Split Personalities

[newwriter]

Not trying to antagonise you. Genuinely interested

[stogie bear]

It was a surprise. I'm not home in the UK all that often (about a week a year) and I told them about the program and when it was on, etc.

I didn't 'consider' any consequences, actually. I just assumed that as it was my life (and I was 41 at the time!) it would just be something else that I did and it would be accepted. It wasn't and it's something that someone else has to reconcile themself with, not me.

It's not something I dwell on. I'm a big boy and way past caring what people think about how I run my life, whoever they are.

Like I say - I wasn't taking any risks. I'd have done the same thing regardless of what anyone thought. Hiding your life in shame isn't anyway to live.

[Monkey]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 13 2008,20:58) Hiding your life in shame isn't anyway to live.

Too many of us hide our little 'secret' through the fear of not being accpeted for who we are.

I don't deny it anymore if someone brings up the subject when talking about LOS, and fortunately most people I know kinda accept it when I explain that if you like somebody and they make you happy then what does it matter?

Some can't get their heads around it and others think I'm pulling their leg, and that's their problem not mine...

I'm tired of living my life how others think I should and I am trying to start living the life I want and not the one I fell into.
My only regret is that I didn't do it when I was 20.

I take my hat off to you Stogie.

[Grinder]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 13 2008,19:43) I owned a computer company in the US... sold it to build a house and buy a ranch  and a business in Mexico... Gave it all up for Kui.

I advertised my sexual preferences via TV doing a documentary for HBO. That's how my family found out about me and my preferences.

My mother hasn't spoken to me in six years. I have lost contact with my children. I have given up a great life and a fortune...

I still have no regrets.

You haven't got a fucking clue what you are talking about have you!

   

Stogie

I would love to have a beer with you next time I am over. Intriguing story mate.

That's all. Sound like a plan?

[Guest]

(Naang Faa @ Jan. 13 2008,22:21)

(newwriter @ Jan. 13 2008,20:05) I have damn near 50 years invested in my life and up until now (never say never) I refuse to turn my back on my parents, children, and job - for anything or anybody. I wouldn't lie about it. I just couldn't do it.

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That you have chosen to do otherwise makes you a more honourable lover but I am not sure I agree with your decision. have chosen thus far for myself has been any easier for me than the one you chose for yourself.

  I get the feeling it wasn't his decision to lose his family..
                                                                     Naang Faa
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Maybe not directly but I assume he would have realised the consequences of his actions.

Anyway as I haven't a fucking clue what I am talking about I'd better shut up.

[SwoonTV]

i think we can all read between these lines with a conscience and however ppl make their choices, it is clear to me what's right and what's not so right.

[stogie bear]

Maybe not directly but I assume he would have realised the consequences of his actions.

Well - I knew I'd have to start from scratch financially. But I don't think anyone imagines that their mother will reject their children.

[Guest]

i don't know why i feel the way i do about lady boys, my best friend knows of my interest, its still a confusing issue in my brain, even after many years of mixed emotions and failed relationships with women, i hate to label myself as this or that, i still find women attractive, and Thailand has some amazing women, but i still find i end up going with an LB!! I don't know how my family would react, i guess they might wonder why im not in a relationship at the age of 34? its difficult to be open about such things to parents!!

[stogie bear]

its difficult to be open about such things to parents

It sure is... Old peole are crap when it comes to what is going on in the world and how great it is to be open about who you like to shag!

If you are only a part time indulger of the dark side of ladyboy lovin' then there's no reason to share this information with anyone.

The complications start when you get more serious with them. If you are serious about a ladyboy you have to be serious about the impact of your relationship on the other people in your life that you love.

[Naang Faa]

(ajdon @ Jan. 15 2008,18:35) its difficult to be open about such things to parents!!

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I know how you feel
Naang Faa
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[newwriter]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 15 2008,19:04) The complications start when you get more serious with them. If you are serious about a ladyboy you have to be serious about the impact of your relationship on the other people in your life that you love.

How right you are. I am emotionally wrecked at the moment as I try to deal with a deep affection for a beautiful tranny and maintain my straight existence at the same time.

How easy it was when I was paying girls to shag me and buggering off the next day to places unknown.

This emotional attachment is a difficult thing to deal with. Guilt is murderous. Happiness is tough to define.

God that beer looks attractive right now.

[Guest]

I am emotionally wrecked at the moment

i know what you mean!

[newwriter]

Note to self. Stay away from sharp objects (like notebooks) after seven hours of drinking.

[mirimark]

I really don't think I have anything to worry about with my employer.
With my proven track record and Lack of any negative issues surrounding how I run my business and Knowing the type of people who are running the company from up top.

I really don't think anyone would ever say anything to me if they knew I was a
Fem/Bi/bottom/Homo/sissy. O.k. I know, A Little Too much information Huh?

Here in the U.S. there really isn't a whole lot an employer can do to anyone if you keep your personal life hidden. But on the other hand, if you go posting pictures of your Face for all to see a company can take action especially in my Line of work.

[strocube]

(stogie bear @ Jan. 13 2008,19:43) I owned a computer company in the US... sold it to build a house and buy a ranch  and a business in Mexico... Gave it all up for Kui.

I advertised my sexual preferences via TV doing a documentary for HBO. That's how my family found out about me and my preferences.

My mother hasn't spoken to me in six years. I have lost contact with my children. I have given up a great life and a fortune...

I still have no regrets.

You haven't got a fucking clue what you are talking about have you!

   

Dude, you got some brass cojones.