Ladyboy Slashed Wrist Syndrome...

[Guest]

Tonight I witnessed an LB attempt to slash her wrists with a broken bottle in the bar complex in Hua Hin for the simple reason that the customer whom she had been with the night before had chosen a different partner for the night. When I asked the LB I was sitting with why the girl would do this, she turned her own arm and showed me a line of scars from her wrist upwards, maybe 6 in all.

Now I have seen this on GGs also, and I think it is a good thing to check out before you take someone back to your place, for the simple and obvious reason that it is a slight indicator of their mental well being and a pointer of potential difficulties.

What I am curious to hear opinions on is why Thai's are so blaise about something like this. When it happens in the West, it is usually a sign of deeper mental problems I feel.

[manarak]

I assume the slashes were across the arm and not parallel to it (i.e. individual slashes were not going from the wrist in direction of the elbow)?

Assuming the slashes were not serious, I interpret this as the active attempt to make people notice her internal distress.

I'd guess this behavior is a thai/asian ersatz for breaking out in tears, since showing emotions in public is shunned.

Therefore, I wouldn't attach too much significance to that.

If you spot longitudinal scars - that's something else.

[perth_couple]

I've also seen this a million times... Check out any website on self-harming/cutting for clinical explanations as to the reasons why some people engage in the behaviour... That will probably go some way to explain why it's so prevelant amongst the demographic we tend to associate with in Thailand...

As for whether it's a Thai thing, I'm honestly unsure as to how much culture has to do with it.

Not that it doesnt, just never considered that aspect before

[Guest]

Interesting point and you are correct Manarak in the position, and it's been the same with all the "cases" I have seen. It is always across the arm, and it does appear to be a cry for attention of some sort.

[BAM]

No Joke, I found this on a help page for people that like cutting them self.



ALTERNATIVES TO SELF-INJURIOUS BEHAVIORS

Use washable red markers to "cut" on your skin
Place your hands in freezing cold water
Listen to music/relaxation tapes
Make a mourning wreath (start with black flowers and replace with colored flowers)
Repetitive reality checking (It's April 1997, and I'm going to be ok)
Negotiate with yourself
Get to know others
Recognize and acknowledge the choices you have NOW
Offer options
Carry tokens to remind you of peaceful comforting things/people
Create and use mental safe places (beach, cabin in the woods, peaceful mountain)
Get out on your own, get away from the stress
Help someone around you (reach out on a bb, newsgroup, phone list etc.)
Pay attention to the changes needed to make you feel safe
Count yourself down (10...9...8...7...)
Take a different perspective (different vantage point)
"I'm aware" Repeat 5 things you see, smell, touch, taste in your present surroundings to help ground you in the present
Pay attention to your breathing (breath slowly, in through your nose and out through your mouth)
Pay attention to the rhythmic motions of your body (walking, stretching, etc.)
Move to music
ASK FOR HELP
Ask yourself inside, what YOU need
Make affirmation tapes inside you that are good, kind, gentle (Sometimes you can do this by writing down the negative thoughts and then physically re-writing them into positive messages)
Journal
Touch Something familiar/safe
Draw
Put your feet firmly on the floor
Make something (craft, needlework, etc.)
Accept a gift from a friend
Meditate
Make a phone list of people you can call for support. Allow yourself to use it
Learn HALT signals (hungry, angry, lonely, tired)
Identify what is causing you pain (other than food)
Accept where you are in the process. Beating yourself up, only makes it worse.
Do something FUN!!!
Take a break from mental processing
Take a SAFE risk
Tear up paper (old phonebooks, newspapers, etc.)
Honor your present anger
Throw ice cubes at the bathtub wall, at a tree, etc.
Give yourself permission to.... (Keep it safe)
Lose the "should-could-have to" words. Try... "What if"
Choose your way of thinking, try to resist following old thinking patterns
Put memories in air tight containers with air tight lids
Notice black and white thinking
Connect with others around you. Call a therapist or friend.
Notice "choices" versus "dilemmas"
Keep in touch with others who are fighting the same fight
Check in with yourself and others frequently (try not to isolate)
Make yourself as comfortable as possible (Without using food)
Take a bath or a shower
Color in coloring books
Hold a stuffed animal
Write a poem
Leave the room
Leave the premises
Write a letter, NOT mailed, to the person or problem upsetting you
Play a musical instrument
Plan regular activities for your most difficult time of day
Call a hotline or support group
Listen to a comedy tape or video
Reality check old messages (Those you supply and those you hear others tell you)
Clean the house
Get out a fine tooth comb and vigorously brush the fur of a stuffed animal (but use gentle vigor )
Pull weeds in a garden
Plant flowers

[mister_smith]

Ah! Self harm always remember the parties I went to as a teenager there would always be some nutty bitch locking herself in the bathroom and slashing her wrists. Those were the days, Nowadays in the west if people want a bit of attention they claim to have a nut allergy, Fuckin Pussies.

Big up to the Thai's keeping it real

[PigDogg]

(BAM @ Oct. 30 2009,17:07) ASK FOR HELP

Yup, ask for help and talk about your despair before the stupidity.

[mardhi]

My first ever Thai GF did this about 10 years ago - its a wierd situation and one I would NOT hope to see again. she did it as a act of love - its really wierd for a farang to handle - I still dont know the answer but seen it many times since except its not been with me personally. By the way - its normally a superficial wound - but at the time of blood pouring - you dont really think about that especially as they then ALWAYS collapse from the broken heart etc.... Talk about Oscar winning performances......

Scary? Yes - life threatening ? No !!!!

Cheers
Mardhi

[Guest]

tell me about it

they do ya nut in with the emotional shit