanatory enough, but to these 3 guys, best of luck with it, you have the support of all of us.
While there is little we can do about about the stupid views held by a minority, we should not let them be profligated here.
So while it makes better press to dwell on the bad things that happen on the scene, we should never lose sight of the real needs our Thai friends have.
To escape poverty, to help family, to have a better life, these are the reasons that get them working in the biz in the first place.
Drugs, heartbreak, competition from younger girls, are some of the things that go wrong.
With this forum being monitored by increasingly well educated locals, we should be all mindful of extreme generalisations.
I don't want to be stopped at immigration one visit by an official who says to me "as a member of the ATS forum you are denied entry on the grounds that the site you contribute to has been deemed prejudicial to Thai culture & it's members are viewed as undesirable visitors."
Imagine if he punched my name into his computer & up came all my posts on here !!
Do you think that is an improbable leap?
Think again, though whether the Thai Govt would ever bother to do it, let no-one be uncertain that there isn't someone keeping a regular watch on the comings & goings of all posts & posters.
Most threads are completely harmless, the ones we should be concerned by are those that express extreme generalisations.
Not for a moment do I condone censorship but I do wish to see more studied opinions, rather than the sweeping statements that tar all with the same brush.
I have wanted to float my thoughts for awhile & I invite any contribution either for or against my theory.
I wish I could write that well, My TR would have been so much better !
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